Best Friend Ghosted Me? Askes for space?

[Anonymous]

My best friend and I were in a situation ship, I told her I was catching feelings for her, she told me she felt the same but we never got to a official relationship, I confronted her about it and she told me she only saw me as a friend and didn't want to lose that with me. I was upset that she couldn't have told me this from the start and I felt as if I was led on. She told me she was sorry and hoped we could remain just friends. I told her that I needed space to think about it. I said a couple of other harmful things too that day but 2 days later I come back and apologize for what I said. I tell her that I'm fine remaining just friends and that I don't have feelings for her anymore. She said she's glad that we could move past this and remain friends, but says she wants the friendship to come back naturally and says that she needs space right now. I tell her okay. Its been about a week and we haven't talked since. Did she just leave me? She told me everything was good between us, but why is she asking for space then?

[HollyK21]

Saying she needs space doesn’t mean she has a “problem” or anything against you, but things are a bit weird between you guys right now. Her own actions being the catalyst (telling you she was interested but then retracted it). In turn, you were absolutely right to be upset, but depending what you said, it only drove the wedge between you guys deeper. So what is the resolution? To give her space. Don’t force your presence into her life in an effort to remedy this situation. Let some time pass, then check in (if you want), to see how she is. By letting the friendship resume naturally, she most likely means when the dust settles and if she’s interested in talking to you and vice versa.

[Asker]

That makes sense, I just hope she doesn't just forgets about me. Should I wait til she's ready and contacts me? Or should I wait a certain amount til I reach out to her. I don't want to reach out if she's not ready , I want to give her the space that she requested , I'm just worried shell see it in a wrong way if I don't reach out to her.

[HollyK21]

You have to worry less about her and more about yourself. I get it, you don’t want her to forget about you and you don’t want to completely lose that relationship. But think about it, is that really the healthiest thing for you right now? Even though you told her you no longer have romantic feelings, unless they weren’t real then they don’t just disappear overnight. You haven’t had any time to work past your feelings. Instead you’re more concerned with losing that relationship, when it may not be good for you at this particular time anyway. I do believe things happen for a reason, and how they are supposed to. Time apart is good, which is why I wouldn’t recommend reaching out for a little while. If she reaches out to you then cool, but you can’t put too much energy into wondering how she will perceive you and your actions.

[Asker]

Yeah I know, its just really hard and I just miss her. I feel as if I ruined a great friendship. And it just keeps my mind wondering what she thinks. I just wish that I knew for sure if she really wants friendship or not. That way I can just stop worrying about it and move on. The way we left the conversation just felt so unsure what was going to happen. Like she left me with hope of being friends , but I don't know if it was all words and just false hope and if so why didn't she just say so.

[TheFlak38]

if you have female best "friends" then you get what you deserve

[Anonymous]

She may have ghosted you

[Opinion Owner]

Give it another week then try contact her