OK, so my boyfriend left me the first time around because he could not commit to me. We stayed in touch and stayed friends. Then a year later he declares he is in love with me and wants to try again. He then changed his mind a week later. Obviously I was upset and angry but the sad thing is we are now no longer friends as he says he does not want to stay in touch because he says its not fair on me. I admit I was totally cut up after he changed his mind but now a few months later, I miss our friendship. How can I reach out to him? And why has he cut all contact when I did nothing?
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Don't do it! I had one like this. He really messed me around and kept coming and going as he pleased. Don't get in contact with him. Give yourself some space and time to realize that there are better men out there. Go on a free dating site just to read other guys' profiles. Whenever you see an interesting one, remember it as proof that there are other guys out there. No guy is out of your league - you are either both interested, or you're not both interested, and that's all that matters. in this case, you're not both interested. You need to find a guy who'll be straight with you. It'll just get worse - either he'll keep confusing you because he doesn't know if he wants to try again, or because you may find you're actually wanting to be friends with him because somewhere in you, you still want to be with him. With exes staying friends, it generally either works or it doesn't. I have two exes and they're polar opposites as far as that's concerned. One is a great friend, the other I've had to call the police on. He's the one that messed me around and didn't know whether he wanted to try again and all sorts. Yours may not be as severe as mine, but the bottom line is, it's not worth it. You don't need the friendship of someone who's going to keep messing you around.0