He had a lot of concerning behavioural patterns I later identified as chronic laziness, lack of responsibility, and complete and utter incompetence.
He thought renting a barren apartment with the same bed (and sheets) for 15 years was "competent".
Buttered Noodles was literally his finest cooking achievement.
His bad habits ended in him chronically lying to me about things he said he would do, but wouldn't. This went even into his work, and I was a sort of second manager to him (despite being LDR and working in an entirely different field). He ended up leaving because the alternative was getting fired.
Ultimately, it culminated in the last straw: he didn't have his immigration lined up. We'd been dating for nearly 3 years and he told me for months leading up to his attempted move that he had his immigration all lined up.
Canadian Border Security determined that was a lie. He'd applied once in '19, let it lapse, never called anyone, never followed up, never did anything else.
I left him with the ring when I returned back home, and after thinking for a few weeks and talking with friends, family, and my therapist, I broke up with him a few weeks later.
I'm getting used to my new place, slowly filling it up, and my new job continues to go well. I haven't spoken to him, but mutual contacts have informed me he still lives in his mother's basement (he let his lease go thinking, I don't know, moving to a new country was like moving to a new state), he's been falling victim to conspiracy theories (he's going full on American White Boy and leaning hard into 4chan autism), and even snapping at his old friends to the point they're considering cutting him off.
Basically, my ex-fiancé showed me he was the stereotypical entitled and oblivious American White Boy when he thought he'd landed a mommy girlfriend.
Fuck that shit, this mommy's keeping her money and independence. I'm childfree for a damn reason.
My last serious relationship didn’t work out for many different reasons.
My ex boyfriend was very emotionally immature, he couldn’t maintain a healthy stable relationship and ended up sabotaging it multiple times. He was a liar from the start, he always had a story behind every lie, but he felt guilty after some time.
He would break up with me, blame it on me, nitpick everything about me, and make me think that I needed to change and fix myself for whatever fault he saw in me. It was pressured to the point where I would try to find the faults, try to change, and “prove” to him that I changed so he would take me back. Reality was, I had nothing to change except my naivety and lack of boundaries.
It took me a little over a year, 2 break ups, and that last break up for me to realize that I cannot keep going back to him. I set up boundaries, I did research, I stood my ground, and I didn’t let him back in. I had absolutely no idea, but everything he was doing was emotional abuse and he purposely did it to knock down my confidence and keep me wrapped around his finger, just so he could feel better about himself.
It’s unfortunate, I did love him, but what he did changed me forever and I learned a lot of lessons. I think this experience was a blessing, and as much as it hurt me and changed me, I don’t regret it.
She was very flaky, self centered, and toward the end I saw some big red flags that I couldn’t just ignore. I’m no angel, but I do respect others until they give me a reason not to. She did not respect anyone. The day I broke up with her, she had made fun of my mom for not wearing “enough makeup” to a baby’s baptism. She never even met my mom and I was only showing her a picture. I broke up with her that same day after lots and lots of incidents of that nature.
My last relationship didn’t workout because she wasn’t used to a committed relationship with a person who doesn’t yell and actually tried to work with them. She thought that was healthy for a couple to yell offensive things at each other then cool off and come back and forget the whole situation even happened.
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u She was an alcoholic with no real probability of changing in the future.
She thought she was entitled to harass me and show her emotions while I follow her like a dog.
After that relationship, I lost all faith in young girls and I will never ever date a girl that is younger than myself.
Mature and older woman (late 20s and 30s) are far better than any inexperienced, stupid, annoyingly playful, emotional over every little speck of dust and irrational YOUNG girl.
I never had a relationship but had some experiences quite similar. I never had a friend of the opposite gender back then. Met a girl at university, and both of us were from the same hometown living thousands of miles apart. So we became friends easily. I used to live alone and cook all by myself. She started coming for home-cooked food, and many times she told me that she liked me. I never had any experiences with girls back then. During that time she came to me being sick and stuff and I took care of her waking up all night, cooked for days and stuff. I thought she actually liked me so I asked her properly. She said no, it turned out she already had multiple sex partners and told me guys like us are only good after the thirties. Guys are not valuable without money, since I am still in my studies, I don't date anymore. Everyone around me is like that.
My previous boyfriend and I both moved into a dorm, and being anxious introverts we used each other as a crutch and missed out on a lot of experiences. He started shutting off, and would have nothing to say when we hung out. He was quite stubborn and could seem seflish, and we started losing our spark. I think we just both grew to be incompatible, and I couldn't take it anymore so I broke it off.
I’ve only really had two serious relationships that sadly had to end because of of codependency. It was as bad as they did not want to work, had to sense of direction or want to get out of bed, and depended on me to solve their issues when I couldn’t. The unfortunate thing is I sabotaged it in a way by not solving the problems within the relationship in order for them to end it so they feel better about them selves.
He was pushy and i didn't want to move as fast as he did. Then when i felt ready to, he randomly said he didn't see us working out. It was all just a game to him but its whatever because i was lying to myself anyways ig
Timing.
The military can put amazing people in your life and then tank them away in a flash. That's one reason why you see so many marriages in haste in the military.
I cheated
If I told you why, you'd think I was a Diick.
Ironically, she still let's me fuuck her whenever I want, but we were apart for a few months first.
A couple of reasons, however mainly compatibility is reason I ended it.
At the same time totally destroyed the chance of one with someone else.
She is chronically ill, I live an active/busy life, she simply couldn't keep up with me. I tried everything to accomodate her, but she left because she couldn't handle it.
He was very controlling. We weren't good together. He secluded me from my friends and family and was very insecure. I like him better as a friend than a boyfriend.
Two different places in our lives is a good way to put it, they had major depression. It was no one's fault.
I've been married for 32 years, been together for about 35
I ended up breaking things off with a Korean women. She was fun, but kind of a gold digger and I didn't like that vibe.
She would hit me, and mess with me psychologically. I have issues I’m working on now and hope that I can fix, broke up a month or 2 ago
He thought he was god. I thought he was delusional.
She was too wishy washy. Pick a lane and stick with it.
He was controlling, immature, toxic af, and a cheater. Pussy ass mf
Caught my ex messing with birth control medicine so I dump him.
he moved and longterm wasn't working
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