My boyfriend is hanging out with my ex-boyfriend!!!

Me and my boyfriend have really hung out a lot before but ever since he started hanging out with my ex's group of friends we kinda saw each other less. I absolutely cannot hang out with my ex. He's such a douche. I talked to my boyfriend but after a week it went back to normal. I don't know what to do. I feel left out a lot.


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  • If they were actually friends before you started dating your new boyfriend...

    There is really nothing you can do besides tell him how you feel and hope for a good reaction (but you can't expect that he will change his ways for you). Also, you could make plans with him more often or start hanging out with your friends to take your mind off of the situation. You could actually turn this around into a positive circumstance! However, if you did know this going into the relationship, you have to bite the bullet and deal with it... and hope for the best.

    If they weren't really friends before you started dating your new boyfriend...

    Tell him how uncomfortable it makes you feel and that you're not trying to control him, but you just want him to respect your feelings. Guys are a little bit different than girls when it comes to this sort of thing, as a girl would almost NEVER hang out with their guys ex. If he obliges then show him how much you appreciate him by doing something nice for him... if he doesn't then maybe you should re-evaluate your relationship?

    In any case, think about the situation and if it were reversed... would it bother or effect him? You really should sit down and communicate your thoughts and feelings with him so that you guys can get on the same page about it. If you can't see eye-to-eye, you might want to take a step back and think about things and what truly means the most to you... your relationship with him or your respect for yourself. This is one of those things I think that only you two can figure out in your situation, which takes a lot of communication and hard work... but then again, that's how the best relationships are formed! Best of luck, let us know how it turns out!


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What Guys Said 1

  • Listen, 1. Unless if he's that much of a douchebag, then obviously you're holding a grudge of some sort against him and still need to solve things out. 2. That's just a friend to him, and the only thing you should be worried about is whether your ex tries to manipulate him into breaking up with you. If he does break up with you, then he doesn't know what love is and you just need to move on. From there, it's all paranoia and you need to accept his decision of befriending him. Think of it this way, would he feel the same way if you were friends with one of his ex's?


What Girls Said 1

  • just straight up tell your boyfriend I dnt like it and that your not comfotable with it..i dnt think he wuld be so happy if you started to hang around his ex lol or a person he didn't just make him understand nd tell him not to go back to it that its gona end now and for good..i kno your gona sound kinda bitchy lmao but hey if he really loves you and cares about your feelings he'll do it..i just dnt kno how your boyfriend wuld wana even b near your ex >_< xD...but yeah tell him and best of luck :)


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