Pregnant AGAIN from ex.. what do I do?

[Anonymous]

I am pro choice if you are not please do not have me for discussing abortion. My ex came inside me without my consent, he knows I do not want to be pregnant. I just had a baby this past April. We are broken up now and I found out because of what he did last month I am now pregnant again. I assumed I would just get an abortion but I am second guessing because 1. I do want a second child I just didn’t so soon and not with my ex 2. M child would be full siblings and not half / same father and I wouldn’t have two baby daddies in the future. 3. He did this on purpose because he knew I was going to leave him and he is super manipulative and a liar. Would it make me weird to have his second child even though we will not be together. Or what should I do? I’m just lost.. last pregnancy I was severely sick.

[mindNsoul]

I really tried to see it from your point of view and be understanding. However anyone who pointed out that you made a wrong choice you just dismissed their opinion because 'they are nor understanding' and being judgmental. But what about accountability and being a responsible adult.

1. Why didn't you use the pill, or a morning pill after, or any birth control method. And unless he raped you how come you didn't consent? and if you mean he didn't pull out than why not taking the morning pill. It's another way of not taking responsibility. Abortion should not be used as birth control method.

2. You referred to your baby as a boy. So you're perhaps in your second or third trimester. Why did you wait for this long to terminate. looks like plans with your ex didn't go as you expected. Why being so undecisive. Was that your behavior during sex undecisive and unassertive.

3. You are currently unemployed and your mom helps you. She will continue to help if you decided to work. How is that fair to her! should people throw their lives in order to attend to your ventures and desires.

4. On top of that you are bringing another child into this mess. Not well financially planned or emotionally planned.

5. Having two baby daddies by your logic is worse than having an abortion! Well yeah having two baby daddies is bad for the kids emotional stability especially if one father was a better provider and more attentive. And if you end up a single mom with different baby daddies.

If course since I said that I must be evil and not understanding. And judgmental too. But sometimes the only way we stop a pattern is by reflecting on our behavior and choices. I don't know how far into your pregnancy you are. But this is sad.

I would only wish that regardless of your choice to keep the baby or no. I would only wish that despite how you worded this question that you are a good person and a good mother. A good human too. Next time try to have boundaries and take decisions that are not emotions or hormones driven. I'm neutral about abortion in general. And you really need to think and take care of your health. And I hope you make good choices in the future.

[FocusOfSuspicion]

So, you have a baby. You’re gonna have a baby. He’s on the hook for that child just the same as the other. You could probably sue for child support so it’s weird to me that he’d do that out of vindictiveness, because it could majorly backfire.

You should stop having sex with him. I mean you say he came in you without permission, but hon’ why was he in you at all? If you keep going back to him, maybe you should still be together...

If you have financial issues with supporting the child or just paying for childcare there are a number of organizations you can go to. Worst come to worst drive around planned parenthood every day until you see some protesters, and go ask them for help. We’re talking about people who’d probably offer to adopt the child themselves to prevent it from being aborted so they’ll have or know where you can find resources.

[Zealashton]

hmmm. here is a thing

you will have lots of prolife fagots, ok,
but those fuckings will not care about the kid when that kid is on the street as adult being a bum, beacuse , a shit mom is sigal, and dose not have the capablitys to raising it, and leachs off a man.

sigal mothers are the worst,

trust me
the whore who gave birth too me, ruined my fucking life, and my dads. my dad left and abadoned me, and it fucked everything up

and now fast forwords, im 30 my life fucking sucks like shit, i have no job, i have no girl friend, im a virgin, and i am gentially mutilated, go look up blood stain men on face book

overall, its horse shit, and those pro fagots, saying oh your lucky to be alive,
i say fuck you, if i was aborted, i be better fucking off, beacus ei would not have too hear bull shit from you people

here's the thing, dose anyone give a homeless man a house, food and stuff, no no they doo not, they just walk on by and and only care about them selves,

sure abortion sucks shit for a year or so, but. its only that, nothing more,
you have think about, shit, like, is this child no is this person going to live a normal life, will they succed. will they find love, will they be a good person, can i actually take care of them,

oh and for the adoption shit lols, that s a fucking joke right their lols.

your ex is an ex for a reason,
its ethire your a crazy fuck
or you have bad choice in men and their for your also stupied,
and thus a sigal mom spells out, gold diger badge, and stupied person,

shure my step mom i call mom, is a rare gem, but thats extreamly rare, to have, not man wemon are like her in the world, saved me from that whore, and treated me like a son, but thats extreamly rare.

[Zealashton]

also my grand mother was a fucking sigal mothher, , my dad and my uncel had a shit life growijng up. beacuse that bitch fucked the wrong guy, had to kids, and left.
my dad worked as a bouncer, and then painter, done tons of dangrus jobs, mentally unhealthy, is has a distended gut, aksa, muccels are completly weak to hold in his intestins, works at a nuke plant, and has no retirement saveings
he will die with tools in his hands.

no proper education, and a shit life,

so yaa, sigal parants suck, unless they are widows, widows are a diffrent ball game, still can find a new lover and shit and is pure gold,

a sigal parant just dose not have the financal power a couple has, and into days time, it will be a shit show,

and with education and doctors being scum begs, and brain washing people and oh and male gentail mutlation bull shit. doctors promote,.

the qestion is,
how much are you willing to sacrifice to raiseing a kid all on your own. are you willing to give up everything annd ready to go through hell, for the sake of a new child,

in other words, can you cut off your own arm and still manage to make shit happen. and keep fighting on even though your bloody battered and beatan with arrows sticking out all over your body. if so , then do it.
if you dont have the balls to do it then do not , but if you do, the do it

[Zealashton]

also abotion will fuck with your head mentally. but, dont let it get at you, 2 years of depression is nothing, i am 30. i have had a shit life, no job no girlfriend, and a virgin, i could go on, but just say, this, i am hope for all depressed people . for i won't die, for i want to keep moveing forwords to a better future, to eat that fucking chesse cack and have sex one day

[Warmapplecrumble]

Reading this made me cry

[Zealashton]

@Warmapplecrumble i apoligoze if it mad you cry, . but its the truth , also, if it makes people feel better, i did not gain an entity, awaken till i was 4 i can remember exactaly the location too, i just found the spot few years ago too, . most people don't even get that type of chance to see their awaking location. its a very strange feeling, really. looking at that spot, and unsettling as well, with so much qestions, to ask, but no answers to be found.

[Warmapplecrumble]

Well the story kinda hits home to me, I actually did what you said long time ago and I can't get over it.
Tell me about your awakening?

[Zealashton]

@Warmapplecrumble i call it an awakening, some call it a first memorry.

its like this, you already know what death is like, it simular to if you close your eyes, and not think, but suddenl y in a snap you lights are on, and you just looking around with no thoughts, 10 years go bye and you are able to discribe what happened,

nothing more

but my first memmory, the lights turnng on, i was at a bidge in whityby ontario king st, i was on the second cement block of the bridge,

i look up saw her blond hair woman, holding my hand, and i saw a park , gray clouds, cold, i think it was winter, i am not sure, their was no snow, so i could have been November, early November, 1990s its was a lot colder. who knows
but i played enjoyed my self,
but i then left the park and headed home, a birthday celibation was waiting for me that day, and it was i can now discrib it, emberassing, and i hid under the tabel, but i had a strong charrising, feling about the to old people, nanny and pappa,

[Zealashton]

also ,
do not genitally mutilate a boy, www.youtube.com/watch https://www.facebook.com/BrotherKBloodstainedMen/

[Warmapplecrumble]

Thanks for the explanation. And no I won't circumcise my child ever.

[Zealashton]

@Warmapplecru at the end of the day,

when the son gose down and the moon rises,
it is your choice,
to have a kid or not
its is a mans choice to weather or not, he wants to give you that choice,

but overall, do what makes you happy, do what makes for and overall never regreat your desicion. no matter what. and absalutly try to enjoy life

[Reaperbot666]

considering they willingly engage in a sexual encounter without protection. but only relaying on the pull out method which can fail rather easily. even if the guys does manage to pull out in time. sounds like she might have secretly wanted. to get pregnant by him again even at a subconscious level. since she wanted another child so he first was not an only child. or he is just a jerk who didn't care because he wanted to leave her. however now he can be but on the hook for child support. without custody or visitation if she wishes to go that route with the law. just hope she can manage to raise the children by herself or with help from family and friends. at any rate considering she had medical issues from her first pregnancy. might be wise to speak with her doctors about the ordeal. and see what advice they offer her in the long run. if she chooses to abort the sooner the better however. but then she might regret it later on in life.

[Novacane]

You seem to contradict yourself in your reasons. My thing is why would you want another kid with someone that is a liar and manipulative. If he gets you to keep the baby then you are doing exactly what he wants. And if you allow it who is not to say that he will do that again, then you will have another kid from a guy that you don't love and continue the cycle. I understand that you don't want 2 baby daddy but if you don't love this person then why have their kids, especially if he did that without your consent that is very wrong. I understand you do want another kid but if the timing is not right and the person you are having it with is not right then have an abortion if you feel that it's needed. break the cycle don't continue it.

[LittleAngelicShxt]

First of all I think you should take an advice from a psychologist on how you can handle everything because what you going through sounds pretty messed up. What he did is extremely wrong, and no matter if you keep the baby or not, you should stay away from him and don't let that man close to your children.

[Asker]

Thank you for understanding and I have no support from family on this. He will guilt me and make me look like the bad guy to everyone else. Today I was going to call the clinic but had second guesses..

[LittleAngelicShxt]

Please, take your time to think about all this. And consider what I said about getting the opinion of a professional. These kind of people are extremely toxic and difficult to deal with.

[callmex3na]

I personally think that it is up to you. If you genuinely think you can't have a kid right now, then you know what to do. If you want to keep the kid, then ask your ex for child support. But know this, there must be a reason why he is an ex. Dont keep going back to him for sex especially if its going to end up with you having another kid. Use a condom, get on birth control, or use the morning after pill. There are so many things to prevent pregnancy. It is not just his fault for getting you pregnant... it is also yours. You both need to sit down and talk about what to do.

[Anonymous]

Most women have never even been in this position before to share an opinion. I know what you are going through TRUST ME! You already have a kid by him so its like why not? I've had an abortion you never forget it. Then later I was worried about having a kid too soon after my last... its all excuses that we make bc we are afraid... afraid of what tho? We create our own fears of failure. Its a baby and its yours i considered 2 more abortions went to the office and everything and GLAD I MEAN SOOOOOO HAPPY i didn't go through with em... i have 2 bds but whatever at the end of the day i just shake my head and think i can't believe i thought about killing my baby he is so beautiful. It will all workout... ok you let him hit raw (i did too) you believed him (i did too) but it HAPPENED and your baby is a blessing GOD would never put more on you than you could handle.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your answer.

[Anonymous]

You say it wasn't consented? First, you're playing the blame game. We all know when a man is about to cut it can go either way.. also there is a chance to get pregnant with precum (very small). How about you should have worn a condom or you should have taken the morning after pill? None of these things came to you? Take responsibility for your actions.. yes, we all make mistakes but what annoys me is people who don't own up to their responsibilities. Yes, u should get an abortion... simply bc you are NOT ready to be a mom.. especially with having the responsibility of 2 children. N if you wanted to leave him so bad, why are u fucking him?

[hi_it_is_me123]

This is rape by law what he has done

[Opinion Owner]

Wow, how is it rape that she consented to having sex but he came in her? Well of she came then did she rape him? This is insane. This is why when a woman is ACTUALLY RAPED THEY ARE FUCKING QUESTIONED ON THE VALIDITY. UNLESS IM MISSING INFORMATION, SHE CERTAINLY wasn't RAPED SIMPLY BC HE didn't ASK HER IF HE SHOULD PULL OUT! This was something they should have both discussed.

[hi_it_is_me123]

She does not consent with cuming in her. This is like when a guy have vaginal sex with you but suddenly rape you anal

[Opinion Owner]

That's completely different. But I'm not getting into this conversation... have a good day!

[hi_it_is_me123]

No same

[Saturnxox]

Lol. Imagine fucking and him asking "honey, do I have concent to cum inside you?" 😂
When you are fucking a guy you have to accept the consequences.
He probably just came inside her on accident.
And the pre cum could have made her just as pregnant. So the whole cumming part isn't even the problem.
The problem already started at the giving concent to have sex without protection.

[Opinion Owner]

@Saturnxox my point exactly.. maybe she shouldn't be having unprotected sex if she didn't want to get pregnant.. there's a thought. N to now say it wasn't consensual is shifty. This is how people who actually get rapped have a problem proving they were raped.. bc people don't want to except where they went wrong. If he forced himself on her all together, I see her issue.. however she stated she wanted to have sex but didn't expect hed cum in her. She needs to except she did this to herself. I wonder if she had permission to cum? Should he claim rape now? No, she doesn't need to have kids.

[Saturnxox]

Definitely no kids. How can you take care of your children when you are not responsible nor you want to accept the fact that you can't just shove your mistakes onto others.

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly... and she says on someone else's comment that she has no support of family.. well maybe it's bc she isn't taking responsibility for her actions. Close your damn legs if you don't want to get pregnant... further more there is plan B. What she didn't feel the cum leak back out? Some people enjoy the drama but don't want to face the consequences.

[hi_it_is_me123]

@Saturnxox so you are ok with getting raped by anal although you only consent to have vaginal sex? Just because you liked getting raped and have no self respect, dont think everyone is like you

[Opinion Owner]

First of all you're an idiot.. second of all, I have been RAPED! AND THE RAPIST GOT AWAY WITH IT... I didn't like it.. but there is a different you fucking moron.. I didn't say, fuck me but don't cum in me. Or didn't say, fuck me but got upset when the invetibable happened. What is your obsession with anal? N just shut up already

[hi_it_is_me123]

Maybe it is not rape but sexual assault. You should have gone to hospital and get rape kit. Now stfu you stupid bitch

[hi_it_is_me123]

Sorry for being not sensible. I am sorry thst you get raped.

[Neko911]

@hi_it_is_me123 that's not rape lmao. Is she tried to bring that to court it would be thrown out. She's an adult who consented to sex. Just because it didn't pull out doesn't make it rape. That's a dumbass logic if you believe that to be rape

[mindNsoul]

It wasn't rape and it wasn't a sexual assault in her case because they were in a relationship at the time and already had a baby. Why that matter because it means he had been cumming inside her for a while and it wasn't a problem until now it is inconvenient. She stated in another comment that they were still hoping to stay together and be a family again. So if a guy has been already cumming inside his girl at the time how can after few months she says it was rape or I didn't consent to get pregnant. Well there were no guarantees that he would cum inside her that one time and she will definitely be pregnant. She claims he wanted her to be pregnant and she didn't and that's BS. Because they were still trying to be a family and his faluire to pull out and bad luck to get her pregnant when it's inconvenient is not rape or assault. Bad decisions and failure to amend afterwards by using the morning pill.

She had hopes that her ex would of been a better man. But those hopes collapsed and now they're not together she is wondering if she should keep the baby. So let's not demonize the man hearing one side of the story that obviously shows that it was bad decisions. She also referred somewhere to her baby that it's a boy. So she is in her second or third trimester. Which shows that this doesn't happen immediately after the pregnancy but it is a discussion now that they are no longer together. If someone doesn't want kids this bad why waiting for so long. Obviously she is indecisive, and not assertive so she makes these type of mistakes.

[Saturnxox]

@hi_it_is_me123 I've been sexually assaulted before. It was no fun.
But this wasn't rape nor sexual assault.
They had sex, she wanted to do the pull out method WHAT IS NOT SAFE and he accidentally came in her. If your doing something risky accept the consequences.
If she really didn't want babies and she really did not want him to cum inside her she would have asked him to wear a condom.

[hi_it_is_me123]

By all your logic marital rape or rape in a relationship is not a thing since it was her boyfriend

[hi_it_is_me123]

@Saturnxox it is. Like it or not. I dont give s f sbout pregnancy. I only the care about the sexual assault part. Just answere my question. It is not rape or srxual assault when your boyfriend do things you dont consent such as chocking, anal, etc? By all of your logic if i kill/rape someone during sex, it is not rape/murder or whatever

[hi_it_is_me123]

I also stop mention all of your anecdotal experiences. I also was sexual assaulted my a homless man who touch me out of nowhere and said inappropriate things when i was 15-16 years. Shut tf up and stop normalizing sexusl assault

[hi_it_is_me123]

Saturnxoc the asker said it he did it on purpose.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Can you all descripe when sexual assault/ rape begin? I am just interested in it. Some of you say it is never rape/sexual assault when it is her boyfriend, some of you say it is never sexual assault/rape as long as it done during sex.

[hi_it_is_me123]

"Sexual assault is an act in which a person intentionally sexually touches another person without that person's consent, or coerces or physically forces a person to engage in a sexual act against their will.[1" -my source.

[hi_it_is_me123]

It was against her consent period. I can't believe how stupid fucktards like you defend a sexual harasser.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Ok i am confused. I thought guys can control it. If they can't control it, then it is not sexual assault or whatever of course

[mindNsoul]

@hi_it_is_me123 no one said it is never a sexual assault when it her boyfriend so don't put words into our mouth just so you can get heated and then go on about illogical rants. It's obvious you're passionate about the subject which I can admire but being passionate doesn't mean to minimize other people traumatic experiences.

Anyways, I clearly said "in this woman's case" they were actively having sex and by her words trying to be a family again. I'm not going to repeat the whole reasoning I gave because I'm not bothered to have arguments for the sake of them. Every case is different and context is very important. It is not the fact of someone merely claiming something and then that's straight on rape accusations that had to be believed.

And to shed light on what you asked, consent to sex is different than practicing pulling out method. Saying No to sex or a form of sex is different than claiming that someone didn't pull out on time. Whether you like it or not it is not the same and it is not an assault. Claiming what another person intention was is rubbish as evidence. Because No two people can agree on intentions without proof or a confession. Only God can tell what was in one's heart. Or so I heard. So again forcing anal or violent sex on someone is rape. Forcing viginal intercourse is rape. Husband or not. Other than that I have nothing to add really. And I'd leave it at that because I'm busy and there is nothing you can say that would change my mind about it.

[Saturnxox]

Guys can't controle when they cum. You and I also can't.
I think it wasn't rape because she agreed to have sex, she didn't tell him to stop touching her at any point.
She thinks he did it on purpose because she thinks he's evil, but the chance it was a accident is just as high.
Cumming is a part of having vaginal sex to me. You have sex until you cum.
If she said to her boyfriends that she didn't want sex and he forced himself on her, yes that is rape.
If he touched her without concent yes that's sexual assault.

[Saturnxox]

And I agree with @mindNsoul

[Massageman]

I'm sorry that you are having to deal with a manipulative man in your life.
Try to find a "pregnancy center" near your location.
I worked with one such group for about a year.
They will offer support as you progress through the pregnancy and decide if you will remain the care-taking mother, or to have the baby raised by an adoptive couple.
Good luck.

https://resources.care-net.org/find-a-pregnancy-center/clkn/tel/877-791-5475

[SenseiSeptred]

There is a way that some people can be of the good alignment that is manipulative, but he does not sound like one of those people, and some people that are liars have run some of the best of world-spanning businesses, but his sound like they are destructive in ways that are not pure of heart. I would try to show some of the best of heartful based activities while telling him that what he did was wrong, but you realize that he trusts you enough to want another child with you even though it was done immorally, and for that trust from him that you will try to carry out the pregnancy for as long as possible, and will eat some different foods to make it so that you don't become so sick next time. That is just my suggestion which I hope helps a little bit?

[AngelLily]

It's definitely not weird to have the kid you had his first kid so I don't see why it would be anywhere weirder than the first also just for a little note it's probably best if you stopped sleeping with him if this keeps happening Ir at least use protection.

[honestGUY45]

Stop getting with an ex. No matter what anyone says, you are ultimately responsible for preventing your pregnancy. This may sound dickish, but if you're the one that has to go through the pregnancy and there's no guarantee the father will be there, you need to cover your ass by any means necessary. They say it takes two to make a baby, but that's just a catchy phrase women like to use. You can get pregnant without having a sexual partner, and you can use multiple forms of birth control to keep yourself from getting pregnant whether the man wants you to or not. Your body, your future, your call.

[ZackBan]

For future reference if you know you're gonna leave someone maybe don't fuck them. Not to mention get some pills or a condom or both.

But right now it's a dilemma but I say if you can't handle 2 kids alone then abortion should be on the table. I know it sucks but a hard life with a struggling single mom sucks even worse so...

[nella965]

First of all, I can see you’re not very intelligent woman. This is what you get for being stupid. Sorry to sound rude but you MUST use a condom If you want to avoid kids. Pulling out does not work. And now you have kids without a daddy by their side. Hopefully you can find a way to support your kids all by yourself. All I see here is a dumb woman who screwed up big time.

[Asker]

We have done it a million times and he pulled out each time and I haven’t been pregnant from that :) he came inside me when I said no and now I’m pregnant. Bitch ass hoe.

[nella965]

Well I grew up with a daddy in a happy family. My parents are happily married 30 years. unlike your kids who will likely grow up in a broken family

[Asker]

I have no respect for someone who can say “sucks for your children” if you have no sympathy for CHILDREN you’re a piece of shit :) so happy you have a daddy. I never did. By the way, coparenting is a thing.

[nella965]

Ummm you made a huge mistake and you don’t even feel sorry about it for your kids. How intelligent would you be?

Having kids without a daddy or 5 kids from 5 different daddies is nothing to be proud of

[Asker]

Who said I don’t feel sorry? My kids will be fed, warm, happy, spoiled. I grew up fine with a loving mother. They’re not your kids to worry about :) you seem like such a sweet person to judge someone and be rude like how you are. I feel bad for YOUR kids because mine won’t ever be rude like how you are.

[nella965]

Studies have proven single mothers are more likely to raise criminals or sluts. Most child abuse cases are from single parent families. Life is also much more stressful as a single mom. So you might very well end up releasing a lot of frustration on your kids.

I don’t know of what kinda mom will brag about their kids having no daddy.

[jshm2]

You have a really shitty taste in men, off the bat. Maybe see about setting up charges or child support off your ex.

If you are anti-abortion then have the kid and give it up for adoption.

Use a fucking condom, if you don't want to take birth control. How bloody difficult is it to remember that?

[Saturnxox]

1. Not open your legs for him again
2. Maybe start using condoms, precum also contains sperm cells and can get you pregnant as well. "Not cumming inside you" isn't a safe method.
3. Jus leave that bitch, you deserve better.

And you can get an abortion, I'm also somewhat pro choice.
I'm pro choice when accidents happen like condoms breaking, or when it is rape, or when it's something medical. This is straight up stupidity. But fine.

[Saturnxox]

And it's not weird to keep the baby even when you broke up.

[Saturnxox]

And the "not having 2 baby daddies" part makes you sound like an disgusting gold digging human being.
Maybe rethink that part.

[JustAHumanHere]

You should have been more cautious. Why would you have sex with your ex? Why would you not use a condom/the pill? If you know your sexually active, and you have kids and you don't want more then make sure that doesn't happen, this doesn't makes sence to me. At all. If this was rape, it's different. If it wasn't then you need to accept your part of the responsibility, because then it's not just his fault, it's yours to. This isn't a casual matter, so treat it with some maturity.

[yucychan]

You have the right to be pro choice. But then, why did you make such stupid choices?
Sleeping with your ex, and he is not wearing protection.
And now you are wondering what you should do.

Are you married? Or with a new boyfriend?
If you are already with a boyfriend or spouse, then why are you screwing around with your ex?

[Hangry22]

Abortion. Because of health reasons of the baby. The risk of having a premature and underweight baby due to conceiving it less than 6 months of a childbirth is very high. Also your body hasn't completely recovered from your first pregnancy therefore your iron and calcium levels may be low and you can suffer from anaemia.
Also the safe period for unprotected sex was 6 months after your childbirth. Even then, it's not completely safe. Start using PROTECTION

[Agape93]

I say abort it. You have plenty of time to find a better quality partner, don’t worry about the stupid baby daddy stigma. :/ just worry about yourself and your desires, and don’t let the man cunt manipulate you.

[Asker]

Thank you for understanding the mother part inside me was wanting a second child but I don’t think it’s with the right person or the right time.. I’m still depressed and trying to get out of PPD.

[Asker]

And part me of said well it is my baby and I have always wanted a son but I wish it wasn’t with him..

[Agape93]

Then don’t have it with him. He is beneath you, and the fetus is just his method of controlling you. Don’t let him. My ex had that same kind of attitude.

You’ll find a better quality man and he will give you a healthy baby boy you fully want :)

[Asker]

Thank you.. yes he is so controlling and i really feel like he only acts involved with our daughter to try and win me back or just because he wants to be with me he was not involved at all when I was pregnant he spent his money on drugs when I needed help buying baby items. It’s just a shitty situation.

[Agape93]

Agreed. And yeah that’s exactly what he’s doing. He wants to keep controlling you and the best ways to do it is fucking with emotions and manipulating their family.

[FakeName123]

This is why I am undecided about abortion. Reading your story makes me want you to have an abortion rather than being responsible for a new life in this world when you can't even be responsible enough about your own vagina.

[Asker]

I forgot I should have made this only for women. Lmao. I forgot men don’t know how to be understanding

[FakeName123]

I'm plenty of understanding towards people who aren't reckless and irresponsible.

[Asker]

It was not consented. But continue your opinion.

[MAC1983]

You know mr. fakename whatever, when you comment on something without reading it only to make a biased, bigoted point, you make all us men seem a little worse in women's eyes.

You should be aware of that. She specifically said this was not a debate over pro-life or pro-choice. Do you trolls all questions with abortion on the title, or was this an unlucky situation?

Also... Why do you think anyone in the World wants your, again, biased opinion on a non-debatable question? Short answer? They never do - but they might just flip you off.

Sorry, asker - I saw too many trolls in this app in just a couple of days. They are poisoning the dialog!

(Erase this comment if you want, it's completely fine!)

[hi_it_is_me123]

So you dont blame the man for cuming in her? this is rape. This is like when you suddenly rape her anal after vaginal sex

[hi_it_is_me123]

If you do something your partner dont consent while having sex then it is rape

[FakeName123]

@MAC1983
You don't need my help to look horrible in womens eyes. You manage that pretty well on your own by taking agency away from a woman you are whiteknighting about. You essentially infantalise her with your actions.

by the way - this is a public forum. If someone asks a question in a public forum, everyone can answer, because... you know... it'spublic.

@hi_it_is_me123
So consensual sex that ends with unconsensual ejaculation is now rape? Way to devalue what rape actual is and all actual rape-victims experiences. You put women who get violently forced on the same level as this threadstarter. Despicable.

Reality is that threadstarter had sex with an Ex - who is an Ex for a reason - despite her better judgement. Meaning she seperated from him for various reasons and then fucks him again, because of a lack of self-control over her vagina. Someone like this shouldn't have children.

[MAC1983]

There you go again. Ridiculous. But by all means call a random stranger online some random insults.

I'm sure he will take them to heart. Surely. Or ignore you. One of them.

[MAC1983]

You still seem to not have read the "it was not consensual" which is a neutral way of saying she said no but he did it anyway.

How did that not register, oh wise one? (Blocked!)

[hi_it_is_me123]

@FakeName123 why do men say then they can pull out/controll it. If you say it clear you will pull but in the end cum in on purpose it is rape.

[hi_it_is_me123]

@FakeName123 i am not saying she was responsible but i dont agree with you about the issue about sex. By your logic if it started consensual then a guy can do whatever he wants to the girl even if the girl dont consent. This like if your girlfriend starty having consensual Sex with but you put it in her anal against her will which is rape.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Or when your girlfriend start raping your anal with strabon dildo but since it started consensual it is not rape by your logic

[MAC1983]

Finally, some sanity is back on this thread, '123!

[FakeName123]

@hi_it_is_me123
I've been in a committed relationship with someone who was raped multiple times durnig her childhood. I've been there when she had mental breakdowns and panic attacks during the time she started therapeutic measures. And I absolutely despise it when people like you and the Asker make light of something horrible, because you have no idea what it is like and just downplay something as serious as this. Despicable !

[MAC1983]

How can I see your comments again? '123, you should really read the whole thread again.

If you think that if your significant other would be less worthy of empathy if she invited her rapist, as a current boyfriend, to the bedroom I already give two things as certain:
1 - you have never been raped. Yes I am speaking of experience, and no, it doesn't matter if you know the person or not. You can shout all you want, but knowing the person or not, any unconsensual sexual act, any single part of it is rape. If you are ignorant try ready the ID on Human Rights, if you are acting stupid, then pardon my Portuguese, mas vai-te foder.

2 - you think she doesn't have breakdowns and anxiety or panic attacks? Do you think knowing the person makes it any less easier? I will answer again, this time in English, and again from direct experience. NO.

So shut the hell up before I report you, I don't care how much experience you have trolling or how much you feel self-intitled because you date a rape victim, again from direct experience:
Shut the hell up, or I will make everyone I know in this app ban and report each comment and question I see like this.

Sorry, we both have showed you a lot more empathy in this thread than you seem capable of, so get the hell out. There will be no warning, just actions.

Rape is a public crime, and rape-shaming is too in more the half of the countries in the World. Grow the hell up - if you are adult enough to date a rape victim and supporting her, you are old enough to start doing some reading outside your usual circles, which, I can almost tell, just reinforced whatever you had already decided was the truth anyway.

(Blocked again, reported, after all. Bye!)

[MAC1983]

I am sorry Asker, was that too much? Or just right?

[hi_it_is_me123]

So you are admitting you dont have a problem wirh raping? rapist detected.

[hi_it_is_me123]

@FakeName123

[hi_it_is_me123]

If your girlfriend says NO during sex, then you have to stop it period, otherwise it is rape. She says it clearly, she did not consent to an sexual activity (- cumin inside). Just answere my question. Am i a rapist if i use strabon dildo to fuck your ass during sex out of nowhere although you dont want it. So you are saying this not rape? Doing a sexual activity you dont consent is not rape? Just because it happens during sex? So if i kill you during srx, i am not a murder?

[hi_it_is_me123]

Go look up the definition of rape. You dont have to be raped by someone as a kid. You also can be raped by your partner. Marital rape laws exist for a reason

[MAC1983]

I think he will not be coming back for some time. If someone is trolling, first ignore them. If they try again, block them. If they insist report them. Period.

Everything else is just a waste a time. An internet troll is there to feel superior to others and make them feel uncomfortable, not to debate.

[FakeName123]

@hi_it_is_me123 "Go look up the definition of rape."

Oxford Dictionary: "the crime, typically committed by a man, of forcing somebody to have sex with him, especially using violence"
Nice owngoal, though. Having consensual sex with cumming inside is surely a dickmove and surely sexual assault, but not rape. The example you give of forced penetration is rape, though. Reading comprehension helps.

[MAC1983]

Being a hypocrite because you don't want to admit none of what you are writing applies... Does not.

Like the old templar in the end of Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade:
"He chose... Poorly."

I wish it was funny really.

[hi_it_is_me123]

@FakeName123 so you agree it is sexual assault?

[hi_it_is_me123]

So you are bothered more by her being irresponsible than her getting sexually assaulted?

[hi_it_is_me123]

Maybe i was ignorant at the part of rape but as you said it sexual assault and i just can't understand how people ignore the sexuall assault part and only hate on her

[MAC1983]

God, we have so many questions for his answers, don't we? That is more good than bad, by the way. Just in case anyone was wondering...

[thatgirlinlove]

if you were breastfeeding your child, most probably you won't be pregnant.
Easy to blame the man for cumming inside without your consent. Why didn't u ask him to buy a condom or get some measures yourself to avoid pregnancy.

Go see a doctor

[thatgirlinlove]

Anyways raising a kid without living full time with the "baby daddy" is child abuse. Don't birth one if his baby daddy doesn't want to live with you. Be a good woman and he would choose you over others.

[dcblah58]

I'm pro-life; however, in the case of rape, most states allow abortion ( I would go as far to state that even kids of rape should have the right to live but I agree that it should not be forced by law). Regardless, rape and murder are both wrong but if you want to murder the kid, law would allow it and most of society would not be angry with your decision if you were actually raped. Unless you didn't tell your boyfriend to stop.

[Saturnxox]

He didn't rape her.
They just fucked and she wanted to do the pull out method. And he came inside her maybe on purpose maybe on accident.
This is just straight up stupidity.

[dcblah58]

Oh lol. Yup it's unjustified murder lol. That's kinda funny no offense. Couldn't pull out😂