Why didn't your last relationship work out?

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  • It lasted maybe two months, if that.

    I don't think there is enough room to go over all the issues. But the basics:

    She would insult me (but I wouldn't / couldn't insult her)... and if I told her not to insult me, she'd ignore me and keep doing it. she got way too intense way too fast, threatened a platonic girl friend of mine (found out after the break up). She would be best friends with a girl one minute, but in private be extremely nasty about them...

    She kept claiming she would have made a great mom, and that she adored children... then I saw her around a few kids... she would scream these children over the smallest things (or what I thought were non issues). She'd turn on a dime over the littlest things. I'd be screamed at for any perceived offense.

    The little bit of enjoyment and fun wasn't worth all the red flags and signs. Basically, it was becoming less and less fun or "worthwhile" to work through... So I broke up with her.

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  • We were only together for a few weeks but I absolutely adored him. The issue was both of our mental states. I was really insecure that he didn't actually like me and he never reassured me or tried to prove it and it really messed me up. He dumped and told me he needed to fix himself so he could commit 100%. He acted like we were still kind of together while talking to other girls and such and then I told him to get fucked because he stressed so much about me not being loyal (I've never even had a proper boyfriend until him!!). After he dumped me we did things together I had never done with anyone else and then I found out he was totally fucking with me. I was sick of having a one sided relationship, I don't want to be treated like shit all the time and then expected to treat him well.

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  • It lasted two years. I was in love with her but she was not in love with me. I broke up because I want to be with someone who loves me.

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  • I have never been in a relationship before but I am not trying to brag but I would say potentially at least 6-8 girls were potential girls I could have been with but it never panned out that and I think it's a combination of both things, she was immature and I was immature.

    When I was younger it was the classic case of - Girl wants to date a bad boy, I was the nice guy, got pushed aside. Then I tried to reinvent myself, talk to more girls, be confident but don't bend backwards for them and it worked, more girls showed subtle clues that they liked me but I never took the hint, they got frustrated and moved on, by the time I started gaining more confidence and learning from my mistakes and going after these girls they basically said "I took too long".

    Now that I learned from my mistakes that a relationship or even if you are dating is not a 1-sided affair, it involves communication, physical attraction, personality, don't get so worked up over little pointless arguments, think your arguments through (i. e - if you're mad at someone, don't just lash out at them, give it a day or 2 so you can calm down) those were things I have learned and I think it's made me a better person.

    I take life more seriously in a religious aspect with God, with grad school, with trying to understand the other person and apologize if I upset them in any way and rectify those mistakes. Humans are not perfect but we should try to learn from those mistakes in order to become better individuals.

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    • I honestly wish my ex thought like this. He got mad when I tried to talk about the problems in our relationship and hung up on me or stop replying to my texts. I in no way was trying to argue it was just a communication thing and he totally shut me out which really fucked with my emotions..

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    • @Lilbbg Thanks, same to you, finding someone is not easy. I thought dating apps would work but I am not a fan of dating apps.

    • Dating apps aren't genuine enough. Try to find someone organically. It'll happen if it's meant to.

  • 2 Years. She said her feelings changed, she needs a break, "its not you, its me"

    1 Week later her feelings did change, she didn't need a break, she was already with her next boyfriend.

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    • "2 Years. She said her feelings changed, she needs a break, "its not you, its me"

      It seems like it's standard on all relationships. LOL

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    • My last one after 1 year was "idk what who i am... i need to find myself" i said "okay so go find yourself without me" (of course she wanted that). And i and a week later I found myself laughing at such cynicism.

      "The problem it's me not you" it's a Classic too... to common, but we need to move on and don't look back.

    • @didigo182

      Thats exactly what I did, I said "I am doing fine thank you, what do you wish to achieve by getting in contact with me now?" Her miserable reply to that was "didn't watch to achieve anything, just wanted to see how you are thats all" ... I guess she realised she wasn't gonna go far with me or just wanted to test the waters ;D

  • My relationship with my hand started when I was 12, and is still going strong. I've never even once cheated on my hand. Girls find me extremely undesirable, so I think my hand and I will be together forever.

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  • It wasn't a relationship. It was 8 years ago but she slept with at the time my best friend and sucked him off, etc. They kept it a secret from me for awhile then it blew up at school. I was a fool. O don't talk to either anymore, not cause of a grudge but it's been almost a decade lol. I'm cool

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  • 12yrs and 7 of that we were married.

    It didn't workout because after she had a baby (ours) her hormones went all screwy and suddenly it was like a "I don't like my husband anymore" light switch.
    That being said after a few months everything about me from my walk to the sound of my voice annoyed her until we broke up.

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  • we were together about 6 or 7 months. i broke up with her because i felt we had very different maturity levels

    side note: a week later i met the girl who'd become my wife

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  • She passed after 12 years. I'm re-married now. Only 4 altogether and two were marriages since I was 18 . The first two were long lasting relationships which eventually just didn't work out in the long run. All the women tho , were very nice and usually pleasant to be around.

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  • She was trying to take advantage of me, of course I was too smart for her to have any success and I was very satisfied when I dumped her

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  • She was more interested in spending my money, and figured dangling sex as happening soon (but not yet) would keep working.

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  • My last relationship didn't really work out because it didn't exist !

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  • I took an overseas job instead of staying with her.

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  • Her friends and family didn't like me. We were together about 7 months.

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    • Why didn't they like you?

    • Her friends and family were really religious and we slept together a lot and thought we were having a baby, so she told them. Big mistake! They grilled her non stop about my being a bad influence. So that was that.

  • My ex was extrordinarily violent to me, to such an extent that it landed me in the hospital. I ended it after that.

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  • She cheated on me when we had exact 6 months because i couldn't come one weekend

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  • She went back to Japan and was here on a 12 month study visa. Must of been with her 6-7 month's.

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  • She abused me.

    She didn't care about me.

    She didn't put in much effort and appreciation.

    i Leave her.

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  • 13 days (it was semi long distance) she ended it because she couldn't deal with distance

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  • Almost two years. Reason: my guess would be cause of lack of physical tension.

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  • It had been 2 years of infatuation when we realized that we were not meant for each other. I had found my career, she was floundering about in college, going back and forth between majors. I wanted sex and eventually a family, she wanted to wait until marriage, but she didn't want to get hitched for another 2-4 years. Despite her petite frame, she had bad eating habits that wreaked havoc on her body: she even went to the hospital with malnourishment: she only ate pizza, burgers, and fries, and never any veggies.

    In the end, there was too much that separated us.

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  • He had mental issues. And a drinking problem. Turns out he was also on probation for drug offences. Most people probably think he was some 'hot bad boy'. Uh no. Not at all. He was your typical nice guy and nerdy (which I Iike). He was fairly cute but nothing extreme. Not ripped or anything like that. If you met him you wouldn't think he was anything BUT a nice guy. He seemed really sweet. He was funny. He was also divorced and would tell people about his ex. Everyone felt sorry for him because she seemed awful. But then I noticed how his stories always changed when it was just him and me instead of a crowd. I would tell him "Wait you said she did THIS not THAT" and he would be all "Oh I did? Hmm. I don't remember... No no she didn't do that" He would totally exagerate and make the story way more dramatic when telling it to a group (he was into acting as well so he's good at that stuff). Then I ended up talking to some of their mutual friends and they all told me HE was the crazy one, NOT her. That he did all this bad crap during their marraige.

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  • He moved abroad for work and school. He felt that we were both young and he really wanted to accomplish himself as a person; he felt that being in a relationship had made him feel so comfortable that it hindered his drive to explore the options of who he could become. It sucked as I had really wished we could have grown together as individuals, but distance was also a factor in making things not work out. We were together for 2 years and 4 months.

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  • We were together just under a year.

    I moved home because I was finished with school. I didn't want to stay in his province. He couldn't legally work in mine without going back to school himself. Neither of us wanted to do the long distance thing. He's a good noodle. I hope he finds a nice girl/mom for his cat.

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  • He decided to believe someone who was known for lying over me. We were together for 7 months ish. Before him i was with a guy for a week and a bit but he left me to go back to his abusive ex. Before that was my first boyfriend, we were together for 4 years, he left me because he met someone else and wanted to be with her

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  • 5.5 years, neither him nor his kids respected me & my kids & belongings, talked down to me all the time, didn't get along with my family... emotional/mental abuse. And he threw me to the ground 3 too many times!!

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  • Because he moved away, and never made any effort to reach out to me and communicate like he promised. I was putting in all of the effort by calling him once a week, no answer. He then suddenly had a girlfriend when we talked about 3 months later (after the breakup)

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  • Last one before my current relationship only lasted a few months. Broke up because he clearly did not like who I was as a person and kept trying to change me and was always judging me for stupid shit. Didn't take long before I'd had enough and called it quits.

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  • It didn't work out because we had fundamentally different needs. I needed more space and alone time, she wanted to be together all the time. In the end, the relationship ended up exhausting and unfulfilling for us both. After a year we just decided to end it.

    There were a few tears when we broke up, but all in all it was a bit of a relief. We're still amiable.

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  • I had too many issues in other departments of my life. Had to deal with my bpd mother and was really insecure. After we broke up i tried fixing things with him too hard and that eventually destroyed any chances of a possible reconcilation...

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  • I was his rebound but thankfully he was mine too. We where together for about 5 months. He thought I loved him and contacted me a few years ago to apologise which I thought was nice. Thankfully he didn't cause me any pain nor I him.

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  • I was with my first so called boyfriend for 1 full month but I had to break up with him cuz he called me names just because I was spending time together with my siblings they are younger then me
    And he also played with my feelings
    And etc

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  • He didn't have any drive, career-wise. He was older than me and dropped out of college. I thought I could look past it but I couldn't.

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  • We were at a new years party in philly just hanging out playing games and he decided He didn't like my friends. And said they didn't include him when they did talk to him he said barley anything, and sat on his phone the entire time. Then he left me there. A 4 hour drive home he just left me and I had to find a ride home. We were together almost a year.

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  • I wouldn't consider it a relationship. But it lasted for about like 4 months. It wasn't bad, we just grew apart. We both had shit going on in our own lives. So I had to broke it off so I could focus on my own shit.

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  • 2 months. Turns out he only dated me because he didn't want to hurt my feelings by rejecting me since I liked him. 🙄

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  • I was 14 and it lasted 3 days because the boy dated me out of pity and then told everyone we weren't dating. Nearly 10 years later, he still avoids me.

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  • 7 months. He was a good guy but sadly I wasn't in love with him. It was very difficult for me to break up :(

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  • Two months. We clicked, had an amazing connection, had lost in common, and everything but it just couldn't work out because of distance. We're still friends, and there is still feelings but we're being rational about it.

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  • Because he never actually asked me out. We were friends for two years but in high school I was too timid to ask anyone out

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  • 5 and a half years.

    Turns out he was a lying, cheating paeophile!

    Not sure how this is helping your life.

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