Grief Counseling?

[Anonymous]

Any of you gone through a rough breakup that’s made you consider grief counseling?
Does it work?

I was in a 2 year relationship.. we had talked about marriage and moving in together, made plans and all that stuff and it just ended so abruptly.

The breakup is killing me. it’s been about 3 months we have talked recently for about two weeks and then he backed away even though I thought we were on the same page of trying again. I just don’t want to do anything that will make him back away further so I’ve just left it alone not reached out.

But it’s really killing me it just feels like this is wrong, that it’s not supposed to be this way. Some of it I know is probably denial but.. I think he feels this way deep down too.. but I just don’t know how to move on when it feels wrong doing so, but I also feel like I can’t reach him because he’s avoiding his feelings.

What can I do?

[DaySpring]

I'm not qualified to answer this but I can offer a wise piece of advise.

Don't give him any reason to not come back. In my experiments, exs always come back IF you left on good terms. Good terms meaning you didn't treat them bad or wasn't bitter about it ending. You were kind and polite even at the end. I've never seen it not work.

I've been lovesick and the only thing that ever got me threw it was this one game. It required all of my attention and so it was able to get my mind off it. Sleep was the only other thing that saved me for the feelings. But then when you wake up it's like... Oh yeah my life's a nightmare. But for a few seconds post waking up you don't remember your life is a nightmare. Anyway, hang in there and remember my advise. People tend to remember the endings very well. If he ever becomes ready, he will remember how kind you were even at the end and might attempt to come back. Just make sure he knows even though you two aren't together, you want him. Leave the gate wide open for him to return.

[Guy13]

It’s not a cure all but can help. Twice as much work and gym help too

[Anonymous]

you're still young... your time will come again to do all of those things you want to.