How to overcome resentment in marriage?

[Anonymous]

I’m just not excited around her anymore. I’ve rationalized this ongoing feeling by saying love isn’t about excitement, but I do miss the feeling. She never cheated, but she was unfaithful I suppose when we were younger. Ended up splitting for three years and I went into a deep depression. When we got back together, we fought for years about it. During that time we said a lot of nasty things to each other.

We managed to find peace throughout all of it, and now we’re in a position in which we’re not fighting and things have calmed. That’s when we got married. Now I realize she has no motivation for anything. I’ve gotten back into shape and have a clear trajectory of what I’m doing with my life. She’s lost and doesn’t want to put the effort lose weight, nor even brush her teeth in the morning. She has no outside acquaintances, and works from home. I’ve tried everything to motivate her and nothing works.

Overall, I’m just exhausted and feeling resentful for the hurt she’s caused me. I can’t seem to get her to move forward. What do I do?

[LibraMadness]

I’ve been in her shoes before. Depending on how she handles raw talk I would just be up front and honest with her. Tell her that you love her deeply but she isn’t loving herself as much as she should. Tell her you want her to be the best version of herself and right now she isn’t being that. She made need a little help as far as maintenance goes so try booking her a hair appointment. That way she’ll get out and meet other women and have girl chat etc… being around other women who carry themselves well may inspire her to get her ish back together. Your wife is in good health. Don’t give up on her so easily.. life can be a confusing ride for some of us and a marriage gives you a life time partner to take that ride with you. I pray for your family. You guys will make it.

[Guy13]

She has not forgiven herself. You guys Christian?

[Asker]

We are actually. Coming to god is what managed to create the peace we now have.

[Guy13]

Or you two have said something’s that one really can’t take back…neurosis. Play with her fat. I dated a girl who looked slightly pregnant with cute bubble. Given our position, I woukd wrap my hand around her and either grab or touch edges (like you would a tit).
She lost it on her own when I bought her Mustang red g-string bathing suit 👙 and gym membership.

[Guy13]

What church denomination?

[Asker]

Evangelical

[Guy13]

Good. Don’t rush her. What version of Bible does preacher teach from❓

[Guy13]

Go to religion section. Pick out favorite Bible verse together. Right step to emotional and supportive sharing