my boyfriend of 1 month & 2 weeks broke up with me in January. it's been 3 months and we don't talk. the only time we're forced to be in contact with each other is in a class I share with him and we're seated next to each other. we broke up because we felt we acted too much like friends. it was basically the same routine every day, I guess. so we agreed to be friends. in the class we have together, I notice he stares at me a lot. almost constantly. and in the halls, he watches me go past. and in lunch, his table is on the opposite side of the cafeteria than mine, and he's been sitting at the table across from mine. and he'll even sometimes turn around and look at me, and quickly turn back around. I pretended like I don't notice these things, and kinda pretend it didn't happen. we are both really shy. it took all he had to ask me out. he's not the kind of guy that flirts with all the girls. in fact, I'm his first girlfriend. I just don't understand what's going on! I want to confront him about the situation and ask him where we stand, but I don't want to "rock the boat." I really think he still cares. so do my other friends. I just don't know what I should do about this. advice? (: thanks!
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First off... No problem about answer your question in more detail... I should have been more concrete... Hope this helps
Well I know from what you’ve said from you original question you’ve still noticed that he looks at you, and that’s the sign that he does care about you. So within your comment about worrying of how he’d react, I truly believe that he wouldn’t react badly at all. So I think how I’d approach it is, just tell him how you feel about him, and that you notice him just as much as he does, and that you want to work things out
Dear so, and so
It’s been so hard finding a way to express my feelings for you. It’s been so long sense we’ve talked. Three months has been so long for me to see you, everyday, and not say anything. I know there’s a lot to say, and neither of us are expressing how we feel. I’ve been trying to figure out a way to talk to you, but am so nervous (what ever the feeling may be) about talking to you. I’m writing this letter to express how much I want our relationship to work, not only getting back together as we once where, but to make our friendship more concrete, because I know that’s what it takes in order for us to get back together……
Now that’s really an example of what you may want to address, and of course more of how your feeling, but try to express how you’ve been feeling without him, and remind him of the good times in which you’ve shared, and then at the end express how much you want to talk to him more in person, and that you’d love to hear what he’s been thinking, and feeling these past months…. I hope that helps answer that question. Because overall you can’t just write to him every time you want to talk to him, you need to break the ice within you as well. You’ve mentioned you have problems as well getting up the courage to talk to him, but this might give you more incentive to.0