I'm floored and weirded out and I just don't know what to do or how to feel. I was really paranoid last night and asked him if he was hiding anything from me. He said yes and I instantly believed he cheated so I pressed him to tell me what it is.
I didn't expect what came out of his mouth. He said that from when he was 14-18, he regularly had sex with his sister (who is a year younger). They're full biological siblings.
I love him but this just makes me see him differently. To even be capable of that... is he right in the head? Is this a major red flag? I can't even FATHOM sleeping with my brother (I just gagged typing it). And he did it for 4 years.
Most Helpful Guy
For most of us, incest is not something which we would be capable of doing. For him, it is on the realm of possibilities. Imagine that you marry this guy, you have a daughter, and you need to leave for a week and he and your 13 year old daughter will be alone in the house. How do you feel about that situation? And if you can't tolerate that thought, and this relationship can't lead to anything that you would want to make permanent, then why waste more time on this guy?2
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Most Helpful Girl
Up to you. I wouldn't ever date somebody who commited incest. That is psychologically not correct with that. Plus if your gagging with typing it, that should a be clear sign to say sayounara! Because you will regret staying with him longer, you won't drop it, and you will have a hard to forgetting or forgiving for that in the past. If you can't handle it, move on. If he regrets it and repents of it, it's up to you to give him a chance. Everybody has a past, but it's not your job to tolerate it. This is what dating is for. To find out who your dating. At least he's honest. You can at least hold him to that.0