Could he be cyberstalking me?

[Anonymous]

For background, this whole thing literally just started coz I glanced over at this guy from across the room for a couple of seconds in our late teens. Ever since I did that, he tried constructing a whole story with me by just staring at me from afar. Long story short, I was initially interested in him, but soon dropped it after realising he was getting too fixated. At parties, he began watching me from a distance or hiding behind a door and watching me from afar. At one point, this went on for a couple of minutes straight and I started breaking down and left the party early.

I began avoiding him after this and it's been more than a year since I last saw him. Apparently he's with someone else now. I was relieved, when I learnt this but soon found out that he made all his relationship pictures public, but still went ahead and hid all of them from me (to ensure that I wouldn't find out that he's in a relo). This may seem like nothing on the surface but since fb doesn't have a feature which allows a user to hide public photos from a someone without blocking them- I realised there's more to this and that he's most likely using coding/programming to achieve this.
( Just to clarify, I know this can be done with non- public posts/photos, just not public ones).
I'm getting quite anxious, what's even happening? Could he have tampered with my fb account?

[Vikkrram]

But why did you loose intrest in him coz he was making u feel uncomfortable?

[Asker]

That's not the issue at this point in time. If you haven't experienced being watched ny someone from a distance, you wouldn't understand- this is an unhealthy fixation. The question is about what's happening at present about the fb thing

[Vikkrram]

See if you like someone then obviously at starting things would start at staring and later on when you both would discover that u have feelings for each other then of course he will approach you and u will approach him.
And if yes his intentions was not right then things can be turn bad.

And fb things yes if he would have blocked u then you can't see his photo but there is a feature Also that pics can be seen for private only not for public no one can see that except him...

[Asker]

He became too obsessed, that was the problem. There's a difference between liking someone and getting fixated over them just because they had glanced over at you when you guys were in your their late teens - this went on for 4 years, he never approached me at all.

Anyway with the fb thing anyone can see it, literally anyone who has a fb account can see it. But not me! There is no fn feature whatsoever which allows for this -I wouldn't ask without verifying it. I don't know how he is doing this fb thing at all, which is why I'm concerned.

[Vikkrram]

Coz he never approached you coz he never had the guts to do that if you like him then you should had approached him.

It's clear that you were waiting for him and he were waiting for you. That's it.

And if he is still stalking you that means he still have feelings for you.

[Asker]

The pictures are public, completely public. Absolutely anyone can see them. Even you yourself can.

He didn't block me on fb, he is only hiding these pictures from me. Like even if you yourself went on fb and search him up, you can see all of those photos.. he specifically made it so that it is open to the the whole world, but made it so that I am the only one who cannot see any of the photos. If I go through any other account except mine (even a blank new account which has no friends at all, has access to all those pictures- just not me). I don't know how else to say this.

The problem is how is this guy doing this to public photos on fb?

[Vikkrram]

I don't know but i know one thing for sure that you still have feelings for him...

You deny , you hide but deep down you have feelings for him

[Asker]

I had feelings for him, but dropped it when it started getting overboard. It went on for 4 years, he never approached me.
In the final year, he would literally watch me from a distance for a minute or two straight- this is not love, it's fixation, that's why I dropped it.

Also he's now with someone else, if he really did love me as you say, then why did he agree to be in a relationship with her? It doesn't make sense.

[Vikkrram]

Okay let's make it clear for you , he maybe shy to approach you , and then when he realized that you and him would just play the staring game , none of you would approach and maybe he would have assumed that you might not like him so then he went ahead.

And that girl might have approached him and he may want a relationship in his life so that's why he accepted her.

And the reason behind blocking you that now he doesn't want to involve you in his life coz same feelings and same Awkwardness , now he don't want.

[Asker]

I did try talking to him multiple times, he was the one who didn't respond.
Also with the fb thing, the question is how is he doing it?

[Vikkrram]

Ok then really he can be a stalker and might have bad intentions coz if anyone have feelings for each other and if from both anyone would try talk to each other then they both would be really interested in talking wid each other.

And as you said multiple times then i have doubt that he is having genuine feelings for you.

And maam seriously I think, don't give a damn on him... let him be as he is.

[Asker]

Hey, it's fine I will let it go. My only question is, since there is no fb feature for him to hide all those public photos- but yet he still manages to hide it from me, how is he doing it? Is he using coding or programming? I know he's done something, but I'm worried on how he did this.

Honestly I don't care anymore about the past- just the present. How is he doing the fb thing? I don't care 'why' he is hiding the pictures. My only concern is 'how' he is doing it? Is he using coding/programming? Could he have tampered with my fb account? All these questions- I just can't seem to find peace with this without knowing what's going on.

[Asker]

I'm getting little paranoid with this- sorry I just feel lost and do not understand what's happening without me knowing

[Vikkrram]

I understand ur problem maam but i have no answers that how he is doin this.
And i wanna apologize you if somehow i hurted you by my words , my intentions was never like that.

[Asker]

Hey not at all, you don't need to apologise. I just wanted someone to give their honest opinion, thank you for that :)

[spartan55]

Again with this, really?