Why do I feel bad for him? Is he worth it? please let me know :(?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend broke up with me when we were 21, he wanted to sleep around and be free, I was devastated when he broke up. He came back a year later saying that he still loves me and wants us back, I told him I don't trust you and I need him to get to know you again and he said he understands this completely, in the first week of us trying to get back together and work on the trust I found out that he has been secretly meeting his ex and didn't want me to know, when I asked him to show me their conversations he refused.

It broke my heart as I had made him promise me not to hurt me because of this ex in the future and he still did. We kept fighting and he never proved to me that he has cut her off or even told her about me, he broke up with me again because I can't trust him, this time I also begged him not to leave me but he did anyway...

Two and half years later he came back and sent me a message but I never replied as i had met someone in those 2.5 years. 2 more years he texted me and I replied and he told me that he misses me and my eyes and that he can't believe we will never see each other again as I had gotten married. He seemed very touched and sad that I got married and won't be able to talk to him anymore.

Why do I feel bad for him? He screwed himself and i feel bad about it?

Does he even love me or for real regret losing me?

Is he worth me thinking about him all the time now even after i got married? was there anything else I could do?

Please let me know

[FlutteringFeelings]

Life goes on. I was getting to know a guy at 17 and he tried to play me for a fool then I cut him off. He tries to come back numerous times but I know the fool I wasn’t back then cannot compare to the woman I am right now. I loss taste for the males I was interested years ago and that alone would push me for away from taking them back.


When a woman realizes her worth her standards are raised higher which introduces her to real men. He regrets it because reality hits and who’s business is that? If I sobbed for every guy that came back and who regretted their behavior towards me in the past I would be sobbing and seeking closure from each one.


Receiving a text from a guy from the past strokes my ego. I know they’re only around to see if I’m foolish enough to accept them back. I read the message, read the time stamp, swipe and delete the text thread. If any guy from the past is wondering how I’m doing I’m sure they know all is well after I walked away from them. Curiosity kills the cat they say.

[talka20]

For now n future... best for u is to not think n try to get it outta your mind asap... or indirectly n nog purposely its gonn effect your marriage for whatever time period

[Sam_The_Savage]

Ofc kids cry & get sad when his old toy get away by someone else. It's no brainer.

[Davehoulier]

Look at the big picture. Does it matter?

[Asker]

I just feel bad and guilty for him, or do you think it is his mistake and there was nothing I could do?

[Davehoulier]

That's very sweet of you to feel bad for him. It makes you a human. But as a human, we easily lose sight of big picture often because we think details are what defines us. Even if it is his mistake, you have a life, a stable life that is sometimes hard to come by. Unless you want to risk this stability for someone who has constantly toyed with your heart, give him up.