Was my ex baiting me or being passive aggressive when he texted me this?

[vnicoleg]

Me and my ex boyfriend were together for 2 years and we broke up 1 month ago. I was in no contact for 30 days and he texted me for the first time and said, "I wish I never F'd up, i hope your happy and blessed now". I replied back "ok..." i wish i never responded though. That really was not much of an apology. That message made me upset.

[Anonymous]

Hi - you asked us whether your ex was “baiting“ you or “being passive aggressive when he texted“ you, but there’s really not enough information available to us to make that decision.

All you said is that you went out 2 years and were “in no contact for 30 days” and then he texted you that he messed up and wished you well, and now you are upset that you replied to him.

You don’t say why you broke up or what kind of guy/boyfriend he was, but a good guess is that he wronged you somehow because you’re questioning whether he was trying to trigger you by merely sending “sorry & farewell” message.

You can’t change the past, but you can move on. Take a look at the following articles (with excerpts)...

“7 Stages of Grieving a Breakup”...

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/me-we/201406/the-7-stages-grieving-breakup

1. Desperate for Answers
2. Denial
3. Bargaining
4. Relapse
5. Anger
6. Initial Acceptance
7. Redirected Hope

Post-breakup coping advice...

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lifetime-connections/201904/break-recovery-101-how-heal-heartbreak

Physically Working Your Way Through a Break-Up [exercise]

Keep Your Focus on the Future, Not the Past [find new experiences]

Coping with a Break-Up When a Partner was More Than a Partner [ask friends to brainstorm solutions for problems that an ex would normally help you solve]

Binging Away the Heartache Isn’t Always Best [get reconnected/keep engaged with others instead of spending too much time on “self care” hiding out & binge eating/drinking]

“Rebound Hookups”—Tread Carefully [find a less self-destructive coping strategy than hooking up]

“Dating Moratorium”—Wait Until You’re Ready, But Don’t Wait Too Long [get back in touch with your own identity first, and then “date for companionship” instead of “dating out of desperation”]

“13 Steps to Recover From Betrayal”...

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/14-steps-to-recover-from-_b_5660057

1. Erase the imprints of betrayal. [meditate and purge old memories/thought patterns]

2. Forgive. [free yourself from “pain, frustration, and bitterness”]

3. Throw betrayal away. [write about your betrayal and “get rid of it in a dramatic way”]

4. Start faith slow. [“rediscover faith” slowly]

5. Find others who have faith. [“Surround yourself” with honest/faithful people]

6. Regain faith in yourself. [trust yourself & your abilities again]

7. Detach from people you don't trust.

8. Don't betray. [just never do it]

9. Envision a future free of betrayal. [“What you fear most, you most attract, and if you quiet your fears, you can control what you draw in.”]

10. Control your emotions. [beware of extreme emotions; don’t obsess over the past]

11. Take a leap of faith. [“Follow the voice of your intuition”]

12. Trust two people unconditionally.

13. Reaffirm your faith each day. [“speak an affirmation to yourself” each morning]

[Avicenna]

Passive aggressive in all likelihood

[RHK36]

Why do you care? Block him and move on.

[reptocarl2]

Why do you care?

[Iron_Man]

He want you back