Hi girl I had similar situation with u. I'm in Australia by myself, my boyfriend chance me, when we together , I ask him more than 10times, how about I pregnant? He promise we gonna keep the baby , be a family. So I trust him. When my mum come to here visit us, he said the same thing to my mum. But after a few months my mum go. I find out I pregnant , he don't want the baby. Then he promise me he will marry me and have more kids in next 2 years if I go to do abortion. Even he know I want keep the baby. We argue a lots on this, but I still want be with him, the thing he promise me are too beautiful. Then I did abortion. But he totally change at the second day after I did abortion. He want break up with me. Then The the third day he pack all my stuff when I not home (we live together) . And tell me to fuck off. Don't want talk to me, don't want see me.i even don't know where I can go. Body still feel bad. It just happen a few days ago. So I can understand the feeling. If he break up with me before I did abortion, I won't that sad. I want keep my baby. Only thing we can do, just be strong, love ourselves more.
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My boyfriend left me after my abortion, he didn't know how to handle my emotions anymore. This was three months ago. I still don't know what to do with myself. He left me at the WORST possible time; exams, coursework, abortion, illness...add on heartbreak and I could have finished myself off right there and then...
I'm hoping it gets better, but right now I'm really not sure.
What a jerk. If you say you're gonna do something, do it! I dislike people doing that. Good thing you didn't have his kid. Good riddance I say. Find someone that makes you happy. Karma will take care of him.
I had a very similar situation as far as my girlfriend having an abortion for medical reasons however she didn't tell me until the procedure was over, she told me over the phone. I had never been happier than when she told me she was pregnant even so I would have supported her decision because of her medical state. I was so p*ssed about how everything went down but I didn't take it out on her. Our relationship only lasted another four months. You don't deserve this put it behind you as best you can and find someone that will treat you right. Take care
I have experienced an abortion. :(
My woman didn't want the child, our relationship was just starting, and I immediately became attached to the baby.
The day of the surgery, I was so stressed out that I passed out in the waiting room, although we had conversations of the situation, and I was in agreement of the abortion. something in me died too.
I believe it also killed our relationship.
Maybe it affected him more than he thought.
I would talk to his mother, if I were you.
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I'm sorry. I know I had nothing to do with it, but I'm sorry. No matter what the need, desire, or cause, or personal belief, the loss of a baby is a difficult and sad time. Undoubtably, the father is grieving. As are you.
We all deal with grief differently... there's a good chance that the relationship is permanently damaged. However, if you want to work at it - and he wants to work at it - definitely look into counseling. Guided communication is necessary for both your sakes.
If the relationship is, in fact, over, please consider counselling for yourself. This is difficult and you made a difficult choice. Now it is time to care for yourself.I'm sorry. He has treated you badly. But the relationship is clearly finished and somehow you have to move on with your life.
Don't wait for him to come back and even if he tried to I think you deserve better. Maybe use online dating to try and meet someone new? Or even meet new girl friends you can confide in?It’s probably his true feelings coming out about the abortion. Abortion is a horrible thing that can scar people and it sounds like he is dealing with that. I’m sorry to hear. Prayers🙏🏼
sometimes under pressure people's true colors come out, he's a jerk and your better off without him.
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