I read advices to not show a guy you are hurt, so I told him I loved him and i wished him all the best and didn't think bad of him. And i showed myself happy and smiling.
But it has been 3 months and i am still thinking about it, i think letting him know that he hurt me could help me and finally forget it? I tried writing it down and not sending but this fake closure doesn't work. Maybe I need to tell him my true feelings about what he did?
Yes. Now, depending on him, and the time that has passed, he may or may not care now, but still tell him. If nothing else, for your own closure. And I personally would still like to know. Especially if it's a flaw of mine and something that might help me with future relationships? But some guys won't care about that lol. I would be interested personally. And for your future relationships, this "advice" you got is very wrong, or you misinterpreted it maybe? Don't EVER hide that you are hurt or your feelings from a guy. Sometimes we may have no idea what we've done nor can learn from it (or about you if the relationship continues). Think in the reverse, you would want to know if you hurt a guy right? So do we if we truly care about you.
Reading, don't block him after! That's cowardly. You are opening that door, so then don't give him a chance to say anything? Really? How would that make you feel? Now if he gets all upset and acts really immature, that's different and maybe you'd have to block him then, but if he's going to talk about it rationally, let him. It could be closure for him as well and not just you. Don't be selfish there.
Thank you. I hear such advices like "don't give him that satisfaction that he hurt you" or "if you ever want him back go no contact and never tell him that you were hurt" . But now i realised i would never want him back anyway so i don't think it matters? Also I clearly have problem to stop thinking about it
Now i think maybe better to not text him. He might feel guilty and sorry for me but it is not attractive, right? Maybe by not insulting him and showing myself happy anyway was a better way to handle it? He obviously realises that he made something wrong , men do realise that, there is no need to tell them, right?
Yeah I think in this case and being that it's been 3 months (I assume with no contact?), I'd probably just leave it alone. However if you need to do it for yourself, then you could.
I wrote the message and i am thinking of sending it. I will give it a day, read it tomorrow and decide. It has 10 sentences do you think it is not too long?
No probably not.