im literally in the exact same situation as you except my boyfriend also emotionally threatens me. i think breaking up was def the right choice. im planning on breaking up w my boyfriend today. this is way too controlling and iv tried talking to my boyfriend about similar problems and it never worked out, things only got worse. if u read the opinions on the question i posted i think some of them might show u tht u made the right choice. he would scream at me and make me cry over things like my shirt being too tight and iv had enough and im happy that u left tht situation bc its not fair for someone to make u feel like shit over things like that. dont let anyone bring u down like that and wear what u want to wear. i think its the best choice for u and ur self confidence
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Um... You should not feel bad at ALL for dumping that lowlife. Wtf...
I commend you for getting away from such a toxic person.
I had a boyfriend who was very similar. He even tried to isolate me from my Friends and Family. And he never took responsibility for his part in the crumbling of our relationship -instead, I was the only one at fault.
I left him as soon as I was able. Haven't looked back... this Dakota guy sounds like a real piece of work.
You did the right thing leaving him in the dust.
Now I don't know how you dress and whether he has a valid point regarding how you dress or not - but the way he's expressing it just makes it seem like you two were not a good fit for each other.
Since we can't see your responses it's hard to tell how badly he's reacting, though. From the surface it looks controlling but I could understand my SO not being happy with me dressing certain ways.
no, you did the right thing! he seems to be the exact opposite of a good boyfriend! if he wasn't there for you when you needed him to comfort you, if he would make you feel controlled, what kind of boyfriend does he make? a terrible one, no questions.
you should instead feel relieved. i mean, i understand that it's gonna take a while till you forget about him and move on since you both were together regardless. but keep reminding yourself that whatever happened, happened for good and that you deserve someone way better than him!
No you are well out of that one. He's using psychological blackmail and manipulation on you. His request- to dress less revealing - is reasonable but the presentation is not. Further, the extent to which he is overreacting indicates a deep seated insecurity and neediness. He values you way too much.
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Good in you for breaking up with him. Sadly my best friends dont have this self-respect that you do have to break up with a mentally-abusive and possessive guy before it's too late.
Never look back. You may have times of weakness, but trust me, do not go back to him.
Life's too short to be with a controlling loser.Bloody hell, from what I can see, he's that fussed over a little butt cheek?
Seriously is that the most he's seen or something?
The last girl I dated was a girl who I met in class. She was the life model and within the first 30 seconds of meeting her, she got her tits out for everyone to see.
As long as your not actually trying to have sex with anyone else I don't see a problem.
He is definitely not a good match for you and he seems like he could be abusive.Wow. That's bad. I remember when my ex told me that my shorts were too short and he would get jealous. He would say stuff like "oh did you wear this so every guy at school could see your ass?" This is typical controlling behavior. Wear what you want and be who you want to be and never let anyone control you.
Girl, I’m glad you at least knew to dump his sorry ass. Most girls keep thinking “what if I made the wrong choice leaving him?”
Here’s how I think of it, if you think about breaking up, it’s for a reason and shouldn’t be revsersed once done. There’s a difference between taking a break, and breaking up. Personally, you made the right choice. Don’t go back to that control freakJudging from the texts, he was manipulating you, trying to guilt trip you, and playing games. He’s an abusive, controlling guy. You did the right thing. Avoid him and never speak another word to him again. He’s toxic
You made the right choice. Wear whatever the fuck You want! He's not your damn dad, is he? Controlling types are a huge NO NO. Star furthest away from him. I mean it !
You are definitely not the problem, he is. I’m glad you got rid of him cause those are the first couple of sign of being an abusive boyfriend.
Just leave him not because I think he is wrong but the way he said it is wrong. I know that he want to change you so he feels comfortable but if you are not willing to do that for him then dont. You two wasn't ment to be together. If he can change for you then you should change for him.
Why are you with a guy like that? It hurts self-confidence
he’s manipulative and abusive. tell someone for the sake of it not being a secret and cut all ties with him asap
Ew... you gave your virginity to an insecure Dick... what were u thinking? What made u think he was the right guy? #Virgin4life
You did the right thing. Nobody should tell you how you dress. It's up to you and only you
I hate revealing clothes , and tbh i wouldn't date a woman wear them in the first place
No stay with him, he's super jealous but that's all coz he care so much, u mean so much for him and he won't anyone stole u from him, maybe u can just talk with him honestly about this..
He is definitely controlling
Ok but why are you walking around with ass cheeks out if you have a man? that can get you raped
What a loser...
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