I’m just not excited around her anymore. I’ve rationalized this ongoing feeling by saying love isn’t about excitement, but I do miss the feeling. She never cheated, but she was unfaithful I suppose when we were younger. Ended up splitting for three years and I went into a deep depression. When we got back together, we fought for years about it. During that time we said a lot of nasty things to each other.
We managed to find peace throughout all of it, and now we’re in a position in which we’re not fighting and things have calmed. That’s when we got married. Now I realize she has no motivation for anything. I’ve gotten back into shape and have a clear trajectory of what I’m doing with my life. She’s lost and doesn’t want to put the effort lose weight, nor even brush her teeth in the morning. She has no outside acquaintances, and works from home. I’ve tried everything to motivate her and nothing works.
Overall, I’m just exhausted and feeling resentful for the hurt she’s caused me. I can’t seem to get her to move forward. What do I do?
We managed to find peace throughout all of it, and now we’re in a position in which we’re not fighting and things have calmed. That’s when we got married. Now I realize she has no motivation for anything. I’ve gotten back into shape and have a clear trajectory of what I’m doing with my life. She’s lost and doesn’t want to put the effort lose weight, nor even brush her teeth in the morning. She has no outside acquaintances, and works from home. I’ve tried everything to motivate her and nothing works.
Overall, I’m just exhausted and feeling resentful for the hurt she’s caused me. I can’t seem to get her to move forward. What do I do?
