Should I delete him from everything?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I can't move on from him because he's always showing up on aim, or facebook chat, etc. I already blocked him on fb, but I still see pics or comments about him/from him because of mutual friends. And I hate seeing him log onto aim but not talk to him.

Should I delete him?

What's stopping me is that I don't want him to know I deleted him, that would make me seem childish and immature that I can't handle this breakup in a mature way.

[zeitgeist057]

I blocked her on fb and it sucked. It hurt her feelings and made me look immature and childish just like you say. I was at my wits end and didn't want to see her updates and face and couldn't control myself. Basically it is up to you to have self discipline and learn to say no, learn to ignore those feelings and accept that you are not together.

It is weird if you blocked him on fb that he would show up because when I did it with her it removed her ENTIRELY she didn't even show up if I searched her name and her comments on my friend's pages were not shown.

Maybe a solution would be to turn off the computer a little more. It's healthier anyway for you to get outside and develop yourself at a time like this. Getting involved in some exercise, sports, activities with people IRL rather than online is always a good thing.

[rdr005]

The question is are you wanting to move on, or are you wanting to hold yourself back. If its a step to move on, then do so. Delete him, block him, whatever. Its not childish. What would be childish is if you stalked him to see what he did now that you're broken up... which is an example of holding yourself back. Do what you need to do. You're capable of rational decisions (or at your age, I'd hope so) so if you feel you need to do it, do it. The worse that can happen is he finds out and gets mad at you (ooooo... God forbid). Don't worry about him.

[tanglesofblondecurls]

I would delete him from AIM because users can't tell they have been removed from buddy lists. You don't have to delete him on fb him if you play with the privacy settings and hide everything that shows up about him. When he appears on your news feed select [hide] and you will never see his updates ever again. You can also place him in a group list and block him from seeing your pics, certain parts of your profile, and chat. Check it out...On fb he will notice that you deleted him if you have similar friends or have pictures in which he is tagged. If you feel like he is more of a pest than letting you rest from the break up on fb I would delete him. I would also check out the options on fb. G'luck

[tanglesofblondecurls]

Thanks for selecting me as best answer :)

[Anonymous]

First of all, who cares if he knows? If anything, it'll let him know that you're determined to make a clean break from him. "being mature" about a breakup does not mean constantly keeping contact. Exes need time apart before they can become friends again.

Yes, you SHOULD delete him from EVERYTHING because if you don't, you'll be miserable for a very very long time.

[Anonymous]

Deleting him actually shows you still care a bit, cause otherwise you wouldn't bother at all. You wouldn't be 'tempted' to care what he says or does and seeing his posts or pics wouldn't be of any interest.

Just try and move on, if you can. I know its hard, but try. Its just gonna take A LOT of time.

[Belgie]

People don't get notified if you delete them on AIM.

Nor on Facebook.

And it doesn't make you seem childish or immature.

[JUSTICE2010]

Block him then he won't know anyway it is not childish if you need to move on and seeing him makes you feel stress.

Maybe in some way you are keeping him on because you want to be able to see what he is doing.

We have many reasons why we hang on. If you don't feel stress and it seems you both broke it off without drama then what is the harm?

[xcetera]

Yes, get rid of him on all that. It is not worth your time or emotional effort. Cleanliness is godliness lol. In the times before this age of info, people would duke on their ex and no one saw it as immature it was called moving on. Time to move on for your own life now.

[gtex1991]

as you get older people come and go, if you see there is no point, delete, especially if something bad happened that is not fixable

i delete fake friends, who backstabbed, girls who reject me, people I don't like or know

also there is no point in having 2000+ friends if you talk to 200 or 100, I find that to be pointless

[Anonymous]

yes. when I broke up with my ex I deleted his aim, #, fb and blocked what I could. it helped ssooo much. & a year and a half later we can talk and be friends. if I didn't delete him on all that stuff I honestly don't know if it'd be possible to be friends now. when you break up with someone you need a mental, emotional, and physical break from them.

[DJKlaasJan]

you can either stay away from all those social networks and blah, or you could block him cos its not being childish, its called being mature and moving on with your life

[JessK28]

Yes! It's over; move on. Seeing or talking to him won't help you work on. Even if you do want to be friends, I think you first need some space, time to yourself, and clarity.

[vaestrada2]

It's not immature at all, and it doesn't seem like you can't handle the break up if you do delete him. You do what you got to do to be happy. :)

[lillianAngie]

I've once felt like I need to delete someone from my list of everything. But later I found out, it isn't a way to get me over him, I didn't move on. I was simply avoiding him. It's best to keep him on your list, and learn to truly move on.

[ikarus]

f*** ya delete his ass. who cares about immaturity...it feels good! lol

[Kimie]

DELATE HIM!

I did it...and it helped. Please don't look back... you will be sorry at first, but eventuly you'll move on and forget.

Far from eyes, far from heart.

[TheCheshireCat]

If you think it will help, go ahead...

[bioweapon154]

Go for it. Nothing wrong with needing space.

[Anonymous]

you should block him.

[Anonymous]

yes delete him.