Boyfriend and I are done. I got 30 days. I’m gonna do OnlyFans for this month to get $ to move. But now he says no way in our home. Can he do that?

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I’ll be doing most the shoots in our bedroom while he’s at work. He says he has a right to what happens here still but I need money. How can I change his mind I mean I’m doing it regardless I just don’t want him acting crazy when I do. When I told him he looked all happy at first cause I guess he thought he was included. When he found out he wasn’t that’s when he got crazy.

Apope16 · Accepted Answer

Oh boy. There is a lot to unpack here. It seems like you are just trolling us right now but here is my answer.

1) You are disrespecting your relationship. Your man is communicating values about what he is comfortable with and not comfortable with when it comes to respecting your relationship and what it means. And yet, you are saying "I will do it anyway". That is disrespecting your man. If you don't have an attitude of genuine respect for your man then you should not be in a relationship with him. I think a lot of guys would not be okay with their lady involved in pornography or posing nude for thousands of guys online. Money or not. Your body is a precious gift. He feels the fact that only he gets to see it brings value to what you two have.

2) This is about your narcissistic ego. It is clear in what you are saying and your tone that this project of yours is not about needing money. This really seems about boosting your ego and getting thirsty sexual attention from random horny men. You need to ask yourself why you need that type of validation outside a relationship. Do you have a sexual addiction? Do you suffer from depression or insecurity? Do you have a voyeuristic kink of some sort where you are sexually turned on by revealing yourself to other men and having them get off to you? Clearly this is about you getting attention and ego boost. Less about money.

3) The Relationship Needs Therapy. You have reached a point where you don't value your man or respect him. Your relationship is on the rocks and you are probably very close to dumping him. If you truly love this man and want to work this out you both need to start therapy. That may be the only chance of saving this. The issue is not that you are doing these pictures. The issue is that you don't even care what your man feels or thinks.

dudeinohio · Accepted Answer

Just do it when he's not home.. he doesn't have to know.

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

He can’t tell you what to do with your own image in the house you live in. Do it, he has no say in the matter.

nonratracereality · Answer

You don't have a partner but are alerting them to your intentions which are not safe or practical to your well being. After this raise the bar and your standards and you will be privy to offers options and opportunities that will enhance your life. Take care of yourself and do not allow people control over your life and decisions that will improve your life. Your partner is not looking out for your benefit but his. Do what is necessary without putting yourself in harm's way.

RenegadeSailor · Answer

If you are paying rent there, really isn't shit he can say about it as long as his likeness is not being included in the photos/video.

Although personally I strongly discourage doing OF, because that sort of thing can come back to haunt you in the future.

hellacray · Answer

Our house? You mean his house?

I don't know why he's giving you 30 days to move that seems awfully generous.

It's his house so it's his rules. If you don't like the rules you can go find a motel or something to take all your onlyfans crap.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

You got 30 days, as in he is evicting you? So the place is his? If yes, you likely should not push him to just kick you out... and if he really wanted to he a dick about it, there are city and county ordinances which prohibit pornographic activities within city or county boundaries. Those laws can land you in a fair amount of trouble. Anyway, if you are part owner or are on the lease, do whatever the hell you want short of property damage...

Weasly · Answer

As has been said, check the lease. That may cause issues if you get caught.

If no issues there, and you are on the lease, then he has 0 ability to do anything to prevent you from creating content.

If you are not on the lease, I am not sure but there may be stuff he can do if he wants to be a d&^%.

Avicenna · Answer

Are you on the lease? Many leases prohibit you from running a business from your apartment. If he’s the only one on the lease, I wouldn’t do something to anger him and get kicked out.
Get out of there as soon as you can- living with an ex is a very awkward situation.

jshm2 · Answer

Well. If you are both cosignatories on the lease and the lease says nothing about "business" on the property, then he has jack shit say in the matter.

If he is the sole signatory on the lease and you're living there rent free, then you cannot do anything.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

1. Yes, he can do that.
2. Considering your fake profile pic you're not nearly good looking enough for OnlyFans.
3. Only a whore would even consider that, although the pathetic losers who would pay for that are in fact the ones to blame.
4. This appears to be nothing but a hoax meant to recruit sime of the losers here as "fans".

Finchie40 · Answer

He doesn’t control you. So you can do whatever you want but he will probably make your life a living hell and make it hard for you to do it , Go to a friends house or find a private place in the woods somewhere where he can’t find you lol

NightOfTheSun · Answer

It is odd your ex would be excited but besides that fact, it really depends on who owns the place you two are currently renting or live in, if it's in his name then he is allowed to tell you not to since technically it's his place, if in that circumstance you might need to try to set up a GoFund me to get the money

K-I-S-S · Answer

Do it. Doesn't matter what he thinks.

He will probably wank in his room too, even if you tell him not to.

Grown people. If you don't show his face or any other things like that then it is your own business.

If only he pays the rent or you are in his house then you are just a guest.

R3DthatDude · Answer

If you have a job I would suggest getting the app Dave or MoneyLion. You get cash advance immediately into your bank account just make sure to pay it back when your pay check gets in. If you prove to pay on time they increase how much you can burrow. No tricks or Gimmicks

Dchrls78104 · Answer

The guy is correct. Since it is his house and, because your relationship has ended, you are moving, he has the right to say what he wants and does not want happening in his house. It is his basic human rights, since it's his home. If you want to do what you are doing, you should first have found somewhere else to do it.

Rob17792 · Answer

you won't make enough money doing only fans. it pays shit especially with all the competition out there and you don't have many if any followers and you have no ideas on how to market yourself or your only fans page. you have no audiance who will watch you. you better get a real job as well and a side hustle if you want to save up to move out in 30 days otherwise you'll be moving back in with your parents

robj7629 · Answer

If you love him don't loose him because us good ones are far and few between!!! So I'd go out and get a real job don't sell what's brought you together for a temporary thing...

SirJohn42 · Answer

Well only fans is for losers. So you want the low life scum to view ya go ahead.

Im sorry you have 30 days but only fans won't get you nearly enough cash in time. None of those porn sites are worth your time.

EaterPeter · Answer

Who is paying rent and most of the expenses. You two broke up. And you may be still trying to use his place. He may have left you drive. But is he the only one at fault for you left dry. Mind it we are nit talking about relationship issues.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I suppose if you need too resort to doing that... do prostitution. I don't know what else to tell you.

humayun69 · Answer

yeah I would kick out the girl who's acting like a whore in my house too, no surprise there. Good thing he got rid of your disgusting ass, you wanna pay the rent? try working for a job insteas of whoring out your body.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Why don't you just include him? It's only for a month. And it's just sex. It's not like you guys haven't fucked before.

AskJonNsa69 · Answer

I don't know but sounds hot. Lol you should post your OF on here and see if you can get some people to throw some 💴 💰 your way.

ct1243 · Answer

He’s your boyfriend not your husband key word.

jasco · Answer

Go to a hotel and do it than, otherwise if it is his house than by all means he does have the right to tell not to do it

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Well it's your boyfriend so think his feelings should matter

Caunsos · Answer

Most likely won't happen. Do what you nedd to to have roof over your head.

TheFlak38 · Answer

It's hilarious how after 200 years of feminism women still have to whore themselves in order to be successful. Some things never change.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Wow this is a sticky situation but he does have some say over the house but not over you

pokerbot · Answer

I mean he can basically make it impossible to do, yes.

zinox07 · Answer

You seem to have grown weary of him. This is not about money 💰 or fans

Sevenpointfive · Answer

a black guy needs to control a girls money. that's how it goes. he pimps you. you can't pimp yourself

Twenty2 · Answer

Why not go to your friends house? Or buy a bed? Or a Japanese bed (futon)? This way, you'll be free.

iammehdi · Answer

Do it I’ll be your fan😂

izmirizm35 · Answer

you better just work instead of doing only fans thing

OliviaOfTheScots · Answer

You share a house so yes

moviedude714 · Answer

Link for your only fans?

apimpnamedslickback · Answer

If it's his house he has the right to say that.

legalboxers · Answer

wow.. If you share a house with him yes.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Get a job?

michael1469 · Answer

If he was smart they would do it together.

GAGSucksBalls1 · Answer

you're an idiot

Boyfriend and I are done. I got 30 days. I’m gonna do OnlyFans for this month to get $ to move. But now he says no way in our home. Can he do that?

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