Put yourself in her shoes. Would you want to know if it were you? Id personally consider giving her an anonymous tip somehow, or if you straight up tell her, make sure you have evidence or proof just so it doesn’t look like you’re a crazy ex trying to get him back.
I've told someone in a similar situation and she just accused me of making it up to get him back. So at the very least bring documents!
Get a friend to tell her. Do not get yourself involved in any shape or form. It's very easy to find out who used to go out with who, and being an ex de-legitimizes your claim. When (not if) she finds out whom you are she may just not listen and think you are jealous or any host of other things it sounds like this guy is terrible enough to say you are. Third party involvement here will help. If you know any of her friends even better. Ask your friend to get in contact with them instead.
It’s best to stay out of it. I know it’s tempting to tell her the truth, but is better to be unsaid as well. If u tell her, ur ex might spread nasty rumors on both social media and non social media. Plus u are putting yourself more at risk and drama. And she might not believe you at all. Let them handle this situation, not u. U did enough and have been through enough too. I know it sounds mean, but that’s the truth. Hope this helps :)
If u have the nuts to deal with the backlash then I say do it. Iv often stayed outta shit like this and tbh I regret it. Speak the truth and though the world may hate u god will love u
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I don’t have the nuts to deal with the backlash , I’m going to protect my school environment and stay out of itv.
I would stay out of it... If you are very close with his new girlfriend and are 100% sure he is cheating then I guess you could say something BUT!!! You should definitely stay out of it because without any real proof it's very easy for both your ex and his girlfriend to make you look like the bad guy or the "jealous ex-girlfriend" and you dont want that reputation and I'm sorry but it's honestly not worth it.
No, she likely won't believe you and it will only backfire on you. You're the ex in the situation and he's likely talked mad shit about you. It would be best to forget the dudes existence and focus on yourself more.
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I would tell her but I would try to get proof first, if possible. Thank you for caring about her. I wish more girls/women looked out for each other (and didn't get involved with a guy when she knows he already has a girlfriend). And please tell her to read Smashword's free ebook: "Woman to Women" to learn what to look out for when in a relationship.
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Have the girl he asked out tell his girlfriend. His girlfriend will doubt you if you tell her and he defends himself by saying you're just a vengeful/jealous ex. I know I should tell you to be a bigger person and stay out of it, but I don't ever want cheaters to get away with what they're doing. This is a safe strategy.
Nothing beats the loyalty of an Indian husband or wife and I'm shocked to see so many questions about cheaters on this app. Then they say they are "better". Yeah right, I can see how much "better" after seeing these posts and also their interactions with me which are basically about saying something mean to me. No wonder the divorce rates are so high. Even an innocent woman can't take so much nonsense and would leave.
Mind your own business. You are not close to either of these girls so your interference, even if appreciated by one of them, might bring you scorn from the other, much to your amazement. He'll be found out soon enough, so just leave it be and laugh at the drama.
Would you want to be told? Would you care who told you? Put yourself in her shoes and act on what you think is the right thing to do. If she reacts good or badly at least you will know you did the right thing.
I think you should say something. Leaving things alone does sound nice but if you know someone is being lied to, they should know the truth. Better sooner than later. And if she doesn’t believe you then she can only have herself to blame.
Either way your fucked. Don't say anything she's going to be mad. Try telling her she's gonna be mad. You women are complicated as all Fuck. That's why no one can figure out women. Men feed us food and sex we think we are kings.
It´s really none of your business. Move on, leave it all behind.
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You were his ex. It’s not like he forced you to that relationship , you went there. Now after breakup you want bad for him , whatever he’s doing is his business not yours
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I don’t want bad for him , I just felt sorry for the girl
HELL YES YOU SHOULD!! How she takes it is on her. If she accepts that kind of shit... then that’s for her to deal with. The least you could do is let her know what’s going on.
I would do it anonymously or have the girl who he asked out to tell her. I wouldn’t directly do it yourself because he could make it out like you’re bitter and jealous and who’s she to believe?
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Put yourself in her shoes. Would you want to know if it were you? Id personally consider giving her an anonymous tip somehow, or if you straight up tell her, make sure you have evidence or proof just so it doesn’t look like you’re a crazy ex trying to get him back.
I've told someone in a similar situation and she just accused me of making it up to get him back. So at the very least bring documents!
Get a friend to tell her. Do not get yourself involved in any shape or form. It's very easy to find out who used to go out with who, and being an ex de-legitimizes your claim. When (not if) she finds out whom you are she may just not listen and think you are jealous or any host of other things it sounds like this guy is terrible enough to say you are. Third party involvement here will help. If you know any of her friends even better. Ask your friend to get in contact with them instead.
It’s best to stay out of it. I know it’s tempting to tell her the truth, but is better to be unsaid as well. If u tell her, ur ex might spread nasty rumors on both social media and non social media. Plus u are putting yourself more at risk and drama. And she might not believe you at all. Let them handle this situation, not u. U did enough and have been through enough too. I know it sounds mean, but that’s the truth.
Hope this helps :)
If u have the nuts to deal with the backlash then I say do it. Iv often stayed outta shit like this and tbh I regret it. Speak the truth and though the world may hate u god will love u
I don’t have the nuts to deal with the backlash , I’m going to protect my school environment and stay out of itv.
Fair nuff
Tell her. Ket her know that you don't want to get back together with him but that you are letting her know for her own good.
I would stay out of it... If you are very close with his new girlfriend and are 100% sure he is cheating then I guess you could say something BUT!!! You should definitely stay out of it because without any real proof it's very easy for both your ex and his girlfriend to make you look like the bad guy or the "jealous ex-girlfriend" and you dont want that reputation and I'm sorry but it's honestly not worth it.
No, she likely won't believe you and it will only backfire on you. You're the ex in the situation and he's likely talked mad shit about you. It would be best to forget the dudes existence and focus on yourself more.
I would tell her but I would try to get proof first, if possible.
Thank you for caring about her. I wish more girls/women looked out for each other (and didn't get involved with a guy when she knows he already has a girlfriend).
And please tell her to read Smashword's free ebook: "Woman to Women" to learn what to look out for when in a relationship.
Have the girl he asked out tell his girlfriend. His girlfriend will doubt you if you tell her and he defends himself by saying you're just a vengeful/jealous ex. I know I should tell you to be a bigger person and stay out of it, but I don't ever want cheaters to get away with what they're doing. This is a safe strategy.
Nothing beats the loyalty of an Indian husband or wife and I'm shocked to see so many questions about cheaters on this app. Then they say they are "better". Yeah right, I can see how much "better" after seeing these posts and also their interactions with me which are basically about saying something mean to me. No wonder the divorce rates are so high. Even an innocent woman can't take so much nonsense and would leave.
Mind your own business. You are not close to either of these girls so your interference, even if appreciated by one of them, might bring you scorn from the other, much to your amazement. He'll be found out soon enough, so just leave it be and laugh at the drama.
Would you want to be told? Would you care who told you? Put yourself in her shoes and act on what you think is the right thing to do. If she reacts good or badly at least you will know you did the right thing.
I think you should say something. Leaving things alone does sound nice but if you know someone is being lied to, they should know the truth. Better sooner than later.
And if she doesn’t believe you then she can only have herself to blame.
Either way your fucked. Don't say anything she's going to be mad. Try telling her she's gonna be mad. You women are complicated as all Fuck. That's why no one can figure out women. Men feed us food and sex we think we are kings.
It´s really none of your business. Move on, leave it all behind.
You were his ex. It’s not like he forced you to that relationship , you went there. Now after breakup you want bad for him , whatever he’s doing is his business not yours
I don’t want bad for him , I just felt sorry for the girl
Are you friends with her? I'd you're not, it's not your business to tell the girl. People will think you are just jealous
U are right
HELL YES YOU SHOULD!! How she takes it is on her. If she accepts that kind of shit... then that’s for her to deal with. The least you could do is let her know what’s going on.
I would do it anonymously or have the girl who he asked out to tell her. I wouldn’t directly do it yourself because he could make it out like you’re bitter and jealous and who’s she to believe?
I would tell. I go off the basis that I would rather someone do the same to me. So I would let her know.
He's TOXIC? That's even more of a reason to assure that another innocent woman doesn't fall into his manipulative grasp (further).
If I knew you, I would tell her for you and I would want him to try to do something to me.