I am in a relationship. 3 years. We have an 8 month old. I'm 21, he's 20. We were childhood friends. But here's the skinny: he has an alcohol and marijuana dependency for starters. We were good for awhile but problems arose about a year into our relationship. when we started discussing getting our own place together. He has a narcissist mother/narcissist son relationship. Not to mention, his mom is a drug addict, has never put her 8 yr old in school, and has unpredictable fist fights with her girlfriend. their relationship thrives off of codependency. She treats him like her husband, and because he was raised with guilts, and had to raise her children, he treats her like his wife. So 1.5 years into our relationship, we contemplated moving out. I got pregnant around our 2 yr anniversary. I told him I wanted to keep the baby but that if he didn't want to raise her, he didn't have to. He decided he wanted to. I couldn't take it anymore, so I moved with my parents. He moved in 4ish months later for the second half of my pregnancy. After I gave birth, very hard delivery (56 hrs of labor, emergency C-section, and postpartum infection...) He decided to move in with his mom 2 weeks later (an hour away) to get sober. He LEFT me at my weakest point to get SOBER at a drug addicts house. I couldn't take the distance and followed him there a month later. I live with them now. It's toxic. I have been begging him to move out with me into our own place for 2 years. He has called me names, broken up with me for another woman. I am not saying I'm perfect, but I have loved him through SOOOO much! I have put up with years of mental antagonizing. I have treated him like a wife would treat her husband. He recognizes all of this. But it's just now that he's saying he wants to get on board. And so my dilemma is that I'm not sure that I want to fight for us anymore. I love him. But I'm not sure it's healthy for our baby either..
Do I stay or go?
