How come my ex has all the luck with ladies and I can’t get any man?

[Anonymous]

Me and my ex our broke up a year.
He left me and is living his best life ever while I’ve been hurt and trying to do my best.
I know I shouldn’t care but I see him with loads of women and I always wonder what is it? Like why can’t I get anyone?
I know it probably sounds silly but all year I’ve been on one date that wasn’t great tbh.
My phone is as dry as anything I see all my friends in relationships and I’m like why can’t I have even just a nice date.
I dunno I’ve just been down about it like I thought karma would get my ex but it’s like he’s hit the jackpot and I’m suffering with the karma as I’ve no luck atall.

[WonderBell99]

If you REALLY want to find someone, you have to actively search for it. Some people are just really lucky, but they are also receptive.

How long has it been since the breakup? Did you struggle with dating before you met your former partner? Normally, I would not recommend dating apps, but I’ve heard many success stories. It never hurts to give them a try. If you are waiting for someone to ask you out… forget about going on dates. Many of those good men are shy, and fear rejection as much as you do. However, almost all men love it when a woman makes the first move. There is nothing wrong with asking out men you are attracted to. They will NOT think you are desperate.

If you are still healing from your breakup, I’d suggest you to focus on yourself before dating someone. Maybe dating multiple girls is your ex’s way to cope with a breakup, but it is also largely unhealthy for both himself and the girls he is dating.

Although, I do understand where you are coming from, you really should not worry too much about not finding someone. If you are out of college, it is hard to ask someone out. But you can always try joining clubs that interest you and connect with like minded people.

[boggboss]

Because when it comes to dating many women tend to be passive and bit really do much but wait for a guy to ask her out whilst your ex is a guy so he will be going out of his way yo ask women out there for if he is decent looking and k ow how to chat to women his chances of going out are much higher then yours

[Asker]

Thanks

[boggboss]

Plus if you have been down since that happened it could be a factor in why guy wouldn't approach u

[Asker]

Yeah maybe so

[DavidRaul]

When we are too desperate to be in a relationship or to date, thats when life hits us all. Just don't think about it. You will eventually find a good man when you least expect it to. there's nothing wrong with you. You have been in a bad emotional state. So just chill and enjoy your life

[Asker]

Thanks so much 😊

[DavidRaul]

Your welcome