Hey y’all. Had an amazing first date with a girl. We went to a fair, kept her laughing the entire night… eye contact, she kept breaking the touch barrier. And hell - even invited me into her place (not to have sex) when I was dropping her off at her house.
She even texted me first the next morning saying “I had fun last night, thanks so much for bringing me!” And had been texting me consistently since.
Well, today, 3 days later… she texted me “hey, sorry I’ve been MIA. I thought maybe I was ready, but I’m not and I just want to be straight forward with you… but I did have a great time, thanks so much for it. I just don’t want to waste your time because you did state you were looking for a relationship. It just wouldn’t be fair for me to lead you on. I have had it happen and it sucks.”
The thing is, we had amazing chemistry. I could tell she enjoyed her time (she extended the date!) I think she may be being honest. I texted back this:
“ Hey no worries at all! I appreciate you being upfront and honest. I appreciate your time, and when you find yourself ready, maybe we could try things. That being said, is there maybe something you’d be more open to? For what it’s worth, I’m not the type to either force or rush into anything (quite the opposite) so I’m open to and prefer taking things really slow, and seeing if you’re more comfortable with the idea after some time. I totally understand if you prefer to focus on being a nurse for now though and figuring out your young adult life. Absolutely no hard feelings!”
She’s really an amazing girl! Originally we matched on tinder, I asked her what she was on there for. “Entertainment. After that? Not sure tbh” so everything is really pointing to the fact she may not actually be ready.
I almost always end that statement with “with you” but I’m having a hard time doing that here. What are your thoughts? Thanks!
She even texted me first the next morning saying “I had fun last night, thanks so much for bringing me!” And had been texting me consistently since.
Well, today, 3 days later… she texted me “hey, sorry I’ve been MIA. I thought maybe I was ready, but I’m not and I just want to be straight forward with you… but I did have a great time, thanks so much for it. I just don’t want to waste your time because you did state you were looking for a relationship. It just wouldn’t be fair for me to lead you on. I have had it happen and it sucks.”
The thing is, we had amazing chemistry. I could tell she enjoyed her time (she extended the date!) I think she may be being honest. I texted back this:
“ Hey no worries at all! I appreciate you being upfront and honest. I appreciate your time, and when you find yourself ready, maybe we could try things. That being said, is there maybe something you’d be more open to? For what it’s worth, I’m not the type to either force or rush into anything (quite the opposite) so I’m open to and prefer taking things really slow, and seeing if you’re more comfortable with the idea after some time. I totally understand if you prefer to focus on being a nurse for now though and figuring out your young adult life. Absolutely no hard feelings!”
She’s really an amazing girl! Originally we matched on tinder, I asked her what she was on there for. “Entertainment. After that? Not sure tbh” so everything is really pointing to the fact she may not actually be ready.
I almost always end that statement with “with you” but I’m having a hard time doing that here. What are your thoughts? Thanks!
