My "boyfriend" told me to, "Go ahead and just kill myself!" We broke up, so why won't he stop calling & texting me to make me feel bad?

[alliekatXXO]

Just a little bit of background, I have both PTSD and severe depression with lots of prior abuse--of every sort--from people that were supposed to love me unconditionally. Last night, my boyfriend and I got into a nasty fight, and I said that I just wanted to be dead and he yelled back, "Go ahead and kill yourself, then." It took a lot for me to open up to him about my past, and he's the first person I ever had sex with, so I had a huge emotional bond with him. He claims to love me unconditionally and I really tried giving the relationship my all, and how can you say something like "go ahead and kill yourself" to someone that you claim to love unconditionally, especially when you know they have depression and PTSD. Throughout our relationship, he would create all of these rules for me and expect me to follow them. So, when I pointed out that he was being abusive, he kept making me out to be the bad guy and told me that I was abusive. That was last night, and it's a day later and he has been harassing me all day via text and calls. Even if I block one number, he just uses a different phone or a friends phone. I haven't even replied to any of his texts, and I don't know why he can't leave me alone and stop treating me poorly.

[rubberboy47]

First of all... dont give on life... its just one life you get... you make good choices and make it beautiful... everyone has their ups and down dear. You are into him, you love him and had sex got emotionally dependent and you tried your best dear! You won't ever have guilt that you didn't tried your best. Now yr boyfriend claims to love you unconditionally which i doubt because he is setting up rules for you , abuses you and does all sorts of things... he is definitely hit by his men side egoism thats why he is trying to hurt you... as you are not respknding he egosim is getting mainstream... i suggest you share this with someone incase he goes too far... I suggest be with yr family and close friends,... and dont think too much about what he said... it does'nt matter... he is losing one faithfull person it is his loss... and you are losing one negative person its yr gain... be with the people you accept you, love you, car about you, respects you and trusts you... even if it is one person its okay... all you need is one who will stick with you lifetime... rather than having many people showing their backs at difficult times.

[ISeeTrees]

Actions speak louder then words. It's not a great sign when your boyfriend's behavior can best be described by terms in psychology which describe people with personality disorders.

He says he loves you unconditionally- that's a lie. True unconditional love means you love a person despite receiving nothing in return.

He says you abuse him- gaslighting.

He's aggressive, angry, and harasses you.

I would block him on the phone and never talk to him again. Whether he truly lacks empathy and has a personality disorder or he's a mean unpleasant person you're better off breaking it off entirely.

[ISeeTrees]

I forgot the part where he told you to kill yourself. This guy needs to be checked out by a psychologist, he seriously lacks the ability to empathize with others

[Malifcent14]

He doesn’t have the right to treat you like crap, trust me, I was abused too, and I’ve been told to kill mussels too. I’ve tried it but I just couldn’t do it, there are a lot of people on here who’ll give you amazing answers, and will help you, and they might even want to be your friend. I’ve met great people on here, one amazing guy in fact (not gonna say). Just forget about him, and block every number he uses, or better yet, get a new cell phone number.

[xXiTacoXx]

You need to get a restraining order against him in court, or file a complaint against him for abuse.

[xXiTacoXx]

https://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Restraining-Order

[BellePepper]

Kudos to you Taco!!!

[xXiTacoXx]

Also, save any messages he sends you as evidence.

[xXiTacoXx]

@BellePepper I just hope she doesn't live with the creep, and if she does I hope she can stay with someone who wouldn't mind her living with them.

[BellePepper]

*fingers crossed*

[alliekatXXO]

Thankfully, I don't live with him, and I think it would be best to get a restraining order, so thank you for linking me all that. He's threatened to break into my parents house and my apartment, but it's not in writing, so can that still be used?

[xXiTacoXx]

Hopefully it can be used, but remember to save any and all threatening messages he sends you. Also, look up the laws in your state to know what procedures to take in order to file for a restraining order against him, and never be afraid to call the cops if he comes around you and harasses you even further.

[EroticaT66999]

Are you kidding me? A girl told me to kill myself and I actually tried, shot myself in the neck with a compressed co2 gun, I have 8 copper bbs stuck in my neck and I’m glad I missed the artery. Tell this fuck bitch gayboy to leave you alone and get someone to fuck him up. Seriously dude needs to get jumped.

[EroticaT66999]

I have had depression also my entire life and the fact that he knew and said that... just wtf!! Tell people.

[HammerSwain]

That's pure harassment. If you truly care for someone you wouldn't do say or think anything that could hurt them. Your should be able to talk things out. At this point I would just block all the number that send any harassing texts or calls, if his friends are letting him use their phones for that then you don't need them in your life either.

[Nik1hil]

take a hockey stick and go near him and tell him, some part of you lives inside him, and when he said "Go ahead and just kill myself" i have decided to begin with killing that part of me that lives inside you, and run towards him with a hockey stick and make him run around the place locality of his house...

[Ingrid22sp]

Savage xD

[Nik1hil]

@Ingrid22sp okay, that guy was being savage when he said "Go ahead and just kill myself"
i think her has the rights to act like a crazy ex, for a few times...

[Ingrid22sp]

I agree

[rickbrown6032]

Ok young lady I been there I have PTSD plus bipolar I think you need to not be with a bully clearly he's one and if you hurt your self you give into his crap stop live your life

[OpenWine]

and I tought he had the same illness as you.
well for my part I think you should ditch dating completely for some years. you need to have more time for yourself, knowing who you are, what you want for yourself and setting your ultimatum redline.

[honestibrahim]

He knows he was wrong. Don't go back. Make him sweat it out. Maybe take some time to do you.

[Stamps]

He's a dick. Simple as that. Try to get a restraining order.

[Cornchipuniverse]

Easy, he's a cunt. You should just hang around your friends for a little bit until he cooks down.

[Dragon6901]

Text him saying busy sucking cock.

[RealEminem]

He's a bitch.