My mistress wants to tell my wife about our affair?

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I'm married with no kids, and due to work schedules, my wife started losing interest in sex. I tried to flirt with her and take her out, but she is losing interest. 

I met another single woman, who I've been sleeping with for the last week. We have sex after work, and kiss/watch netflix/go to dinner. 

My mistress wants to tell my wife about our affair. And she said that I either leave my wife or she will tell my wife. How do i stop her?

Deepblue11 · Accepted Answer

Yikes! Im not going to judge you for this because I'm sure you know this is all extremely wrong but her ultimatum is her way of controlling this situation and getting you to pick her. She should know that the outcome of an affair with a married man rarely ends well, if I were you I would tell her that even if she broke up your marriage, it wouldn't make you want something serious with her if anything at all. And to be honest most women don't take this route a week into an affair. You need to get rid of this woman and decide what you want to do with your marriage, you owe your wife at least that.
Does she know your wife? How would she go about getting in touch with her?

Ziaegh · Accepted Answer

why are you here telling us about you being unfaithful? are you looking for sympathy? I dont know what you're expecting people to say to you. You cheated while being married because you lack communication and now its your time to face up to what you did. Obviously a marriage needs physical love but you should have just left her instead of being unfaithful and humiliating her. you can't just "meet another woman" when you're married. smh. And the obvious answer is you tell her yourself. its the least you can do. Silver lining is at least you won't come out of the marriage alone. you'll have your "mistress" .

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

Don't stop her. There's no reason as to why your wife doesn't deserve to figure out that your lack of self-restraint led to your sticking your dick in crazy, setting a horrible example for your children at the same time.

You obviously don't care about your wife but at the very least, spare your children from having you remain as their father-figure.

kat_gran · Accepted Answer

:) :) :) for you!  I hope you have a misery of a life!

Proof_Striker55 · Accepted Answer

You are in danger. Why didn't you talk with her before? İf your mistress like this type of person you shouldn't have hang out with her before. You did wrong man. I don't know what can you do? You should explain your mistress on what you want and what you don't want. You should be clear. Be careful.

MadeInAmerica · Accepted Answer

You should just tell your wife you cheated.

Rocket_Queen · Answer

Well you could kill her... but that might get messy for everyone... so...

Ya don't. This is the obvious thing that will happen with an affair. Best to tell your wife before she does. Either way ya lose. She tells her or you tell her. At least accept responsibility and go about as honest at possible at this point.

Sara413 · Answer

You made your bed so now it's time to lie in it. There's nothing you can do except tell her yourself.

Daniel961 · Answer

You can't. Divorce your wife. You obviously don't care about her enough since you turned to another woman. You didn't try hard enough to solve the issue at hand and she didn't put effort either. All of that shows you're not compatible/ meant for each other.

666threesixes666 · Answer

Ladies how is he a piece of shit? SHE lost interest, SHE doesn't care about flirting, or dates. By my count it's the wife that's a piece of shit. Neglect is abuse.

Tell her the wife's already checked out, the truth.

ModernDayCrusader · Answer

Cyanide... JK lol!

Tell your mistress, that it would ruin your life, if told your wife, and that you are waiting for the right time to break the news to her.

Say, you want to make sure you are legally secure before asking for a divorce.

Now, you can slowly start separating yourself from this mistress.

This_is_my_username · Answer

LOL. I hope she does. No woman deserves a back-stabbing cheating man like you. I hope she finds out and does better. Shame on you for not having more self-restraint -.-

Intraluminal · Answer

You can't. If you're not happy with your wife then leave her while there are no kids involved.

madhatters4 · Answer

just try to appeal to sensibilities beg her not to potentially ruin your marriage

but the simple fact is you deserve what you get. you did the crime so now you may have to do the time. sorry not sorry man

Anonymous · Answer

Hm well tell your wife... but i highly doubt she will if she tells I'm sure you won't want to be with her anymore and if she likes you then she's probably threating you so you can do it instead of her. But who knows she may be serious and tell. Hard decision but something has to be done.

WillowTree · Answer

Just a week? Tell your wife and suffer the consequences or tell your wife about this crazy ass stalker that won't leave you alone and have a good laugh.

AzureGirl · Answer

By telling her yourself obviously.

Anonymous · Answer

Tell her (at least partly) and accept to leave her. Or leave your mistress (would be a good idea anyway because she tries to blackmail you).
I have helped many with relationship problems and this way turned out best. This way you can at least control somehow what your wife and the public will know about what you did and it's better to tell yourself than letting outers find out.

Shigeno · Answer

You should have divorced your wife before sticking your dick in another. You can't have a cake and eat it.

brain5000 · Answer

Tell her if she does, you'll never speak to her again. It is an act of betrayal and you refuse to allow her to benefit from it. Say it and mean it, and if she tells, follow through with the threat.

LaVilaine · Answer

Tell your wife about the affair. She told you exactly what to do.

SarahsSummer · Answer

After 1 week she wants to be your new mate? Drop the crazy chick, confess to your wife and try to work out the problems in therapy.

Vesuvius87 · Answer

Let her tell your wife so she can know what a cheating, bastard you are. In fact your wife is very lucky that she's not have any kids with you.

orphan · Answer

i find it funny why people bother explaining why they cheat or having affairs.

matheus_mb · Answer

There's nothing you can do now. If you end your affair she'll say it anyway.

Entruder · Answer

The only person you fucked was yourself. There's only one way this will turn out now.

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