My boyfriend doesn’t make me feel appreciated and gets mad when I bring it up, what should I do? (Page 2)

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A lot of it has to do with social media. He rarely likes my photos/comments on them. He has commented nice things on his female friends’ photos before, and he often like their photos (sometimes they are sexy photos too). He has even gone out of his way to like several random photos on a random girls’ profile. He never really compliments me in person; the most he has ever said is “oh, you look good” and that’s about it. He doesn’t show physical affection, and he never says he loves me. Whenever we go out, people mention he doesn’t seem like my boyfriend and they try and get my number. My friends also have mentioned that he doesn’t seem like my boyfriend, more like my friend, when we go out for the first time together. Whenever i mention he doesn’t make me feel special, he gets upset with me. He tells me “i take you out, i pay for things, i go down on you during sex, i listen to you, i care about you. Your ex was abusive and apparently I’m worse than him now!” Then i feel really guilty and sad inside. I hate communicating this with him because it always turns into an argument. I am not sure why i don’t deserve to be complimented once in a while, or to feel cherished and beautiful to the man I’m dating. I feel like he gives other girls attention (especially online), and the more i mention it, the more he does it. I am lost and don’t know what to do. Maybe i am overreacting, but, then again, i feel a man should naturally won’t to appreciate his woman. There was also a time in the beginning of dating where he wouldn’t reply to my messages for 12-24 hours sometimes, but, he’d always be on social media, doing the things i didn’t like or appreciate.

JustRollTheDice · Answer

Sit him down and tell him and if this goes on and you feel that it's toxic you might have to reevaluate your relationship

anon4us · Answer

All's it is, is that he feels like if he said I love you a million times or other compliments they would loose their meaning an d become a dull repetition so don't take it hard he just saves his words so you know that you are the special one to him

hunter206 · Answer

It sounds like from what you said, this is a toxic relationship. Regardless of his feelings towards you, either on purpose or not, he is being cold.

Relationships should make you feel happy, and loved. It seems from what you're saying you aren't.

crazy8000 · Answer

Do you appreciate him in the same way you want him to appreciate you?

This sounds like you are living on a lot of stereotypical one sided expectations.
Some givers gives automatically what they get, even test the other one if they tend to be a one sided that takes with expectations.

Than does your text give signals that you are insecure and requires a lot of shallow attention and confirmations to feel secure. (To be secure is the same as being happy, you chose to be it in your mind)

MaddyMax · Answer

Breakup with the guy. You two don't mix well together and it seems like he doesn't care.

whiteangel1 · Answer

Talk to him or leave him no other options so don't overthink it and waste your time too much

rmgnow · Answer

You seem super insecure and you seem to be basing your thoughts of what you think other people think about you.

snowcap54 · Answer

Young lady, pack your bags and run. He's not into you, he's using you for his own pleasure and fantasizing about other girls while f@#$&+* you. Get out as soon as you can.

myselfandi35 · Answer

Social media killed my marriage for the same reason. She couldn't see what was happening right in our own home due to being into fb all the time. Caution. Go on a social media diet and see what you've been missing

Anonymous · Answer

the fact is, you're allowing him to compliment other women. that's the problem. Him doing it to other women, is making you feel insecure, and that's the MAIN problem. if you don't allow him to flirt with other women, it won't make you so insecure, however, then you'd be controlling his life. It's up to you. I can't tell you what to do, since this is something you'd have to decide, but, that's the problem. you're allowing him to flirt with other women

snipe032301 · Answer

Sounds like you need a new boyfriend everyone deserves to be happy in the relationship there in

DamnMan · Answer

Maybe he's not that into you.  If he gets mad at you bringing it up and doesn't want to chance, then dump him.

Anonymous · Answer

same exact thing happened to me. he then ignored me since the 26th of last month so i'm guessing we are broken up.

FlamingoJones73 · Answer

Maybe ask him if you're not making him feel appreciated? Like maybe he's not good a talking and tries to show it through actions? I don't know seems like a lost cause though.

Pizza_lover159 · Answer

Break up. He seem like an asshole. I think he probably cheats too. And If he talks like that. Itd not good. Get away from him.

LuWe22 · Answer

First at all you should not find your self worth on social media Second leave him if you aren't feeling appreciated and need the valuation from him

curiousscorpio89 · Answer

Just leave him. Love yourself enough to know that you deserve better.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like you need a new boyfriend, you definitely deserve better.

linksta0161 · Answer

Honestly a guy should tell you how good u look and make u feel like the only girl in the world and that's something he should want to do not be asked for

Ubba_Ragnarsson · Answer

Doesn't sound very good. He could've lost interest, but at the same time doesn't like it when you express distrust. I suggest try and leave him asap. (I was that guy once)

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Open up a wider door of communication or just break it off with him.

Primadonnagirla · Answer

He uses manipulation and he definitely has some issues with communication. I think you deserve better!

Iblitzkrie · Answer

You might have to talk to him about it. If that doesn't work out , you need to re-evaluate the relationship

BaileyisDarcy · Answer

So... you're unhappy yet for some reason you haven't left?

BOUNTYGUY9 · Answer

leave him in a car park he has no love or respect for you sad person he is

Pistachio0690 · Answer

The same thing every woman does eventually. Find a guy with more money

Pho3nix3 · Answer

Time is precious. Clearly u are unhappy. Leave him.

Nandor · Answer

Get mad at his because he gets mad at you. I mean this is reverse psycology

ChosenBeauty · Answer

Move On.. Girl Bye ⚠️💜What he Won't Do Another Will it's about you and what Standards you are Setting For Self.

Fukaroo · Answer

Life is too short. Get out while you still can. Don't fear being alone.

Shaurya3110 · Answer

I think you should leave him  My opinion is this  Because he is not being take care of that small little thing then what he will do for your future  by the way think twice do good  Hope best for you

giovanno · Answer

Get someone who appreciates you and cares about u and ur feelings

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

I stopped taking you seriously as soon as bloody SOCIAL MEDIA was the first thing you mentioned. Sorry.

tanoon · Answer

What you should do is make a fake profile of a guy and make it like some of your pictures and and post things that would make him mad and see what he say about it

khankhan786 · Answer

You should also do as he do.. to give him a lesson... after that he will ask you..

Steve4783 · Answer

That means he does not care about your feelings. Why are you with a guy like that?

princess8403 · Answer

tell him how you feel and ask him to stop it and ask him to compameat some time if he dont stop brake up with him

candycanehearts · Answer

he sounds ilke a jerk u should jsut leave him

MsMusic · Answer

Are you sure you're not dating my ex?

HitGirl_4680 · Answer

If your not happy walk away life is short!

MatthewIverson · Answer

If he's not willing to listen to your concerns, he's not worth your time.

Yakasmashi · Answer

Break up.. . that not how a boyfriend should be

name_is_eric · Answer

Leave. If you're so unhappy, move on.

Anonymous · Answer

Codependent people and independent people don't mix well.

bobbybruh · Answer

Sounds like he's a narcissist

knowledgesolomon · Answer

He is not into you. Move around

jimmy2 · Answer

oh honey sounds like you ought to move on

RedRobin · Answer

Leave him

Fredrickw23 · Answer

It's a relationship that shouldn't be

Eleventy · Answer

Break up with him if it bothers you that badly.

Aeleen · Answer

Leave him

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like it's time to go...

opurba · Answer

Smash it urself.

JoesCuriousBrain · Answer

Do anal. It'll fix everything

elly91 · Answer

Leave him!!!

Psycho21924 · Answer

Leave him

TsubasaCorrupted · Answer

Dump him

joeyg1205 · Answer

Talk to him about it. Simple

vickiiiii · Answer

Iam fullfill ur feels... cme for Mee

picax8398 · Answer

Address it. If he still gets mad, dump him

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