Is “I’m not ready for anything serious” a cop out? (Page 2)

Question

I was with my ex for 7 years and we had a daughter then 6 months later i got into a relationship with someone else for 3 years and we had a son. We even planned to have our son and we were living together. We broke up in December and it was a nasty breakup we argued on Facebook he tried to take my son away from me...  I met this guy last month and i told him that I’ve been in two long term relationships back to back and i had kids in both relationships and I’m not ready for anything serious but i like him and he said “that’s a cop out

micahj80 · Answer

Run. If he was the guy for you, he'd be more understanding that you can't jump headfirst into a new relationship. You have 2 children that should be your #1 focus. He should respect that.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

Listen you have to do what best for you if your not ready then you not ready. If he's really into you he'll wait if not then you he was never really that into you

Twalli · Answer

I don't think it's a cop out. It's laying all your cards on the table pretty much at the beginning, which considering the situation is probably a good thing.

Joey101 · Answer

It is. My advice.. Don't let fear that came from what happened dictate what could happen.

beldath · Answer

Doesn't sound very understanding, and not worth your time.

Knuxx · Answer

You have every right to take to take your time. That guy has graciously shown you his maturity level. So you don't have to worry about him.

Kathy_Scorpio97 · Answer

No it’s not. Plus can’t just be thinking about you. You gotta becareful who you bring around your kids. My mom seems like at least every 6 months two a year their be a new guy.

es20490446e · Answer

Knowing what you now know, what had you done differently about your past relationships?

CocoFrosty · Answer

Seems like you think having kids is a fun game smh wats the world gone to? 🤦😒

COMMODOREII · Answer

A cop out means avoid doing something that one ought to do. You have the right to do what you want.

PrTafi · Answer

Why people get children, when there is chances that their chances will suffer a lot, Are really humans that brutal and harsh

AmeerX · Answer

Wait you are 25 and already failed 2 relationship? That does give a man a red signal

Aaron80 · Answer

Nope, and if your feelings are so easily dismissed by the new next, raise your bar higher

Gedaria · Answer

It can be, but a lot of people use it for I am just after sex now and then...

msc545 · Answer

No, assuming it's truth, telling someone is courteous. I would rather know ahead of time.

TallAnon · Answer

No, that sounds like a reason argument to me. If you know yourself, then go with your gut.

UnfairAdvantage · Answer

If he's looking for something serious with you, it's because he obviously is not serious. ...

Stella_79 · Answer

No not cop out not ready plus gotta becareful who you bring around your kids.

OpenNudist · Answer

When you have two children by two different Guys apparently you get over things rather quickly.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Two guys, two kids, working on guy #3... trashy whore.

Tonystark0 · Answer

What is driving you to do that You don't have any idia life it's about choise help help is what you need

Cryptic-Game · Answer

Yes. They want just a sexual side kick woman. There are women who only want a sexual side kick man too. It just is an excuse.

Anonymous · Answer

"he tried to take my son away from me" Sounds like you took his son away from him.

Benjr134 · Answer

Not all the time. However, it seems like it is in this situation.

Aislin9 · Answer

Sounds like you need to find better men.

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

nope... if you need time to heal, take the time...

Massageman · Answer

Not if you REALLY mean it.

douride2 · Answer

Don't let him rush you. If your not ready wait.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Can be depending on how life is going

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Not a cop out at all

ReeseM · Answer

You got to be ready for something.

reptocarl2 · Answer

Definitely

Numbnuts89 · Answer

yeah

mrArcher · Answer

Yes.

In_Trance · Answer

Yeah I think so

ALewis30 · Answer

I don't think so.

hakanNFT · Answer

You Had child? :S

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