Itโs been many years back but she used me in a sense and I fell under her charm, was very nieve and before I knew it the whole thing blew up and she dumped me and I was left to pick up the pieces. It took time but I learned from it, restored my confidence and strength and it never happened again. Time heals all wounds I would say.
Girl just now, walking around with a broken heart, trying to convince myself that I can still save the situation.. but well I tell you one thing, if I would have had accepted it six months ago, I definitely would not have been in this deep depression that I am now.. sending love
4 years. Ago. Unless you count every NBA season. The Chicago Bulls break my heart every year. 🤣
I was broken for year. Then I vowed It wasn't the first time it's happened. But it will be the last time. I don't really blame her I blame myself for misjudging her so badly. a lot of times we don't see people for who they are. It hasn't dismissed my faith in people. But I'm in no hurry. My attitude is the right woman will get that.
@ChiTown33 Bro, I am with you on this. I married a woman I had known since sixth grade and thought I knew... I went through the self doubt, everything... I know it gets better.
@spartan55 thanks man. I am better though. I'm stronger for it. It has allowed me define my boundaries better. I have a tendency to love with my whole heart. And you just can't do that in this world unless you're Uber strong and I'm not. I don't know how to care about someone part way. I still care about this woman. I don't think she was a bad person. I just don't think she knew how to love. The only solution I have is you have to always have a part of you that is separate from the other person. A person that NO ONE can touch. At least that's my take I don't claim to be an expert. ๐คฃ
@ChiTown33 Yeah, I value a woman who has her own scene, interests, etc. Time together is special, but time to yourself is equally important (speaking for myself anyway)
@spartan55 considering how long you knew her. Do you think it's possible that you both just grew apart? I have 4 sisters and they're all married and still married. They all picked good husband's but what I think contributes to thier succes is how much they do together. I mean if you think about we change throughout life. You're not they same person you were 10, 5 or maybe even a year ago. If two people don't stay in touch with what brought them together it's not surprising that they might drift apart.
Maybe a year or 2 ago now. I just stayed in the house for a while and cleaned the same shit over and over because I didnโt want to leave and tried to distract myself.
It was in 2012. I had been in a long relationship with a woman. I even considered marriage. When I found out about her lies it was horrible. I moved to a different city. Nothing to remember her by. I began working and studying at a university.
Mid 2018, took me two years to fully get over her and it devastated me. That relationship only lasted a little over a year and it was the longest relationship i have ever been in. It ended because she said that God told her to leave me, that's it.
It was when my last girlfriend decided to shove 4.5 inches of cold steel into my abdomen for the highcrime of "working to much". took me 3 months to heal, thank god she didn't hit anything but fat and muscle.
Recently. Tbh I think we both broke each other hearts on accident? I really liked her, but she just kept playing weird games as if she didnโt like me but then would show interest. Two, sheโs been looking for a job and a new home, so she deleted all her social media accounts. But she hinted that she liked me, and I turned it down because I was scared she would just hurt me. I Regret it every day.
Probably last year with the things she (my ex) said. Can't blame her entirely, her family is toxic. But it really brought me down and made me feel shit. Ever since I broke with up her, didn't keep a check on how i felt about it, got busy in other things and girls that it took my mind off of the incident.
You know it's a killer when you start liking Miley Cyrus, when it happened I barely ate so I basically lived off listening to "nothing breaks like a heart" and "wrecking ball"
It was with my last ex 4 years ago and it took me almost 3 years to start dating again. I learned that people just come and go what stay, stay. And this people are meant to be a lesson or a people who will bring pain. Shalom!
About 14 years ago, turned out I was used not respectedand he was embarrassed for people to know he slept with me, eeehhhh late teens early 20s BS I suppose. But I found someone and we are happily married so it all worked out in the end.
like not even a month ago lol, it hurt a lot because we were together for years and when she left it tore me to pieces, but i knew i have so much i have to do, so i couldn't really focus on the pain, but my friends were behind me and they took me out for a few drinks and I'm still a little down about it but now i feel like ill live ya know.
2 years ago. I coped by working on developing my hobbies and learning my self worth. Took a year or so for it to become habit but growing is a lifelong quest.
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Oh wow!! Lol I seriously did NOT see this. Must be something in the moonlight tonight 🙃
Well sorry to trip over into your topic. So funny we asked such similar questions so close together 😀.
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Itโs been many years back but she used me in a sense and I fell under her charm, was very nieve and before I knew it the whole thing blew up and she dumped me and I was left to pick up the pieces. It took time but I learned from it, restored my confidence and strength and it never happened again. Time heals all wounds I would say.
Girl just now, walking around with a broken heart, trying to convince myself that I can still save the situation.. but well I tell you one thing, if I would have had accepted it six months ago, I definitely would not have been in this deep depression that I am now.. sending love
Sending โค๏ธ back to you ๐
4 years. Ago. Unless you count every NBA season. The Chicago Bulls break my heart every year. 🤣
I was broken for year. Then I vowed It wasn't the first time it's happened. But it will be the last time. I don't really blame her I blame myself for misjudging her so badly. a lot of times we don't see people for who they are. It hasn't dismissed my faith in people. But I'm in no hurry. My attitude is the right woman will get that.
@ChiTown33
Bro, I am with you on this. I married a woman I had known since sixth grade and thought I knew... I went through the self doubt, everything... I know it gets better.
@spartan55 thanks man. I am better though. I'm stronger for it. It has allowed me define my boundaries better. I have a tendency to love with my whole heart. And you just can't do that in this world unless you're Uber strong and I'm not. I don't know how to care about someone part way. I still care about this woman. I don't think she was a bad person. I just don't think she knew how to love. The only solution I have is you have to always have a part of you that is separate from the other person. A person that NO ONE can touch. At least that's my take I don't claim to be an expert. ๐คฃ
@ChiTown33
Yeah, I value a woman who has her own scene, interests, etc. Time together is special, but time to yourself is equally important (speaking for myself anyway)
@spartan55 How long were you married?
@ChiTown33
Ten years
@spartan55 considering how long you knew her. Do you think it's possible that you both just grew apart? I have 4 sisters and they're all married and still married. They all picked good husband's but what I think contributes to thier succes is how much they do together. I mean if you think about we change throughout life. You're not they same person you were 10, 5 or maybe even a year ago. If two people don't stay in touch with what brought them together it's not surprising that they might drift apart.
@ChiTown33
I'm going to pm you.
Last year.
I'm still trying to forget her, or at least replace her.
Wow still hurting eh? Sorry ๐ฃ
shit happens, even though way too often
Maybe a year or 2 ago now. I just stayed in the house for a while and cleaned the same shit over and over because I didnโt want to leave and tried to distract myself.
R u over him?
Thankfully yeah
Greatest feeling ever
It was in 2012. I had been in a long relationship with a woman. I even considered marriage. When I found out about her lies it was horrible. I moved to a different city. Nothing to remember her by. I began working and studying at a university.
Recently within the last few months.. I've been feeling not great since March and it's been up and down from there..
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Mid 2018, took me two years to fully get over her and it devastated me. That relationship only lasted a little over a year and it was the longest relationship i have ever been in. It ended because she said that God told her to leave me, that's it.
I wish to get someone first, to break my heart lol.😅😄🤣🤣🤣
You want? ๐ you donโt want that
It was when my last girlfriend decided to shove 4.5 inches of cold steel into my abdomen for the highcrime of "working to much". took me 3 months to heal, thank god she didn't hit anything but fat and muscle.
She stabbed you?
Yep luckily for me it missed my internal organs and just hurt like hell.
Did she go to jail?
Nope I did because I punched her in self defense
Oh wow thatโs fucked up
That's actualy fairly common in our society
Recently. Tbh I think we both broke each other hearts on accident? I really liked her, but she just kept playing weird games as if she didnโt like me but then would show interest. Two, sheโs been looking for a job and a new home, so she deleted all her social media accounts. But she hinted that she liked me, and I turned it down because I was scared she would just hurt me. I Regret it every day.
Probably last year with the things she (my ex) said. Can't blame her entirely, her family is toxic. But it really brought me down and made me feel shit. Ever since I broke with up her, didn't keep a check on how i felt about it, got busy in other things and girls that it took my mind off of the incident.
Last time someone broke my heart was my dad when he passed 2 years ago
Oh manโฆ that heart break will never healโฆ Iโm so sorry for your loss
You know it's a killer when you start liking Miley Cyrus, when it happened I barely ate so I basically lived off listening to "nothing breaks like a heart" and "wrecking ball"
It was with my last ex 4 years ago and it took me almost 3 years to start dating again. I learned that people just come and go what stay, stay. And this people are meant to be a lesson or a people who will bring pain. Shalom!
About 14 years ago, turned out I was used not respectedand he was embarrassed for people to know he slept with me, eeehhhh late teens early 20s BS I suppose. But I found someone and we are happily married so it all worked out in the end.
Sounds good for you! His loss
like not even a month ago lol, it hurt a lot because we were together for years and when she left it tore me to pieces, but i knew i have so much i have to do, so i couldn't really focus on the pain, but my friends were behind me and they took me out for a few drinks and I'm still a little down about it but now i feel like ill live ya know.
Earlier this yr. Ex girlfriend dumped me. I coped by getting a new girlfriend a week later
Who needs recovery? ๐คฃ next!
Exactly!
2 years ago. I coped by working on developing my hobbies and learning my self worth. Took a year or so for it to become habit but growing is a lifelong quest.