All my boyfriends dumped me over text and, ew, it was bad each time (for me lol). That showed me who they really were : immature, disrespectful and, the worst, coward. Being dumped over text is never okay, because you don’t see it coming, you can’t have a talk with the person or saying goodbye (when you really love the partner), and it’s so much more difficult to move on as you don’t have closure.
Everyone always says do it in person, but if you both know the relationship is not working out, over text is my preferred method if someone was to break up with me. None of that "I want to be friends though crap that nobody wants to here crap from the girl when their balls are being crushed."
It's not just about being a man and facing the music and such. If you break up over a text that means the relationship itself was meaningless to you and not something you put effort in. Personally I don't like to use texting for anything other than small talk and jokes. All real conversation I either have in person or over the phone.
When a face to face breakup could put your life at risk. I’ve only broken up with one girl through text in my 8 years of dating and it was because I truly thought she was mentally unstable and I didn’t put it past her to kill me out of hurt. Thinking back it might have been better to do the breakup somewhere with witnesses.
But yeah. Only if you truly believe they would physically harm you.
If we met on a dating app and de ided to give it a go, after a couple of weeks decided it's not working, then I dont think a text is to. much of a surprise or to unreasonable.
If you got together by meeting in person and getting to know each other (ie first contact was not digital) then it should be done face to face even if just after a couple of weeks.
If there is a way to do it in person, I would say that is the better route. Then again, there are many different situations that come to mind as well. Maybe in the case of an abusive relationship sending a text is the best thing to do for safety reasons. I guess I'm going to settle on the idea that there is no answer that fits all.
Almost never. I never do that and I expect the same vice versa. When you end it, you better have the guts to say it to my face.
The only time it's acceptable is if you're finding out that the other person is dangerous or crazy and you really do not want to see them again. Then you can break up by text and never go back.
A voice conversation is more personal, and shows that you are mature enough to face reality. Also, a friend's of mine was dumped by a girl via text message. Later it turned out that it wasn't her that sent the message; it was a jealous classmate. All the same, it damaged their trust and hurry their relationship. The only exception would be if you never got past a texting- only relationship in the first place. In that case, it would be okay.
I can either break up with you via text or ghost you. I am not a ghoster. I'm pretty sure the breakupee would like to be told too! They wanna know more I'll meet up or call.
NO. Not if you valued your time with that person. Breaking up over text is super impersonal and cold. Face to face is best, if not then call or FaceTime
Ok in life i have a golden rule. If they don't have the balls to ask you out in real life and the relationship goes on for less than three months, you can dump over text. In any other situation, they deserve to be told the news face to face. Plain and simple.
Been broken up with five times over text, the last time it didn't send... I was waiting for her to come back for five months wondering if she was even alive (she had talked about suiced before) she had given up on me and had a new guy in the first week... Moral if you use a text to break up, make sure they know about it.
No. TALK directly to the person, tell them 'it's over', or 'we're done', and then move on. No explanation, no blaming, no accusations. All that crap has already been beat to death. Just tell them you're done and it's over. And then be done.
Short of there existing some sort of abuse or violence in the relationship, NO! Breaking up by text is a coward’s way out. Same with breaking up by email. At the very least, do it in a phone call. Otherwise, face to face.
People who use text or email as their method to end their relationships are as low as cheaters and are to be avoid... no integrity, no honor, disrespectful. Pure cowardice...
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It is never OK to do that. It’s like you’re not man enough or woman enough to meet with this person directly break their heart to end things. That shows the type of person you are character. It’s heartless. And you’re only sparing your feelings not the other person.
If there's a risk of violence or they've done something so bad you really don't want to be near them then yes it is. But if it's just a case of things not working out it's better face to face.
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All my boyfriends dumped me over text and, ew, it was bad each time (for me lol).
That showed me who they really were : immature, disrespectful and, the worst, coward.
Being dumped over text is never okay, because you don’t see it coming, you can’t have a talk with the person or saying goodbye (when you really love the partner), and it’s so much more difficult to move on as you don’t have closure.
Everyone always says do it in person, but if you both know the relationship is not working out, over text is my preferred method if someone was to break up with me. None of that "I want to be friends though crap that nobody wants to here crap from the girl when their balls are being crushed."
Well answers are pretty much unanimous here.
It's not just about being a man and facing the music and such. If you break up over a text that means the relationship itself was meaningless to you and not something you put effort in.
Personally I don't like to use texting for anything other than small talk and jokes. All real conversation I either have in person or over the phone.
It’s only acceptable (to me) under one condition.
When a face to face breakup could put your life at risk. I’ve only broken up with one girl through text in my 8 years of dating and it was because I truly thought she was mentally unstable and I didn’t put it past her to kill me out of hurt. Thinking back it might have been better to do the breakup somewhere with witnesses.
But yeah. Only if you truly believe they would physically harm you.
It depends on the situation.
If we met on a dating app and de ided to give it a go, after a couple of weeks decided it's not working, then I dont think a text is to. much of a surprise or to unreasonable.
If you got together by meeting in person and getting to know each other (ie first contact was not digital) then it should be done face to face even if just after a couple of weeks.
If there is a way to do it in person, I would say that is the better route. Then again, there are many different situations that come to mind as well. Maybe in the case of an abusive relationship sending a text is the best thing to do for safety reasons. I guess I'm going to settle on the idea that there is no answer that fits all.
Almost never. I never do that and I expect the same vice versa. When you end it, you better have the guts to say it to my face.
The only time it's acceptable is if you're finding out that the other person is dangerous or crazy and you really do not want to see them again. Then you can break up by text and never go back.
A voice conversation is more personal, and shows that you are mature enough to face reality. Also, a friend's of mine was dumped by a girl via text message. Later it turned out that it wasn't her that sent the message; it was a jealous classmate. All the same, it damaged their trust and hurry their relationship. The only exception would be if you never got past a texting- only relationship in the first place. In that case, it would be okay.
YES.
If you just caught your partner or have proof that your partner cheated on you then yes.
If your partner I'd abusive then again yes.
But other than these reasons breaking up with your partner over a text is awful and cowardly
*is abusive
I can either break up with you via text or ghost you. I am not a ghoster. I'm pretty sure the breakupee would like to be told too! They wanna know more I'll meet up or call.
NO. Not if you valued your time with that person. Breaking up over text is super impersonal and cold. Face to face is best, if not then call or FaceTime
I think it is. If I'm going to break up with someone, I'm going to do it however I want and they are just going to have to accept it.
I guess if they are timid maybe but most times breaking up via text can leave open opportunity for further confrontation.
As with any form of breaking up.
That happened to me last year and it was unnecessary. She even did it when I was out of state.
Id say it's acceptable only if there is a realistic threat of violence.
Ok in life i have a golden rule. If they don't have the balls to ask you out in real life and the relationship goes on for less than three months, you can dump over text. In any other situation, they deserve to be told the news face to face. Plain and simple.
Golden rule?
I think it revolves around a person's morals. Golden rule sounds like an overstatement.
Been broken up with five times over text, the last time it didn't send... I was waiting for her to come back for five months wondering if she was even alive (she had talked about suiced before) she had given up on me and had a new guy in the first week... Moral if you use a text to break up, make sure they know about it.
No. TALK directly to the person, tell them 'it's over', or 'we're done', and then move on. No explanation, no blaming, no accusations. All that crap has already been beat to death. Just tell them you're done and it's over. And then be done.
bro if its an abusive relationship tho
@_Jay_ - That's called 'ghosting'. :)
You don't stick your dick in BSC.
well you can't exactly ghost if the guy knows where you live.
@_Jay_ - You're kind of dim, huh? The question was, should you end it by texting. The answer is NO.
Short of there existing some sort of abuse or violence in the relationship, NO! Breaking up by text is a coward’s way out. Same with breaking up by email. At the very least, do it in a phone call. Otherwise, face to face.
People who use text or email as their method to end their relationships are as low as cheaters and are to be avoid... no integrity, no honor, disrespectful. Pure cowardice...
It is never OK to do that. It’s like you’re not man enough or woman enough to meet with this person directly break their heart to end things. That shows the type of person you are character. It’s heartless. And you’re only sparing your feelings not the other person.
I said yes, but because of how you worded the question there really wasn't another legitimate answer.
The problem is, is it acceptable to whom? The person doing the breaking up? sure it's likely acceptable to them, they are doing it after all...
To someone with overwhelming social anxiety, it's probably more acceptable than many alternatives.
To many many others, I very much doubt they would find it acceptable.
If there's a risk of violence or they've done something so bad you really don't want to be near them then yes it is. But if it's just a case of things not working out it's better face to face.