I just got dumped from a 9 month on/off relationship a week ago. My ex jumped right in a relationship with another guy.
We were never officially together, but we did have a connection going on very intimate level.
Well the breakup happened at a very bad time (I'm having trouble with my business, family member is ill, car broke down...). My ex knows about this.
The thing is she keeps asking me "how are you doing?". And I text/call back saying "I'm fine". And she says she's concerned about me. I'm trying to "fake it until I make it" because I need to stay tough/strong.
The hopeful/naive part of me wants to believe she still has some feelings. However the cold truth is maybe she has little/no interest in me and is just feeling guilty. I also told her straight up I am not interested in being just friends. Friend categories are for chumps...I got more self respect than that.
I guess part of me wants to be brutally honest to her next time she asks "how am I doing".
When she dumped me she gave me a list of excuses why we weren't meant for each other...but the real reason is she is no longer interested. I really want to hear that reason instead of a bunch of bs. I'm angry about being lied to, even though she was trying to lay me down with gentle hands. She also said at one point "you are very sensitive guy" and that also leads to me to believe that she lost interest.
I will admit that I REALLY want her to talk to me although its over. I know its best to get the hell out of this and ignore her. Easier said than done.
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She misses you, but it really sucks if a guy is going through a tough time, and the relationship is fresh. Especially if the guy is depressed. Think of it this way, you meet a girl, and she just seems to have a lot to deal with. A lot of times, the newness of the relationship will not sustain the connection through the drama. Whoever she is seeing right now obviously is relatively drama free. Keep it positive around her, even through messages. It was on and off and that's a big thing. The reason why she never changed her status is because she was still deciding if she wants to stick around. It's weird how she would do it for other guys during your "off" times!
You will get past this, but please don't fall apart in front of her. Just be glad that she's shown you that she's not going to stick around when the chips are down. She is not there for you, and though she asks if you are okay, don't let it fool you. She dumped you when you really needed her. Just wait and see if she wants to all of a sudden see you once everything picks up. Do not ignore her, rather vent elsewhere. I you get the urge to text her, rather write it down in a notebook and keep it to yourself. Not just regarding her, but everything else. It really helps, because you force yourself to release the emotion you feel that way. Hope a girls perspective helps!1