Despite what he did to me, was I wrong for my choice of words?

[Anonymous]

I recently left someone who I cared and loved deeply but he treated me terribly, not all the time. That’s the side of him that I longed for and the side that made me stay and put up with the way he treated me for so long. He damaged me with abuse mentally, verbally and the physical was the worse. When I finally ended it for good and he continued to find ways to message me/contact me after I blocked him on every social media and changed my number, and me still hurt considering why I left, I told him that his mother should have chosen to give his father oral and maybe then he wouldn’t have been born. I also told him that the world would be better without him in it and called him belittling names that he usually called me and I haven’t heard from him since. I believe he deserved it. He has did and said so many things that it hurts to even go into detail about it because I’ll just break down but another part of me is saying maybe I shouldn’t have stooped to his level.

[Anonymous]

Well I was in the same situation and I also said very harsh things. But through out the whole relationship he would say horrible things to me and I just took it to try n not escalate the problem. Once I saw there was really no hope on getting better and he disrespected me I meet his disrespect and topped it! Needless to say he hates me now. Well I don't know why people who dish it can’t take it. Although I did feel bad and guilty for a few days he is out of my life now. And his opinion of me doesn’t matter to me. I think he is a pos and I’m sure he isn’t losing sleep over it. It’s over n done. Don’t waste time feeling guilty. Put it behind u and do ur best to move on with your life and do not hat you can do to make yourself happy. His feelings are no longer ur concern.

[Asker]

In that moment I felt like he deserved to hurt the way he hurt me. I just flash-backed on all that he had did. He kicked me in my face with shoes on many times, banged my head against the floor, strangled me and literally told me he wanted to see me die. Called me out my name, always made me feel dumb (very condescending). Talked so little about women in general. I felt like he needed to hear those words to feel how he made me feel so many times. You’re right though, I know who he is now vs what I didn’t know when we started dating and regardless he’ll always be that person even after I’m long gone and have said what I said unless he chooses to get help so I should just be grateful I made it out alive and that he’s out of my life.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes girl you should be proud of yourself. It’s crazy how people who never been in the situation think your just dumb. These men are crazy manipulators they will cry and beg for help. Talk about their childhood abuse or mental illness or some crap story. Honestly I don't know if they are true or not but nothing NOTHING excuses abusing someone else to make yourself feel better. If you ever think of going back remember he isn’t the poor innocent guy that needs ur help. He is lying manipulating n using you. I bet your relationship went down hill the moment you decided to stand up for yourself. So with these men ur either a doormat or abused n left. Well good riddance!! Keep it moving!!

[Anonymous]

Just because someone treats you poorly doesn’t mean you should lower your integrity and treat them the same... I would personally would never say those words to someone, love or hate, it’s just not who I am. And no matter how much someone hurts me I don’t attack them verbally. It feels wrong to me, but everyone has a different idea on what’s right or wrong. I think those words stem from hurt and ego and I don’t think they show strength, sorry.

[noohair]

Don't be so hard on yourself. It seems like you were hurt and injured in this relationship. You seem kind and genuine and you will learn from what you believe are your mistakes and grow into an even better person. Good luck.

[IamLi]

Ok, to be honest I find it funny and it is nothing compared to what he did to you so, deserved.

[Asker]

In that moment I felt like he deserved to hurt the way he hurt me. I just flash-backed on all that he had did. He kicked me in my face with shoes on many times, banged my head against the floor, strangled me and literally told me he wanted to see me die. Called me out my name, always made me feel dumb (very condescending). Talked so little about women in general. I felt like he needed to hear those words to feel how he made me feel so many times.

[Hangry06]

That oral part was weird

[Wise4myage]

Yeah, Id say that was rather harsh, lol.

[Sam_The_Savage]

😂😂