My boyfriend won’t stop touching my butt in public, would it be too drastic to consider breaking up with him?

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I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 months and he is a very sweet and caring guy, but he can get a little carried away with his level of affection in public. I have asked him to stop nicely multiple times, and he says sorry and that he won’t do it again but can’t seem to help himself. I’m not saying I don’t want him to do that at all, just when in private; the reason for this is because I have severe anxiety and him doing that in public makes me really uncomfortable due to the fact that people can see. I would really like to make this work, but if he continues, would it be unreasonable to end things? Thank you for your time :)

PinkMichae · Accepted Answer

I would tell him again and explain your anxiety issue. But there has to be a compromise because it should just be all on him to change his behavior. If it makes you uncomfortable him touching your butt then suggest letting him hold your hand or something else he can do to show the affection that comes natural to him. And maybe you need to seek out help to understand why you are reacting that way to affection in public. It's triggering something in you that you really should try to figure out or this could effect every relationship you have. Good luck.

Time_Still · Accepted Answer

I think its to drastic to consider breaking up with him.

It might have become a habit in him. Habit takes time to break. Tell him i get anxiety when you touch my butt in public. Help him break this habit.
You could suggest him to grab you by your waist instead when he gets an urge to grab your butt.

I know someone with the same kind of bad habit. You gotta help them to break it.

Mattea_acker98 · Accepted Answer

Just talk to him and tell him it makes you uncomfortable and that there is a time and place for that sort of thing. If he doesn't respect your wishes and your body then dump him, that wouldn't be too drastic to me.

EpicFunWin · Accepted Answer

He likes your butt very much, i guess if it's really hard for him to stop he's considering your butt as the most perfect.

(Also it's kind of a nature now to show the other males "This woman is mine!!")

BUT if you really care about others opinion so much about you, then tell to your boyfriend not to do in in the public because it's embarrassing you.

markscott · Accepted Answer

Does he realize how serious your need to not have your butt touched in public is? If no, tell him. Are you able to compromise a little, as little sway, or light touch, on occasion? In the end, if this causes you a lot of distress, and he won't stop, then you need to leave him.

eziegler81 · Answer

Well first of all, it's a young guy thing. Most young guys don't care if or how they display public affection. It's hard for a young guy to hold back especially if you have a butt he really admires.

He should respect your wishes. I think you should tell him that you are seriously considering ending the relationship if he doesn't stop grabbing your butt in public. Let him know the consequences of his actions and give him the chance to correct himself. You have to decide he's the type of guy that isn't respectful to you or if he's really into butts and has a hard time controlling himself.

Farhan_HufflePuff · Answer

Give a him a very loud warning...
Something like -
"TOUCH MY BUTT AGAIN IN PUBLIC AND I MIGHT THINK THAT WE ARE DONE!!!"
Tho don't leave him... if he's really as nice & caring as you think then he will get over that habit somehow...

katlira12 · Answer

I mean guys are gonna be guys we gotta face that lol i mean u need to have a one on one talk to him and really tell him how u feel and if he keeps on after then apparently he doesn't care about how u feel and u should leave

winterfox10 · Answer

That's a really stupid reason to end things. If you don't want him to touch you in public, just say something like "what are you doing?" Don't break up over something so trivial.

Tomblebee · Answer

Nothing is to drastic to consider. You can consider any number of insane ideas. :)

Cursewords_ · Answer

Talk to him about it. You would only break up if you didn't give a shit about him or didn't love him.

Intraluminal · Answer

You always have the right to break up with anyone for any reason, or no reason.

2opaz · Answer

Nope. not unreasonable i saw some guy finger his girlfriends butthole in public a couple weeks back.

cavalry69 · Answer

Nothing doing , perhaps you got a sexy butt. he can't help it. Any PIC?

Anonymous · Answer

You could talk to him and tell him your not comfortable with that. He may also be doing to so make sure other guys know that your his girl

Aravintha · Answer

Speak with him again explain to him better. for that only reason don't go for divorce. Thousand reason to stay together see that. don't see the one reason for breakup.

Anonymous · Answer

You shouldn't break up lol, just say him all this or just you dont have to care, it doesn't matter what other people think so better let him touch u and u will feel more comfortable i think

Seppelson · Answer

You want to break up with a guy because he don't likes to tough you in publik? I don't think it's right to do that in publik

TallGuy96 · Answer

Tell him the exact thing you told us

boochie0 · Answer

Tell him to stop

My boyfriend won’t stop touching my butt in public, would it be too drastic to consider breaking up with him?

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