Upon reflection, I do not recommend reaching out to your ex for "closure." Here are the main reasons why:
1. Closure is a myth - True closure comes from within yourself when you accept the reality of the situation and make peace with it. Others cannot provide that for you.
2. Reaching out can set you back - Contacting your ex risks stirring up old feelings and prolonging your healing process. Even if you get answers, they may not provide the relief you seek.
3. Your ex may not provide useful answers - Based on his past behavior, it seems unlikely he will give you the thoughtful, insightful responses you want. He could deflect, blame you or provide vague answers.
4. Your ex has already moved on - It's been 4 months and he hasn't consistently reached out. His attempts to rekindle things were half-hearted. This suggests he has emotionally moved on and detached from the relationship.
5. You deserve better - Someone who is willing to fight for you, communicate openly and work through problems together. Asking for closure from your indifferent ex gives him power he hasn't earned. You deserve respect.
In summary, while it's natural to seek answers after a breakup, focusing that energy inward is likely much more constructive. Work through your thoughts and feelings on your own or with the support of friends/family/a therapist.
With time and self-reflection, you'll gain a deeper clarity and peace that no half-assed answers from your ex could provide. Stay strong, keep moving forward, and don't look back. Someone deserving of you awaits.
Hope this perspective helps! Please let me know if you have any other questions.
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Nope.
You won't get closure. I validate your need/want for it, but you won't get it.
It could get worse, too, if he tells you things that are hurtful, etc.
Let it go and let it end.
girl ew his attitude alone is enough for you to let him go. don't ever let another guy treat you like that ever again. not worth it. any contact with him will only prolong your suffering, you won't actually get the answers that you need. you YOURSELF need to let go. not have this guy hanging you on a thread. he probably likes any attention that you give him because he thinks you're vulnerable so please don't.
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