Do cheaters regret cheating?

[Anonymous]

Do they regret hurting you? Do they try and come back? :/

[Being_a_good_Indian]

It's easy to lie to the world. But you can't lie to yourself. You can give excuses about how your partner never gave you time and attention or wasn't there for you when you needed them. But there's no escape from the fact that you broke someone's trust and crucified the sanctity of love.

There's always a way to convince yourself to recover from being cheated on. A little therapy or solid counselling can assure you that you deserve better. Someone betrayed your trust not because you are any less, but because they are inadequate and needed to validate themselves outside of their relationship. You can chose to despise your partner for cheating and take them out of your life. No matter how much it sucks and how messed up you get, it's possible to let go and move on after being cheated on. It's possible to forgive the other person and try to heal by knowing that you're not to blame.

More often than not, a cheater knows this too. I don't know if it's possible to make peace with hurting the one person you loved. Guilt has the capacity to kill from inside. If knowing who you really are isn't enough, knowing that you destroyed your own world can trench a permanent hole in your heart. I'm not sure how much therapy it would take for someone to forgive self and live with it. Don't think there's an end to self induced suffering.

So, yes. Cheaters regret not only their actions but suffer from their own existence. Because someone who can't trust himself is way more screwed up from layers beneath. Regrets are just tip of the iceberg.

Personally speaking no cheating. No worries. No regret. Self Control proves that we are still human beings..

Hope it Helps.

[oldmannoah]

Someone who cheats on you may have a dozen justifications for doing so. But the fact is that they have been dishonest with you, and that's a good place to start the conversation. He may want to break up for someone else and just can't bring himself to tell you. He also may want his cake and eat it too. He may or may not regret it... and are you going to believe him if he says he does? Coming Back? ... The question is, do you want him back? You may hurt for a little while, but a dishonest, sneaky person can hurt you for a lifetime. Do you want that?

[Asker]

I don’t believe I’d ever trust him again. All the things he told me, they were all lies. And he said them all so he could cheat easier (i see this NOW). I want him to come back so i can get closure, so i can see he ACTUALLY cares enough and realizes what he did wrong and we can make it work. But, it’s still the early stages of a break up, so maybe it isn’t a wise idea. I’m just still hurting a lot

[oldmannoah]

I know you are hurting and probably mad. (I would be---and have been)... Why do you expect anything from closure? You are not thinking clearly yet. You say you don't think you'd ever trust him again, but you also say " to see if we can make it work." I think you need to listen to your mind right now. Not your emotions. Let him go for a while. SPend time with your good friends who you can trust. Talk to a counselor. Get active without him. I don't think looking for an apology or a declaration of love from him is a good idea. Give it time.

[Goodwifie]

Hey hun.
Sometimes they do and sometimes they don't it really depends on the person.
If he blames you for his cheating then this makes him the worst of the worst.
A cheater if they are wanting and looking for forgiveness should be able to understand what it is that they have done wrong and definitely understand that there is no one to blame but themselves.

[Unit1]

But what if the woman doesn't spread her legs any more for long enough and he's becoming horny like a stray dog and feels temptation to stick his stick into a woman?

[Asker]

The truth is, i wanted sex with him, more than he’d have it with me :/

[Goodwifie]

well then he should be man enough to talk to her about it.

[Asker]

I agree. But, clearly my ex wasn’t man enough. And he puts the blame on me for why he cheated. And, i sense he doesn’t feel an ounce of guilt, which hurts. We spent 1.5 years together. And he didn’t care he was hurting me, even when i found out - he just left me.

[Goodwifie]

well it's his loss sweetheart.

[Unit1]

Ugh. Some boys like these are really disgusting. 🙄
I agree. Their loss. If only i had such luck with the ladies i would never take it for granted.

[lumos]

No, they don’t. Any regret that they feel is from being caught.

[melnc]

I think temporary regret.
even if he regrets, you won't be able to trust him again.

[440SuperCharged]

Personal experience with 20yr relationship- children, job, and pride all in jeopardy. I caught her 2times and the answer is they only regret if they get caught, or have to face others that they have been fooling. They always come back after the shame they were living doesn't workout or they start hitting rocl bottom. They never change, there hearts are self serving and never change. They also turn the blame onto the innocent party for a reason to their actions. If you have a cheater on board move on.

[Alan180188]

if it's on fully awareness intended level then mostly no, but if got caught later some might regret (only cause it damaged their picture and might affect their reputation later).
I cheated once and got cheated on before, from her perspective she regretted that I caught her, and in my case I confessed and didn't regret cause it gave an answer to the relationship I was in ( I revenged the first girl by cheating on the second one)

[Jessington]

I've done it once. To be fair it wasn't really because i wasn't with anyone. But i was seeing two girls at once. I felt bad and vowed never to do that again. And never have since. Dunno about other people though. Some people do all this revenge cheating and stuff. Im not into any time of cheating. If somethings not right i just leave and move on.

[REDavid]

My ex (now gf) did regret we are togather now for almost 2 years. She never cheated on me after that one time. She was sorry and made everything to make it up to me. Depends on how much he/she loved you before cheating if they really did they will try to come back to you.

[Asker]

I guess he really didn’t love me then :/ it’s been over a week and nothing. He blocked me on all social media.

[oldmannoah]

There's your answer. He's not worth it. Get on with your life and eventually you will find someone to appreciate you.

[Buckzor]

Some Do, and some dont. Regular cheaters dont care, and if they do cheat, who cares if they try come back? They cheated, find someone else. Unless the circumstances are specific.

[Asker]

I am just hurting deeply. I found out he had been cheating for a while last week :/ he tried to blame me for his cheating said i made him “miserable” and so, when he was miserable with me, he cheated at those times. I was miserable sometimes too (we were going through a really bad time), but never cheated. It hurts so much he lied.

[Buckzor]

Of course it hurts. Which is why you should do your best to forget, and look ahead to a brighter future with someone who does care, and isn't miserable.

[twenty8nine]

I only briefly regretted the times that I have cheated. That is until I am reminded what a dead end sex life I am in, but I'd have a hard time leaving.

[Bad_Man55]

They do not usually regret the act of cheating they feel guilty for hurting someone they care about.

[Asker]

My ex didn’t really seem to feel guilty. He apologized but tried to blame me for why he cheated. He said he was miserable with me and the way i was. So, he cheated at the times we fought and he was unhappy :/

[Bad_Man55]

That is cowardly and awful.. his happiness was not all on you.. he should have talked to you about what was wrong.. he was a coward to not just end it with you the right way instead he cheated and then like an ass blamed you for his problems

[QuietRunner]

No they don't, that's why they are cheaters.

Maybe the first time they do, but once they accept it. I think they are good to go

[Asker]

I guess he never felt bad. He told me “i never met up with her because you didn’t deserve that”. But to me, sexting the same girl multiple times and making plans to meet, asking her how he is doing, all of those are cheating to me.

[Elementis]

Some do, and some are completely sociopathic, seeing humans as nothing more than a resource for their own societal gain. But most do. :)

[leifleoden]

Depends on the person, some guys brag about it. Even some married guys.

[aman617]

You only put out that question to see people say yes. Am i right?

[Asker]

No. I did it to see what people’s opinions and experiences are.

[Good_Behavior]

According to surveys mossy do regret it... If caught. Otherwise they do not.

[Guanfei]

Some do, some don't. Both are pieces of shit and should be thrown away.

[WiggleWasser]

Not a bit. As far as hurting someone, if you plan things out right, they will never know.

[rexXmax]

No cause they got used to it sadly except if he made a mistake cause everyone does

[RedRobin]

Depends, some do most don't

[es20490446e]

Most of the time they don't.

[Asker]

Why don’t they?

[es20490446e]

Because if they cared they haven't had done it to start with.

[Asker]

I guess you’re right. He began messaging other girls around April, and didn’t “actually” chest until September :/ so, he didn’t care enough about me for a long time

[Emilykat]

From my experience they do not

[Tohhru]

Yeah that's why they say it was a "accident" 😂