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When was the last time someone broke 💔 your heart?
December 2021. Literally some of the worst pain I've ever felt. I truly thought he was my soulmate. I thought we were absolutely "forever". We were talking about marriage and everything. Even kids. Then boom - he dropped me at random right before Christmas. Really caught me off guard and hurt me big time. I never understood how things could just change like that when he always acted so in love with me. It just felt like everything had been a big lie.
We lived together. We were together a good while. We had shared so many great conversations about our future - upgrading my promise ring to an engagement ring, kids... all kinds of great things. We shared household responsibilities (each helped with laundry and such). He would cook for me. We did a lot of fun things together - traveling, exploring our own state, even little things like taking walks together. We shared a ton of the same likes and dislikes and had the same views on important matters such as how kids should be raised. We got along very well. His family LOVED me and mine absolutely loved him.
No one believed us when I broke the break up news. I actually got responses from people thinking we were pranking them (we enjoyed pranks/gags). Everyone was in total shock that we had separted for real. It was hard to see so many other people confused and hurting while trying to deal with my own hurt and feelings. They had questions that I had no answers for. The biggest one being - "why?". Everyone said things like "what? But you were SO good together!". I was just like yeah... I know...
I am still single as of now, but I am doing better emotionally. I don't really have that same "pain" anymore, but I do still kind of wonder wtf from time to time. It truly was quite random and just felt really weird and off. There were a lot of oddities with his behavior and stuff during the break up and for a week afterwards. He acted very strange and said some really weird things. It was almost like he was debating the break up. He acted really hurt and upset when he was the one who called it off.
With all that being said, I must add that as of now, I am also at the point where I am open to a new partner. I've talked to potential partners and so far, nothing has really went anywhere or progressed into anything significant (I've met some real "gems" hahaha). I do have my eye on someone at the moment though, so hopefully this one will finally be something special. This guy is really awesome and we are getting along well so far... so I am trying to stay optimistic.
Best of luck and all my love to anyone out there currently hurting. It WILL get better, trust me. Hang in there!
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The most recent time someone broke my heart was when my ex of 6 months (who was my best friend for almost 4 and a half years) broke up with me because his mother decided to send him to live with his aunt in a completely different state. I'm still healing from this break up, it slowly gets easier each and every day.
This is going to sound weird but when our heart breaks or when we get our heartbreak
We are the one that is inside we are the one that control that feeling there's nobody else inside of us to make us feel that except for ourselves I think we're more pissed off than ourselves for allowing it to happen because in a way we already knew it was going to happen and we didn't listen to ourselves
You also have to remember from the moment you started walking and would fall down you would get right back up and start all over again you'd fall down again it might hurt but you would get up and start walking again no matter what we've done in life if it hurts there's something good that comes from it if we allow it to but it all depends on how long it takes us to get back up and start walking again that's the key to life that's the key to everything in life it's not that it happened how do we handle it is the most important part
Yes your heart is broken you fell down stand back up and start walking again learn from it that's why it happened you need to learn something it was meant to happen believe me there's a positive that's going to come from it everything we do in life we're meant to grow and grow we are all headed someplace it's our destiny but we have to be prepared this is part of your test your preparation it will teach you how to love yourself even more so you can love others even more
So I say become one with that heartbreak I say become one with that pain learn from it believe me you will get over it you know you will too just like falling down and getting back up what is the message
That you feel that keeps playing in your head your heart
If you do this right. All the pain.. all the love you feel you have lost
You will learn you didn't lose it really you have found it
You have to experience it to understand it to become 1 with yourself you think and feel the pain you have is the end of life
It's not it's the start of a new life
Accept it acknowledge it become it it is your destiny love it because it will change you once you accept it
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I can't really blame her for breaking my heart, i broke it myself by concinving myself I had a chance with her.
Haven't healed from it and probably never will.
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From 2015 to 2017, I dated Ivy, who was an ideal match for me except for one very important matter: she didn't love me. We had a monogamous, exclusibe dating agreement and we spent almost every weekend together. But I wasn't a big enough priority in her life; it was simpy convenient for her to have a dedicated and faithful boyfriend. There was a final incident which brought this issue into a sharp focus and I left her while she was out of town on yet another cruise.
She felt affection for me but it just wasn't enough. I wasn't 100% blind to our problem and I knew the ending was inevitable, but I still took three or four months before I started dating again.
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In the year 2016 (I was 12), my third boyfriend only asked me out because I was the only girl in the class, besides this one girl who he didn't want to date because she was shorter than him and didn't talk clearly. We were in an alternative school and it was my first year there. There was a transferred student transferring from my old school. When announced, my boyfriend asked me if she was hot. I felt confused and unsettled. Then, I didn't get most things because I have never experienced them, let alone a relationship. I was still a bit timid and quiet and stayed to myself. I am in the percentage of kids/people who learns slower than others, but mine is a bit based off of inexperience. I did not know how to respond to what my third boyfriend had said, so I just shrugged my shoulders. Then after she walked in and had been introduced and had been assigned her seat, my boyfriend turned to me and asked me if it was okay to date her as well. I agreed to it because I didn't want him to break up with me. Then I had this feeling of dread, like I was always do whenever something is about to happen to me. He asked the new girl if she would be in a three-way relationship with me and him. He turned to me to tell me that she didn't want that and dumped me right there in class. A couple of months later, I chased him up and down the classroom with a pair of safety scissors. I got sent to a mental facility/hospital or whatever because when I was called up to the office to get asked by I was chasing my ex down with a pair safety scissors, I told them that I was hearing voices and the voices told me to do it, which was a lie because I didn't really like what my ex did to me.
Next school year, 2017, there was a new student who became my girlfriend during the summer. It didn't last long because her Christian mother found out about us and literally moved somewhere else. She also reported me as a pedophile. I was 13 and her daughter was 12. I was wondering where she was because I didn't see her at school after summer. I asked one of my teachers, and they told me that she had moved. After that, I didn't want to be bothered with dating anyone. I guess my wish was granted, because no-one asked me out or saw any romantic interest in me since then. Of course, no-one did: I am basically forgotten.
Getting older, I start to understand more about me and understand more in life. The only time I had actually been a girlfriend, was when I was dating my ex-gf, because some men/boys scare me.
I did find my ex-gf's whereabouts. I did not understand why she did what she did because I thought I didn't see it in her, but looking back, I do see it to some degree. I can't visit her because her parents will give me shit about it.
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This is a daily occurrence for me, at least it seems that one. One does not have to break up with someone to break their heart.
I wear my heart on my sleeve so it is easy to break, I often think maybe I should protect it more but I don't want to turn cold hearted and I keep thinking, next time it will be different.
Everyone always says they won't hurt me and yet everyone always does.
I am known as Running Bird, but perhaps they should of called me Raining Tears... from all the crying I always ultimately end up doing.
The Rose
Some say love, it is a river
That drowns the tender reed
Some say love, it is a razor
That leaves your soul to bleed
Some say love, it is a hunger
An endless aching need
I say love, it is a flower
And you, its only seed
It's the heart, afraid of breaking
That never learns to dance
It's the dream, afraid of waking
That never takes the chance
It's the one who won't be taken
Who cannot seem to give
And the soul, afraid of dying
That never learns to live
When the night has been too lonely
And the road has been too long
And you think that love is only
For the lucky and the strong
Just remember in the winter
Far beneath the bitter snows
Lies the seed that with the sun's love
In the spring becomes the rose -
A few days ago I was expecting to feel broken again..
Because I made some mistakes that cost me a future with her.. I just didn't know any better, no excuse though.
Maybe she refelects that too.. in her own way, I hope she don't know how her response was worse.
The first day I cried for 9 hours and talked it over in detail with my parents..
I'm not so broken up about how we turned out anymore I realized pretty quickly after both crying and talking openly about it, that this whole situation has made it so frustrating that my emotions for her had been numbed out weeks ago. I felt it back then too but I denied it to myself, I shouldn't have. It could have saved us both a whole lot of trouble and pain.
I suppose she might feel worse than I do right now.
What hurts more than 'us' is HOW she ended things. Disrespectfully leaving me questioning my sanity. This could have all been resolved honestly and it would have been better for the both of us to know exactly where the truth lies, so we can improve upon ourselves.
I tried taking things that way when I realized we where falling apart but she decided against an honest conversation and for being hurtful.
... Surely she was diverting negative emotions into vengeful action, I can empathize with that. And maybe she just didn't have the insight to see how that was worse. We both have our own faults.
I honsestly almost feel worse for not feeling much about it right now than I do for the whole thing.
I was expecting to feel like shit. But it turns out, if I hadn't been so overthinking about it when it went down and had just acknowlegded my own feelings as they where then it would have been a positive experience handled nicely.
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You again... lol Hi Pinay... I was in a long-term relationship with a woman from Naples, Florida. She worked as a detective for the Sheriff Department. She was also retired from American Airlines so she could fly anywhere in the continental US for the cost of a fast food lunch. We dated for around three years and she would fly to Michigan for a weekend or during her vacation time a couple weeks. I broke it off when I realized she was a compulsive liar. In the US the police are allowed to use lying as an investigating tool. After doing this for countless years she would lie about anything or simply not saying anything (enacting the 5th Amendment protection rule). I guess I still miss her in a strange way. I will never answer another message from her or welcome her back into my world. And I told her that. It seems that ended her contacting me and me contacting her. If not for her lying about even the smallest thing or staying silent I would most likely be married to her today and all my posts at these online sites would have never taken place.
If you truly love a person you will love them for live even though you know you can never be with them again. Human relationships are a very strange thing that even 7 Philadelphia lawyers can undo... lol -
I think it wasn't true heart break but just like some sadness, also I was more worried for them than about myself... last seen early 2022.
I really do accept pain, I think it is savoury 🧂 🧂🧂, ... what is life with only sweet 🧁 🍪 🍩 🍰 food?
🤢 Bitter sickening pain would be to lose a parent, sibling, immediate family, prematurely or to lose a husband or child... lovers are a savory pain 🍕 🍜 🍝 🥪
I still recall this person and what happened to them but I feel free so guess I'm alright.
. I move on with life, there are lots of joys in life... I know some great people (family friends) and have a great hope in life. Others help me to heal even if I didn't tell them about it. Yeah I don't usually tell.
My mentality is "there is always better and worse to come".. and whenever I meet a new person I don't expect much early on..
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My last heartbreak was about 5 years ago.
It was one of the hardest thing I had to endure in life. I spent my days in my room, crying and just letting myself mourn the end of my relationship. I found solace in listening to podcasts about heartbreak; I learned so much from them. I went to therapy as well. It took me about a year and a half to finally recover from the heartbreak.
I would advise to deal with your heartbreak the best way you see fit. What worked for me might not work for the next person. Just be kind to yourself. All the best -
I met this guy in group of friends and we were so close and we got even closer throught the days.. we shared our secrets and our pain our laughter and mostly everything.. we fell in love and on 24 feb 2021 started dating time went by and we overcomed every single problem we had.. he gave me my first kiss. i introduced him to my family and treated him more than just a boyfriend he was litteraly the world to me untill summer we lived in diffrent states , and he told me he was going on vocation with my ex roomate and which was really sus and i didn't liked it at all and he began being even colder with me while my family life wasn't going well.. when i needed him he wasn't there despite that i was everythere whenever he needed me and then when the summer was over and we met again he told me that one of my ex roomate's friends touched him in private place while swimming and this got on my nerve and ever since i began isolating myself and being so cold with him.. but anyways we kept meetin and talkin and so and then a new roomate came in and she was really mean to me despite i was so kind with her and she went out with us couple of times.. One day she came in and said mean things to me nd i had a panick attack my aunt came right away and she insulted my aunt too so i dont know how i got the power to slap that slut on her face.. with time after the accident figured out that the guy i was with (ex boyfriend) he was snitching telling her the things i used to share with him when she does or says mean things to me.. I got chocked and so disappointed he even turned all my friends against me and coz of him i was going to jail for slapping the girl... i will never forgive him till the day i die and i really hope to God that he ll suffer handred of times more than me
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About eight years ago, i think. The usual medications: whiskey and beer. It could be argued that i never got over it because i haven’t returned to dating. Although, i would suggest the last breakup was just the straw that broke the camel’s back. I was done with dating before i met her, but she came out of nowhere and impressed me immediately. So i took a chance. It was good until it wasn’t. Then, naturally, i just wasn’t good enough anymore and she had to move on. Now i don’t date… again. Ell oh ell!
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This may sound dramatic but... every. single. day. Unrequited love sucks. Or more like I can't even tell him I like him because
1) I know he don't see me that way even though we are close as friends.
2) he's not ready for a relationship.
3) I'm not ready to risk our friendship
So it's stuck with me having to see him everyday and having my heart broken everyday.
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June 2016. He led me on and tried to use me for sex. Then when I didn’t have sex with him, I found out on Facebook of all places that he was back with ex AND that he’d been seeing her two or three times a week while only giving me the bare minimum. I haven’t even tried to get involved with another man since then.
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It took me about an entire year to be honest to be completely over the entire situation. I grieved for the first two months and after that I put my entire energy on my self. I started working out, got all the beauty treatments that I wanted and could think of, started learning new things, started going out a lot with my girlfriends to make new friends, hung out a lot more with my entire family, had quality time with my grandparents, spend a lot more time with my pet and went to therapy.
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Almost 8 years ago. Then again almost 6 years ago. Continuously cheated on and falsely accused. I don’t know when the world changed but wherever it did it’s gotten worse. And I’ve become worse right along with it. I hate myself and women and people and just want to be alone in my apartment. Not existing.
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Honestly I’ve been broken twice but it was for stupid reasons. The one that impacted the most was the first one where I went emotionally numb after and I don't know how I coped. He broke up with me or whatever for a girl. He’s part of the reason I sometimes find it hard to talk about my emotions with current my boyfriend
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My friend from here, Rachel, left without explanation or word. We were friends offline too. We phoned, spoke, even sent b-day presents to her and her beautiful child. Then one day she was gone, and my texts/calls went unanswered. I sent a snail mail letter too, but that was my last offering. I have to respect her privacy, for whatever reason she did it. Christmas will be 2 years and I still miss her and think about her. She broke my heart more than any lover could have.
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Last year November and I'm still healing tho
I take a lot of time for me and I do a lot of thinking, writing journals and well I just process everything and do stuff for me and just keep going on -
If your talking about in general with dating/relationships about 5-6 years ago. I didn't love her but I did like her a lot despite her not really being the best partner there were a lot of things wrong with the relationship now that I'm older more mature and I think back on it I kinda realize how fucked up it actually was, but I cut myself off for a good couple of years, only really being open to being with someone again a few years ago.
If your referring to actual relationships where love was in involved then about 11-12 years ago. And it took maybe a year the breakup wasn't bad or anything it just kinda sucked.
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It's happened so many times, I've actually lost count how many, to be honest. After I found out how my girlfriend of five years actually felt about me, that's when it happened for the first time, I guess, but I still chose to stay with her because I loved her too much, until three years ago when the abuse and cuckolding grew to unbearable heights.
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My ex (and now current again) girlfriend... She's left me last year over a girl I actually DID BUT have anything to do with. She's been with other men while with me. (Normally I'd run), lied, cheated, stole from me.. But hey... That's love rite?
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Didn't break it, so much as mild disappointment. February. I half suspected she was a bot. Only took me a week to get her to betray herself as one. Whoever codes these "gals" belongs in jail.
Girl before that was from China. Political chaos doomed that relationship. I'm not mad at her. I'm mad at the CCP. Bastards!
Another two before that died. One from terminal illness, and the other from doing something stupid.
The other crushes aren't worth mentioning here.
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