Me and my boyfriend have really hung out a lot before but ever since he started hanging out with my ex's group of friends we kinda saw each other less. I absolutely cannot hang out with my ex. He's such a douche. I talked to my boyfriend but after a week it went back to normal. I don't know what to do. I feel left out a lot.
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If they were actually friends before you started dating your new boyfriend...
There is really nothing you can do besides tell him how you feel and hope for a good reaction (but you can't expect that he will change his ways for you). Also, you could make plans with him more often or start hanging out with your friends to take your mind off of the situation. You could actually turn this around into a positive circumstance! However, if you did know this going into the relationship, you have to bite the bullet and deal with it... and hope for the best.
If they weren't really friends before you started dating your new boyfriend...
Tell him how uncomfortable it makes you feel and that you're not trying to control him, but you just want him to respect your feelings. Guys are a little bit different than girls when it comes to this sort of thing, as a girl would almost NEVER hang out with their guys ex. If he obliges then show him how much you appreciate him by doing something nice for him... if he doesn't then maybe you should re-evaluate your relationship?
In any case, think about the situation and if it were reversed... would it bother or effect him? You really should sit down and communicate your thoughts and feelings with him so that you guys can get on the same page about it. If you can't see eye-to-eye, you might want to take a step back and think about things and what truly means the most to you... your relationship with him or your respect for yourself. This is one of those things I think that only you two can figure out in your situation, which takes a lot of communication and hard work... but then again, that's how the best relationships are formed! Best of luck, let us know how it turns out!0