What does not ready to date mean?

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AlienParasite · Accepted Answer

I'm not ready to date is I'm not ready to date, and could be because:

* I had an abusive relationship before and I have fear of another bad relationship
* I had a nice relationship but it ended badly and I can't forget the other person so I'm not going to date and hurt any person
* I broke up just some weeks ago, I need time to reflect and recover before dating again
* I've been in a relationship for many years and now that I'm single again I want to enjoy it a bit more before dating
* I'm not able to commit, just casual sex
* I have get used to be single and I'm happy and I fear that all that changes my life in a way I would hate
* I'm focusing on my career and dating would be a distraction
* I don't want to date you, but a direct no would feel impolite
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Those are many different options why a human would not feel ready to date

weasley8 · Accepted Answer

Not ready to be emotionally invested in a relationship.

Maybe too much is going on in the person’s life at the moment, and they know they know they won’t have the time and/or energy to contribute to the relationship.

Maybe they still have feelings for someone else who they can’t or shouldn’t be with.

Maybe they’re just figuring out who they are, and want to know that before they commit themselves to someone else.

Those are some examples that I could think of. But there are plenty more.

Exterminatore · Accepted Answer

Either not ready to date period, usually due to focusing on other life goals or “I don’t want to date you.”

If hypothetically a girl asked me out, truly right now I’d say “I’m not ready to date.” I’m working on goals and right now don’t have time or desire for any relationship beyond the very superficial... however if hypothetically Jessica Alba (as she looked 10 years ago) asked me out... magically I’m ready to date RIGHT NOW, despite my goals.

So I take the statement “I’m not ready to date” made by either gender to mean “Unless you’re super attractive, wealthy, famous or otherwise the cream of the crop of available and datable people... I’m either not interested in dating YOU or I’m busy doing other stuff and you’re not good enough to deter me from the direction I’m headed right now.”

ichighost · Accepted Answer

Not emotionally available or not ready for monogamy. I thrive at being available to smash when and who I want to but it's only because I've been emotionally heartbroken multiple times. When I feel down and such, I'm not ready to date anybody. I have to fully emotionally recover first or else my heart won't be in it and I'll end up hurting her and that's completely uncalled for

Reggieray · Answer

"I need to work on myself."

Ironically, the people that use this as an excuse are the people that ACTUALLY need to work on themselves. Sadly, by the time they really do get around to working on themselves (though many don't), they look up and see that any prospects of a family or a stable marriage have passed them by.

Your playing a game of musical chairs... but you can't hear the music.

prettynormal · Answer

It means that you are either still hurt from a past relationship and just want to heal completely before giving someone else even the chance to maybe enter in your heart...
Or, it could mean that you’re so focused on your career, studies or whatever it is that you are not interested in dedicating time to someone else.

*It could also be just the polite way to say they’re not interested in a relationship -with that person-.

19magic · Answer

I've always been a honest person and according to my friends too honest or open.

But for me this means I want to date however I'm not ready as I have occasional depression and I have low self esteem and don't want to date you just to make myself feel better. If I want to date someone it's because I want to be part of their life and share mine with them while also being intimate with them

Cyantyki · Answer

I think males are heartbroken longer than females, and i think this is something we say if we have had a long relationship with a horrible breakup, i have also noticed douchy guys say this to make the girl more interested and pushy to achieve a bad one-night stand (never done this myself)

Marrry · Answer

Means he has other problems right now nd doesn't have energy or he has to focus on his job and doesn't have time or he got hurt too much in the past he isn't willing to take the risk for another Heart break or he said this as an excuse because he doesn't like you. That's all I can think of. I hope I helped a little

Factshurt90 · Answer

For me it means too hurt and angry to accept the possibility that any man can love me correctly.
It means I’m enjoying looking busted and not answering to anyone.
It means i will recklessly abandon your needs to satisfy my own selfish desire to not be bothered.
If someone says they aren’t ready to date. Believe them.

jcmok · Answer

For me "not ready to date," means that a person is not capable of maintaining a relationship of higher value with another person due to how complicated his or her life is. Compared to everything else, this is something one admits to themselves so they don't hurt the other person with lack of affection, attention, and so on.

Anonymous · Answer

It usually means that the dichotomy of good an evil is at risk if deconstruction and that the basic black and white moral structure is at risk if collapse in the physical world whilst in the meta-physical world the moral binary of good and evil is being separated into the various shades of grey making everyone on the spectrum of moral goodness.

Alternatively it could just mean they arn't ready to date

MisterAnon69 · Answer

Personally Ame and my girlfriend were mutually into each other and had told each other. But at that point I told her I wan’t ready yet. At the time I was mentally unstable and sucidal. But I worked hard to clean my self up and she waited 5 weeks for me. Then we started dating and we’ve been happy ever since. Not being ready is not always a death sentence to a potential relationship.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

It probably means you're naive and you could be taken advantage of. I know that sounds like an insult, but please don't take it that way. There's nothing wrong with you -- you just need to gain more knowledge before exposing yourself to the advances of horny young men.

Anonymous · Answer

Usually 2 things.
they don't want to date you and it's just a nice way to say it i guess?

and then the second which is exactly what it means. someone isn't ready to date because of baggage. not in the place they want to be so they don't wanna invite someone else into the mix to make it more complicated. kinda at that point atm maybe that's just how i feel on it.

slatyb · Answer

If someone says this to you, it means they are not ready to date YOU. They may be perfectly ready to date someone else. This is one of those polite fictions we use instead of directly rejecting someone.

DocilexElle · Answer

"I just got out of a relationship and haven't separated myself from the past. If you date me, you'll constantly be compared to my ex who couldn't make me happy."

OR

"I just want sex, and you're 'fuckable' enough for me... you down?"

ATuairiscean · Answer

It is literally what it sounds like - I had a very bad break up in my last relationship and I wasn't "Ready To Date" for about 5 plus years - I just couldn't face it

InTimoreDei · Answer

Usually said by someone to a person that they have zero interest in dating.

Some ugly Guy: Hey sweet cheeks, wanna go out sometime?
Girl: Um, thanks for the proposal, but I'm not ready to date right now

angelin · Answer

It means they haven’t found someone yet who their heart clings to. It also could mean they are trying to be smart and not let love get in the way of there goals. Relationships that aren’t meaningful could be a silly distraction.

Nis09 · Answer

Well depends of the person: could recuperate after a break up and he doesn't feel ready to start again or just doesn't want a serious relationship. Only u can know it if u ask some questions related with his last relationship or things like that.

Logorithim · Answer

If they're being honest, it means they don't want to date anyone right now.

skytatoe · Answer

Unwilling to date. Like you just dont wanna make that effort to get to know them.

Or you're willing but you have baggage that makes dating very difficult (big trust issues, attachement / detachement issues etc...)

yucychan · Answer

It's a polite way of saying that the person is not interested in you. It's not really that he/she is not ready to date, it's more of that he/she just don't wants to date you.

Didi1337 · Answer

Basicly either your not looking for a relationship at the moment, or they haven't really gotten over the last one (not allways having feelings for the ex, but just ruined after the last relationship, or not comfortable to start a new one yet (

On_the_other_hand · Answer

Half the time it means they aren't attracted to you. People say that shit all the time, next minute you see them getting with someone. Its just a life lesson.

Coldwater · Answer

Depends on the person tbh 1) timing isn’t right 2) turning someone down 3) they wanna fook but not b committed

Catacious · Answer

Some people don't have the time, mental capacity, or financial stability to date at a given point in time.

melanieeeB · Answer

Depends they don't want to date right now or they don't want to date you  Either way let it be and move on when someone tells you that

Ecco939 · Answer

If it is from a guy? Could be either not interested in dating right now ( I exist here) or it could mean not interested in you enough to take the chance.

windknowsmyname · Answer

means committed relationship or being tied down to one women or falling in love is not what they want.

lernulo · Answer

Sorry for it, I dont know how to tell you it, so, I will recomend you something.
Freya_Martin made a question here which said: how do you stop a guy proposing you? One of the top answers had the sentence which meaning you are looking for.

Wowgirl10q · Answer

They are not mentally healed from their last relationship

pooper89 · Answer

It usually is a nice way of saying “I’m not into you”

CubsterShura · Answer

For me it is definitely not being at the best mental state to be bale to have a good date.

Katrina_Rose_Cooke · Answer

I actually mean me in this opinion, I’m not ready to go down that road again for a long while because I had a bad relationship/breakup in the past.

Spawnface · Answer

It's the excuse I tell myself so I don't have to know why I am single :(

Servus09 · Answer

For a guy it usually means he's not at a point in his life to attract and hold down a woman of high value.

Giggletr0n · Answer

It simply means that the person in question has no interest in getting into a relationship with anyone!

Anonymous · Answer

It means ‘just not that into you’. Like the attention and wants to see how far they can push it, for you to chase and massage their ego.

TheHillsRAlive · Answer

If I said that, I would mean I'm not interested in dating the person

winniethepoah · Answer

It often is an excuse when someone is not that into the other person

dreamstar72 · Answer

Playing the field, or maybe he is not all that into whomever asked

macnom · Answer

It means that the person doesn't know themself enough and doesn't have the confidence to be in a relationship. Its could also be a polite no

Anonymous · Answer

That person probably gay or not interested in you and wants to be polite.

Gottabsavagee · Answer

Emotionally unstable or just not into dating you.  You can figure out by talking to them.

winterfox10 · Answer

I think it's just someone's inability or lack of desire to find common ground with another person.

allie97 · Answer

Means they are busy or not interested in a relationship at that stage of their life

AxisDeer · Answer

It means, you're not ready for love and commitment.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

That they don't want to date for a while. Either you personally for some reason or in general.

Anonymous · Answer

It means that on the time management of your life, dating is important but not urgent.

Jasmine_IV · Answer

You don't have time or can't put effort in. Or just don't want to.

Sixgun77 · Answer

Usually it means they're not interested in YOU in particular.

inmensus · Answer

They're confusing on improving their lives and themselves before they date someone.

Monsterbollo · Answer

Wants to shag everything moving without dating. Fact

Danxsarah · Answer

Not ready to date or not ready to be in a serious relationship ? Big difference

Anonymous · Answer

Women say this to guys all the time. You should know.

dontgofalling · Answer

It could be an excuse for not being attracted or for being confused lately

meicrosoft · Answer

It's kind of simple, they don't wanna date at the moment

Anonymous · Answer

As a girl you should know, since y'all use it more  "Not ready to date" = doesn't want to date YoU

pete10 · Answer

. probaly wants sex. But not all dating. Maybe hangout like a friend

Anonymous · Answer

It’s the kinder version of, “You are not my type” or simply to stall someone. Even if the person is not over someone. Why refuse, getting to know someone and eating meanwhile?

Wolfmanx69 · Answer

They think your not ready to take on your needs and a man's needs. THAT IS what they think

niomi04 · Answer

Not able to cross over the emotional bags Person is carrying

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