New relationship?

[john2996]

Hello there, i was in relationship for 4.5 years and we broke up before 2 months, and there is a girl i met while i was in a relationship, and that girl we will call her S, didn't know it and i told her that i was in relationship only after the break up, and now it seems that me and S getting closer and i feel that i want to try to be with her, but my ex still in my heart and i miss her and i still have feelings about her, should i wait till my feelings to my ex will fade away and then start something with S or should i take it slowly with S till i feel that i am ready to enter new relationship.

[its_amelia_c]

I don’t think you should start a new relationship or be dating anyone when you still have feelings for someone else. That’s not fair on the new girl.


That doesn’t mean you cannot be friends and have a nice friendship with the new girl. It might be a great way to start things, it’s great to get to know people well before being in a relationship. But make sure that she knows it’s a friendship because your only newly single and not ready.

[Panzer21]

Id say dont look a gift horse in the mouth, maybe S is the real prize. You never know.

Take it slow. Be upfront with S about whats going on. You need a few months to let the other love go, otherwise that will skew your view of the new relationship. In the meantime, Nothing says you can't hang out with S and build the relationship up as friends, and when things feel natural and if S is the one you want, press forward.

If you're truthful about your situation to her upfront, Im sure she will understand. Just make sure you are viewing her by her own merits, not comparing her to your ex.

[avony12]

I agree. You should take it slow. You don’t want it to become a rebound be wise your so quick out of a relationship. Let her know your intentions to wait. If she’s willing- do it. If she isn’t and wants to purse a relationship don’t.