How to stop missing my ex-girlfriend?

[casanova411]

It has been almost 4 years since the breakup and I think about her every single day. I did not know love could be so strong for someone. When I lost her I lost what I thought was one of the best friends I ever had and my life just feels so confused without her. Since she left I have hooked up with countless girls but for some reason, I never had anything as special as what I had with her or another relationship. I can't believe it has been 4 years and we have not spoken one time, and all I want to do is talk to her again. However, I think she hates me so much and she does not want anything to do with me and I doubt I will ever see her again. But I just want to learn how to stop missing her and stop wishing she was here because I know it's not healthy.

[avony12]

If the break up had no closure 9/10 your going to miss them badly. Depending on how the break up went down. I had a relationship were we both had no sort of closure. It was so hard to move on because I felt like we haven’t ‘talked’ about the issue. But nevertheless since it’s been 4 years you may want to take a different route into not missing your ex girlfriend again…

[casanova411]

I see yes there was no closure that did not give me a healthy ending and it makes it ruminate in my mind

[Anonymous]

it sounds like you didn't get any closure of the ended relationship? after 4 years, you may want to see a therapist about this issue. it is truly holding you back. best of luck

[casanova411]

It was very cold she did not give me any closure except an email saying a lot of bad things about me and outright lies, for example, we moved and she said that she wanted to move in with me because she loved me and wanted us to stay together. Then she flipped and said i trapped her in my house and forced her to live with me and that was absolutely not true, and she said that she didn't care about all we went through together and our experiences together and that she's happy without me and does not care about me. Then she said i don't care about what you feel. Then she wouldn't talk to me, and blocked me on everything. I really loved her and she was my first girlfriend and she completely turned into a person i never have seen before and i was so close to her but she abandoned me. Then my feelings are so confusing because i dont hate her at all I just wish we could talk and i could see her again. Yet i know i could never take her back.

[Vegasrunner]

I call B. S How many women have you banged since thos break up?

[casanova411]

30 chicks

[Vegasrunner]

@casanova411 In 4 years? That's less than 1 chick a month. You may need more volume. Obviously the girls not coming back so enjoy your freedom and just focus on hanging out hooking up and having fun w/ women for a while.

[casanova411]

I feel you bro I've mostly healed but i keep missing her but im hooking up with some chicks

[linka_pat307]

Abuse him and tell her the harm she caused

[Anonymous]

How long were you and her together