Is this the truth, or is she letting me down easy?

[soxfan94]

There is a girl that I've been slowly going after for the last few months. I haven't been rushing anything, and just letting things move slowly since I can't get a good read on the situation and how she feels. (Some of you may remember I had a question about whether or not she thought that us going to a Phillies game was a date or just friends. Yeah, same girl).

Anyway, I'd given up on putting forth all the effort because she wasn't reciprocating any of my subtle indications, and it seemed like we were just friends. I stopped getting in touch with her as much. Then out of nowhere, she asked to meet up for lunch the other day and at lunch asked me to come down to her shorehouse for the 4th of July. Call me crazy, but it seemed like maybe she was interested again.

So I went down there and we hung out and she got really drunk and while she was, she asked me why I cam down there when I could have had other plans. I told her that I wanted to see her, and I figured it would be worth seeing what worked out, and I admitted that I was into her.

Long story short, we sat there for like 2 hours while she kept telling me that I'm too good for her and she doesn't have her life together and I do so there's no way that she should be with me.

My question is: Is she just saying this to let me down easy, or is this a legitimate reason that she's offering?

Seems to me like it's the first of the two.

[vmw2008]

Oh this is a tough one. I would need to know more about you two to give you a really good answer. But the way I look at it, she could be letting you down easy.but if she didn't like you, she wouldn't have invited you to go to her shorehouse. Honestly, when I don't like a guy.i don't invite him anywhere! lol So I don't think that's it. However, this girl seems to have self esteem issues if she's saying all that stuff about herself. She might be fishing for you to reassure her she's good enough.to build up her self esteem. If you're okay with this then go for it. But I don't think you'll stay interested in her for long if she's constantly thinking she's never good enough for you.

[soxfan94]

Yeah I completely agree, I wouldn't be interested in someone who thought they weren't good enough for me. The thing is that she never acts like that, that's why it was sort of outta nowhere when she said it. There were a lot of things that seemed to contradict each other, but I'll have to see how things play out. Thanks for the feedback.

[cookyfluke]

I honestly think that she's telling the truth. She was a bit tipsy, so normally when someone's drunk the truth tends to come spilling out. If she wasn't in to you, she would have reacted differently. What you want to do is let her know that you still want to be friends and that you have no intention of your differing feelings get in the way of a good friendship. Be there for her through the hard times. I am positive she'll pull through. :)

[soxfan94]

Yeah she was talking about a bunch of other serious (but non-related) things that night too, I agree that the drunkenness seemed to be working its usual magic and bringing out the truth. So maybe she really does think that, and I'll be able to tell her that I don't think that's true. And if that's the only reason she's being hesitant, maybe that'll solve the problem. Thanks.

[sammyangel9991]

she probably actually does think you are out of her league and that's why she hasn't made a move on you.