I went through my fiancées camera system and saw him talking bad things about me. He broke up with me when I confronted him. ?

[Anonymous]

My fiancée and I moved in together a month a go and i decided to look through the cameras from previous days and saw him with his friend saying bad things about me. When I confronted him, he blocked me and kicked me out. I haven’t heard from him since. I’m really heart broken by what I saw and also how he reacted. Can someone help me understand his reaction and if I will ever hear from him again.

[Cynicaldreamer]

He broke up with you because you violated his privacy.

However... BIG however here, if he didn't have anything to hide, he wouldn't have broken up with you or reacted so drastically. Meaning I wouldn't be too upset about it, especially if you caught him and his friends talking bad about you.

As to will you hear from him again? Why do you care? Seriously, if he was talking bad about you why behind your back, why would you want to be with a guy like that?

[Asker]

I just wonder if he has any sympathy for me. bc he acted so drastically and mean.

I would never be with him again but it’s a lot to lose the guy you planned life with and love but also see such thing.

[hhadeshatesme]

A sign from the universe to move on to better things and a better partner just slapped you in the face. No grown man is going to spaz out that way over something so little. Everything you’ve mentioned he’s done is just plain disrespect and comes off as he doesn’t genuinely care about you. Not how you handle a situation with someone you were planning on spending the rest of your life with.

[Chazmatazz269]

You fucked up. You showed distrust. No bueno. Then you confronted him about talking about you to his friend. That’s just childish. He’s going to talk about you to his friends, and it’s not all going to be good because you’re OBVIOUSLY not perfect. Get over it. If he does come back, it won’t work anyway. You have a LOT of work to do before you’re ready for a marriage.

[Asker]

I’m sorry but we’re engaged and living together. If I want to look on cameras I should be able to without hearing such things. And no. I’m sorry if I was talking about him as he was about me I’d never want to marry that person. The only distrustful person is him

[WindAtMyBack]

It's difficult to answer this without knowing what he said and his side of the story. It's just about impossible to know if he'll ever come back. If he doesn't then be glad you got out of it because things were/are obviously going very poorly.

I don't know if his reaction was because you were snooping through his stuff or if it was something else.

[Asker]

He said I lost all trust and the weddings off. Blocked me and told me I have 2 days to move out. We had some past issues recently about our prenup but we fixed that.

I haven’t heard from him since. I don’t know if he’s embarrassed bc I caught him or what but I’m really hurt he reacted this way without a proper goodbye. He was my best friend. Just looking for some help with closure since I don’t have any

[WindAtMyBack]

What did you see in his camera that he said?

[Asker]

I’m trying to manipulate him and I don’t like his friends etc which isn’t true at all. Also my friends are hotter

[WindAtMyBack]

This sounds like it was going downhill long before this happened. Very likely he had second thoughts a long time ago. He may have been right on the edge of breaking it off before this happened.

[GurlMaster40]

He might be mad that you called him out for it. Girl, just forget him. Do you want to be with someone who is so unkind about you? And your supposed to be the light of his life? I hope you chose the right thing for you.

[JakeS00]

He didn't even want to talk with you after he cooled off?

[Asker]

He said I lost all trust and the weddings off. Blocked me and told me I have 2 days to move out. We had some past issues recently about our prenup but we fixed that.

I haven’t heard from him since. I don’t know if he’s embarrassed bc I caught him or what but I’m really hurt he reacted this way without a proper goodbye. He was my best friend.

Just looking for some help with closure since I haven’t heard from him

[Ironic_Method]

Sounds like he did for you what you should have done yourself.