OK so I've been really really stressed these past few months (very unrelated to corona) and i was particularly upset that day and my boyfriend and I, we kinda had a little disagreement and I broke up with him. I was being difficult and dumb and I didn't wanna sit with him and talk about it (´-﹏-`；) and I only realised how trivial the matter was the next day. In that short time that we weren't together... it felt like someone had ripped out a major organ from me. Not a pleasant feeling by the way. But anyway I gained the couraged and we talked and I apologised and then he apologised and said it was his fault and I told him it was mine and we made up... kinda. Lately I feel I little rift between us. I can tell his still hurt and hez paranoid I might break up with him again. We tried to have another talk today but he doesn't like confrontation and he was probably scared we might argue again so he ran off. How can I let him know I love him and that am sorry? ( I'm not too bad at singing and creative writing so I wanted to write him a song then I smacked my forehead coz I just rememberer this isn't a musical rom com where everything is fixed by singing)
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Thank you lovely lads most of your advice helped save my relationship. I'm forever grateful (・∀・)👌✨
I think I broke my manz... how can I apologise (,,•́ . •̀,,)?
Uncertainty is never a comfortable feeling in a relationship and breaking up, even if only for a short period of time, can lead to paranoia of separation.
He's afraid of losing you, just as much as you're afraid of the same thing. Reassurance with emotional bonding is always a healthy cure for situations like these. He needs closure in knowing this won't happen again. Depending on his personality, he'll either appreciate your full honesty on what happened to you back there, wants to be intimate with you again, via cuddling, kissing, hugging, e. t. c and/or just wants to forget that moment happened and get back to where things were with you before the argument occurred. You can go over the top with a generous homemade gift of your own, like you mentioned if you want but that's optional since it's mainly reassurance your boyfriend wants here!
Time will heal these emotional wounds. I'm sure he'll be ok after a brief period of time! It's wonderful to know he really cares about you, even if he's afraid of arguing with you again 😊 Hope this helps with your situation! It sounds like you two have quite a healthy relationship!
Don't use words. Shut up. Cuddle with him until it becomes awkward. Then keep on. For long. Really long. Like 5 minutes. Then watch him straight into the eyes for 4 more minutes. Don't talk, silence him with a finger if he wants to. When you are both crying, well done. You've rebuilt one of the strongest emotionnal connection there can ever be. On next conflict, argument... just do the same. No words, said or written can achieve that.
If I'm in a relationship with someone who I really love there is no worse feeling than to just get dumped by her and for a reason that probably didn't have to go that far the problem with the world today is most relationships don't mean anything like they used to be like, More of a fear of God's wrath back then I guess it seems like today's relationships are just considered as a throw away union. Now sorry to say but I do put this majority of the sadness and hate to say but childish behavior in your court. I don't know where you are in your situation with him as far as sexual contact living arrangements or anything thing like that so kinda hard to tell you what I believe would be effective from for you to fix this better than it was to start
I actually think you should focus on having a great time together and not dwell too much on it. He should come around, especially if he's having a great time with you. Also if you want to talk about something, I think it's better not to make it like a confrontation. You can be cuddling together and maybe talk lightly about it, maybe with some humor and affection, and gently work into it.
You can do a lot of little nice gestures for him outside of an apology context, brighten up his day now and then. I think that works better to cheer him up and increase the chances of him coming around than a grandiose romantic apology... which might have the inadvertent effect of serving to remind him more of the breakup.
Takes time and not to be mean but sounds like you both need to mature a little. Maybe keep that in mind next time. But be patient and just love each other.
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You need to regain his trust and make him feel secure in your love for him. Be completely honest and open and tell him everything you've told us here, and tell him in depth how you feel about him.
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