Met my ex last night. He said things are going well for him right now, he's working, going to the gym and his spare time is focused on his kids. Everything is to keep away from drugs. He still has a lot of debt to clear but he's focused. He looked good and had a positive mindset. I'm so proud of him, he's doing everything I tried to get him to do when we were together. He said he doesn't think we would work, especially right now. He doesn't want anything to stunt his routine while he's still sorting himself out and he fears that we could end up back in the cycle of how we were. he can only blame himself for slip ups. I explained that wouldn't happen now because we're both aware of the issues and can both work on making sure it doesn't happen again, I'm also working on the way I bring topics up and learning to be more secure. However I wouldn't wanna get in the way of his progress and completely understand so I won't push for more.
I asked him if he loves me, he said he loves me but doesn't think he's in love with me but said it doesn't necessarily mean it won't change in the future, he's focused on himself and his kids right now. He doesn't want a relationship with anyone though I was never a negative on his life and was supportive and is taking my advice in seeking a new group of people who don't take part in drugs. He said he's happy to be friends with me and do things together now and again. He would rather be friends than be enemies, I'm the first ex he's been able to leave on good terms. Although he also said that he understands if it's too hard for me to do this because of how I feel but he will be progressing with or without me.
This was the most open and honest conversation we've had. While it hurts to know he's not in love with me, I'm appreciative of his honesty and finally letting me know where I stand. I just hope it works in my favour in the future. Is there hope?
I asked him if he loves me, he said he loves me but doesn't think he's in love with me but said it doesn't necessarily mean it won't change in the future, he's focused on himself and his kids right now. He doesn't want a relationship with anyone though I was never a negative on his life and was supportive and is taking my advice in seeking a new group of people who don't take part in drugs. He said he's happy to be friends with me and do things together now and again. He would rather be friends than be enemies, I'm the first ex he's been able to leave on good terms. Although he also said that he understands if it's too hard for me to do this because of how I feel but he will be progressing with or without me.
This was the most open and honest conversation we've had. While it hurts to know he's not in love with me, I'm appreciative of his honesty and finally letting me know where I stand. I just hope it works in my favour in the future. Is there hope?
