If someone told you that they loved you when you tried to end things with them, would you reconsider?

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Normally I would. But we’re on day 4 and this dude said “I love you” after i said we won't work. Thats like next level desperation. Romantic. But just not the way to keep me in such little time of knowing eachother. At least the other guy i let go of said “Please stay. I can change.” Now that was quite tempting. I’m going to miss his voice too. But he was lying about changing. I respect it more when someone stands firmly for what they believe in. It just means we’re not for eachother. No need to lie. I just can't be with anymore “pretenders”
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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

That’s way to early to say I Love you , But the words I Love you are used in so many ways that when someone says I Love you early in a relationship especially after 4 days lol They aren’t really using the words correctly they should be saying I am infatuated by you , or I like being around you , I like spending time with you etc. But to officially say I love you to someone after 4 days is way far fetched , they aren’t using the words correctly , in your case it sounds like he is using them out of desperation that he is scared to lose you and scared to not have you by his side especially if he feels you are pulling away from him Honestly, Love is something that comes after a very very long time, so To officially say I love you to someone and mean it , is when 2 people been through it all the ups and downs , standing by each other side no matter what , the good the bad , when both people can look at each other and know that they would be lost without each other , Then the words I love you actually means something But a lot of people easily use those words out of context , And I guess it’s just easier to say to someone, instead of just saying how the really feel , If someone says I love you to you, it comes down to how You feel about that person , if you aren’t on the same page with them those words aren’t really going to mean anything to you , sometimes we look at that person and think to ourselves they must be crazy to Love me they barely know me , They just like having sex with me or they just like what they can get from me , So the words aren’t going to mean a thing. Some people do t like the words at all and if you are a person that likes those words then you will be butting heads with someone that doesn’t like those words , So it does suck when you really do care about someone and try to be there for that person as much as possible knowing you want them by your side and then you say I love you and they don’t respond back , it can easily mess with your head leaving question marks on whether they love you back or not , Most relationships need reassurance, especially when things haven’t been so great , saying I love you to your partner and hearing it back from your partner can release stress during that time, reassuring each other that you are both not going anywhere , when I am in a long term committed relationship , I have no problem telling her I love you , when we wake up together and I leave for work , I will kiss her head and say I love you , and before we fall asleep tell her the same , it only becomes a problem when your partner can’t say it back

TruthBringer · Accepted Answer

You can't just 'love' someone after such a short period of time. That's indeed desperation. Just imagine how your life would be with such a person. I would personally leave right off the bat. If they can "love" me so easily, then they can "love" others as easily as well. So there is nothing special to it or they just use the word "love" easily like it is nothing.

FlutteringFeelings · Accepted Answer

I don’t like mind games. Love is a verb which is an action. If that person loved me then their actions would clearly show that prior to me wanting to end the relationship. Someone saying they “love” you in a moment when you’re deciding to choose yourself because they’ll never change. The moment you walk away is when they may realize what they’ve loss then become a better man for another woman. However, you don’t have to wait around to see that change because if a man really loves you he will do everything in his power to avoid losing you not manipulating you not walk away when he’s not going to change one bit.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I’ve been in the position where I have said it - We dated for 3 years and he just didn’t even give me a reason so I told him I loved him one last time.

I had a toxic ex that broke up with me a few times, he came back trying to patch things up and apologize, but I was already sick of his repetitive shit, he kept saying “I love you” and a bunch of stuff I begged to hear in the relationship, in hopes that it would trigger something in my heart to take him back.
Lol, I told him no.

Lliam · Answer

Nope. If had decided that the person wasn't for me and told them so, it would mean that I had already definitely made up my mind. Falling to their knees, wrapping their arms around my leg and begging would just be embarrassing. I'm not cold blooded. I'd feel sorry for them, but...
Also, I'm pretty hard to manipulate. So playing the "I love you" card after day four would be a joke.

melanieeeB · Answer

Depends on the context of the relationship and the situation.

In your situation saying I love you in such a moment and that short time is for me just a fucking red flag!!!
He is just saying it to get what he wants and playing mind games and I'm just sorry for all the girls who fall for that shit and probably end up being baby mamas

humpbackjack · Answer

No I agree with you if they’re throwing things like that out there it’s a desperate move especially after just 4 days and I mean how old was this dude that’s some shit a teenager would say after just 4 days definitely not the guy that’s gonna be able to hang you he’d fall apart within a month tops

Phoenix98 · Answer

If the time we were together was long enough for those kinds of feelings to happen and if I thought I could develop those feelings for her down the line I might be inclined to give it another shot assuming there weren't serious reasons why I was ending things.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

In your case day 4 is way to early and you really should leave.
For myself I dated my ex for 2 years and we lived together …. whenever he was wrong and I was fed up to the point of saying we aren’t working out he’d apologize and beg me not to leave since he “loved me.” The day I moved out and started packing he kept saying he loved me and then when he realized I didn’t care he got verbally aggressive and started throwing things. So no if we don’t work out Idc what they say I’m leaving.

Hans222 · Answer

Depends on the reason for ending the relationship. If I had the feeling the low was up it would probably at least delay my decision. If I had my reasons to believe she was playing games with me I would assume it was another trick 😡

Hulk30 · Answer

understood overly romantic shit at any time with women is a mackin no no sayin i love ya is off limits to ya should never say ya love a woman unless ya really mean it and after she says she loves ya first and in other words ya sayin that the other cat turned into Jodeci on ya and asked ya to stay

Anonymous · Answer

If it's to the point I'm ending it with them my mind is pretty well made up. It would most likely be because I was convinced at that point they didn't love me. So an insincere "I love you" would probably make me angry as I said " it's pretty clear you don't".

RobT312 · Answer

Yeah. Was ready to end things, and gave it another try after hearing that. It ultimately didn’t last much longer. Don’t get me wrong, there was mutual love, but overall chemistry wasn’t there for me

whosDmann · Answer

Ummmm daaaay 4 ? Girl , move ur asss on before u have some sort of serial stalker on ur asss... he just upset he he's got to Tapp that shit yet...🤷‍♂️🤣🤣🤣

Dargil · Answer

It depends on my reason for ending things. If she were a chronic "Karen", the purpose would be distraction and recovery of control.

Gochogirl · Answer

Not really, especially if such little time has passed.

TheBootyChest · Answer

Yeah it sounds like the "i love you" guy was just saying it and no other moves left to play.

NathanDavis · Answer

four days... does he even know your full name yet? lol

JosyJosy · Answer

HAHAHA no. I don't care if they love me, if I don't love them Anymore

t-8900 · Answer

Did you know him for longer than this? Like prior? If not that demisexual claim is sus

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

Nope. They are just trying to find ways to keep you and you are probably leaving them for a reason already

VarddaanKaushikk · Answer

No , because if I'm ending things with someone , either we didn't work out like we thought we would or she did something terrible and cannot be forgiven.

MadBoy · Answer

If you have valid reason to end it, then no. ... Someone saying "I love you" before even knowing them for a week is valid by the way.

douride2 · Answer

By this time it's to late in the game now. So no he is gone

nawtee_me · Answer

the question is, "does their feelings matter if you do not love them?" Answer... Their feelings probably won't change mine... Actions not words...

KeithLane · Answer

I dont believe it would change my mind. If I have decided to end it I have gone through all the scenarios and decided it can't work.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

What did the other guy need to change? And why do you think he was lying?

loveslongnails · Answer

"I love you" doesn't work on someone who is already gone in their mind.

Wiredone · Answer

He was definitely desperately trying to keep you from ending it. 4 days is way too early.

dvp724 · Answer

Nah that shit over, you can love me from somewhere else, get over it

TrillXHippy · Answer

Nope I will not because that is crazy. Way too soon

Mehzmeh · Answer

Omg!! Yeah the guy is off his fucking rocker!! Lol. I don’t even want to know, how you met him. Lol

expatPhilippines · Answer

Nope. That never ends well. There will always be mistrust and resentment. You are leaving for a reason. Just leave.

Excel47 · Answer

I may give the person a second chance depending on the level of the situation and find out if the person is pretending or not.

Ms_Vanderquack · Answer

Before or after stopped laughing?

exitseven · Answer

After 4 days I would say that this guy had issues.

Purplemonkey242 · Answer

Depends how I feel about him and why I'm leaving

Freespirit777 · Answer

Yes, I would take this as a desperation attempt.

Guardian45 · Answer

Likely I would give it a second chance

Nahid1707 · Answer

i do agree saying i love you early is bad

TallAnon · Answer

Words don't impress me much

TsAubreyKate · Answer

You know that’s how amber cole got exposed

ChiTownLov · Answer

No. Usually my mind has been made up

lilyanony1 · Answer

4days = Lame!

TonyV · Answer

I don't think so

Abdulwahh · Answer

If i like them depends

Agape93 · Answer

Nope.

Cherry234 · Answer

Maybe. It depends.

EaterPeter · Answer

Depends.

emperor90 · Answer

Nope

imfreeze95 · Answer

Probably not

G5TWA1 · Answer

Probably not

Jouth · Answer

nnnnnnnope

Slim57 · Answer

Nopr

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