When a woman wants divorce she will take half from the man or even more than half, don't they know people will abuse this system for money? And how nobody does anything about it?
Why are marriage and divorce laws in the west so corrupt and flawed?
For a guy, Family Court is one of the worse experiences a man will ever have, with about the only worse would be burying a child.
Most wives initiate divorce. Most wives broadside the news, giving the man a short time to properly defend himself. Many guys spend the first months, up to a year in denial that the marriage is even over. So instead of focusing on the divorce, they are trying turn it around.
Most guys don't want to do the work and spend incredible amounts of money on the proper legal representation. Most even opt to use his wife's attorney to save a buck. Huge mistake and highly unethical.
Most guys go into court trying to be fair. The wife will too, but her attorney who is paid to get all she can, goes to work to do precisely what she was hired for. They start at 50-50, but the wife will be able to negotiate a far better settlement. This is where the guy realizes he not just lost his money, his home he is still on the hook to pay the mortgage, half of his retirement, but also his kids. This is a serious blow to almost everything he identifies to being.
The other issue that a court in a city can hear 40-60 cases a day. If a Judge has to make any judgments, they will be based on a busy day of norms and standard operating procedures. He is not going to get into the weeds of details. Only what seems the most ideal under 5 minutes, and ultimately what is best for the children. The case manager can also push things along too quickly. Meaning if the couple has to make big decisions, it will be determined in less than 5 minutes.
Moral of the story, if you're the man, and dumb enough to get married, and have children with a woman, you best go along with procedure, and deal with it, or find the best attorney without regard to price, and stand up for what you want. Which can be the primary parent. It is possible, but not with cheap or no representation. In more than 92% of the cases, the mom gets the children. A great attorney you will pay through the nose will cost you tens to hundreds of thousands. Which sounds bad, but most divorce dad on standard possession will be paying on average of $150k for each kid under 5. There is nothing cheap in marriage and divorce.
Most married men, wanting to be married men, and single guys see themselces as ahead of the curve, until reality hits. Most of these guys think they're exceptional in bed, hardworking and have a great future. All of that looks good on paper, but in reality no one knows if they will get divorced, but more than half will inclusing the sexual masters, the billionaires and great guys that most would consider a great catch. If guys would gather up, there would be more changes. The upside is that most Family Courts opt for Co-parenting now. This is big, and a smart father with a good attorney can make it hard for either parent to just up and relocate on a whelm, and not lose their side of the coparent right. Of course some idiot fathers will abuse and let their Co-parenting fall apart when they do try to restart their love life, which often includes copious amounts of alcohol. This is a stage many divorce men go through as loneliness gets the best of them after a year of licking their wounds.
Every divorce is different. Some guys are pumping every girl he can get his hands on, finding new hobbies and adventures. That all sounds good except you have little kids waiting on you bright and early to go on their adventures. Some fathers see that as a larger priority (which is what I personally choose). The big scary part is your life is going to go out of control for awhile until you get comfortable again being on your own. I sure I personally had more family, but I lost a lot of them and married guy friends when I got divorced. It was rough, but new ones came along.
That said, with all the lack of help and support for men, not only should there be family court reform, but more support for men and father's after divorce. When I was going through my early days, women had about 200 self help books. Guys, three books.
because women see themselves as perpetually oppressed and function as a collective. Once you give them the right to vote they see you as a weak man and fuck you over any way they can. Marriage is just a legal way to turn men into slaves.
No, the best thing is to choose not to marry. Women are already freaking out that so many men won't marry, but if far more men opted out, women would have to start paying more attention. Until the majority of women are prepared to reform divorce laws to something remotely reasonable, nothing is going to change.
Women need to be the ones fighting to fix the law, and men need to use a marriage moratorium as leverage.
Why don't we do something about it? Because we weren't the ones that caused the problem, they were and it's not our problem to solve. We've done what needed to be done, we walked away, let them worry about it, not us.
I live in Europe and I actually know someone who works in divorce settlements. He says people have this stereotypical idea of what happens. Usually it is a fair separation.
I don’t believe they can take what you previously owned. If that were to be the case it would be a disaster and she could clean you out from head to toe
@MrOracle so they can take away my house that I bought five years ago before I even met her if I was to marry my future wife and we divorced? My mortgage is all paid off already
Don't ever get married. My advice would be to stay away far away, don't date, don't cohabitate, and absolutely don't get married. I'm a solid 34 year MGTOW Monk. I saw things for what they were way back then and walked away. And today? Forget it absolutely not.
It depends on where you live, but, yes, such things have happened. Also, if your wife signs up for a bunch of credit cards or other loans while you are together, and can't pay them, you can be forced to. Even if you had no idea she did this (even if she admits that in court)
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