I had a fantastic relationship with my ex-boyfriend, and we didn't experience any significant issues while we were dating. However, it didn't take long for my parents to learn that I was dating him and that we had started getting intimate. Due to this, my parents became overly protective of me to the point that there was no longer any privacy in our relationship. My parents began to distrust me and would frequently demand photos of me wherever I went. Of course, this has a negative impact on us both. At some point, our relationship just felt under extreme pressure, and we are no longer able to enjoy our dates. I had no idea that it hurt him more than I had expected. He constantly worries that something he does with me will unknowingly irritate my parents. By having to deal with my parents, who keep pressuring him to make decisions, he was literally torturing himself. He cares deeply about me, but he doesn't want to feel constrained by my parents when we are both still young and have a long way to go. He occasionally vented to his parents about this. They eventually began to feel uncomfortable about my parents because they could tell that the way things were going affected his mental state. My ex-boyfriend began to struggle to figuring out what he really wanted in his life. One day, his parents decide enough is enough with my parents' actions. They encourage my ex-boyfriend to make wise decisions and pick what's best for him. He immediately lost all motivation to continue with me when he realize that his parents were dissatisfied with our relationship. He soon chooses to leave me. By the time my parents agreed to give us some privacy, my ex realize there was no purpose in starting over. His parents were already aware that both of us were no longer in a romantic relationship, and they were pleased with his decision. He had also made the decision to put his own needs first. He then mentioned that he wants to love someone while feeling free before committing.
Most Helpful Opinions
He didn't dump you because his parents don't like yours. Him dumping you was because of the pressure your parents put on the relationship. He would have ended it soon anyway I think.1
Are you still living with your parents? It is really not easy to go against your parents in such a situation.
Maybe if his parents can pay for somewhere you can live together? It could be easier?6
What Girls & Guys Said
Well, it sounds like his parents are very influential in his life. Rest assured, you are far from the only person who has lost a relationship because their boyfriend's or girlfriend's parents did not like their boyfriend or girlfriend.10
in my opinion your parents completely sabotaged the relationship. By making it seem your incapable of making your own decisions. Nobody wants to be around helicopter parents.10
He didn't give up. He fought hard and eventually ended it to save his sanity. Your parents nearly broke him. He decided to save his mental state and that meant leaving you.1
Yes, our pack and/ clan define our Past Present and Future whether it be fair or not0
Sounds like some cultural bullshit to me. Find someone who isn’t a manchild capable of making adult decisions0
He's really silly. I could not imagine giving a single fuck what either my family or my girlfriend's family would think.2
Because his family is very important to him.1
He just has a different sense of value when it comes to family then you do. That said, there was nothing to give up on0
As long as you live with your parents, they can meddle and interfere to the point that joy is sapped from the relationship. As he tried to see into your future, did he have any reason to anticipate aything other than more of the same? What should he have seen that would give him a reason to hang in there?