I can't recover after breakup with my toxic girlfriend. How can I overcome this period?

[Anonymous]

I broke up with my toxic girlfriend 2 months ago because of her toxic and insecure behaviours over myself and we regrettably broke up for a very small reason. We were in distace relationship but I found a job then moved to next to her.. I can't recover my mind and consciousness to go back my old happy and peaceful days despite having toxic relationship. I didn't love her so much while we had been in full of insecurity and mistrust but on spite of all these, I feel myself truly ruined then I have lost my job.. As if a new age has begun for myself.. How can I overcome this tumultuous and frustrating situation as quickly as possible? I can't go through this period since my soul has been destoyed and overly consumed..

[ohsheeT]

Okay so first of all you have to understand what's going on here in life when we feel something nobody can give us that feeling because they're not inside of us we can only feel what we feel because we feel it on the inside of us what you have to understand is what you're feeling you're only feeling yourself you're making yourself feel this way people say she made me feel this way or she made me feel that way no she didn't what she did is she opened up that door she allowed you to experience a new part of you when people fall so deep in love and their body hurts on the inside they can't eat they can't sleep what you need to understand what that is is that person to open up that door for you to experience that depth of love that love is inside of you no matter what we do in life it is an experience we have to experience things to understand them to become them if you understood this you would think her and say thank you for allowing me to experience Something Beautiful thank you for allowing me to understand because see that's where you're headed to next you're headed for another experience you have recovered you just don't know it because you don't understand what you're recovering from look at all this as a positive everything you did it cannot be negative because you allowed it to happen you made that choice to make it happen so thank yourself for it Shake It Off quit looking at things negative because nothing is negative it was a growing it was a learning experience thank her for allowing you to experience this with her thanks her for opening that door for you that you could experience because you're the only one that can experience you're the only one that can feel it I don't know if you're understanding what I'm trying to say but bro we are all energy inside and when you plug yourself into something everything lights up right well that's what happened to you she allowed you to plug yourself in to experience it so now the next time you get into another relationship your love has grown 20 Folds whatever the pain that you're feeling is is in all reality the love that you have the offer

[Notcreativenough]

You'll have to first make peace with the fact that this will certainly not be a short experience for you, nor should it. The second thing I would reccomend you do is look internally at the role you played in the toxicity of the partnership as very rarely is a toxic relationship one sided. This question is absolutely riddled with blame and gives a flavour of you trying to run from your own thoughts, as if you have an idea of your responsibility but have yet to admit it to yourself. Your suffering in this situation was gaurenteed either way and you chose the better of the two by leaving. Now you have to own your choice like a man, take the week off work and dig deep. I wish you the best of luck.

[jaadu_14]

It will take time... w time you will be healed... I can understand your situation... you can't get rid of so easily man... it just starts now it will just kill uh from inside everyday but with time you will be healed dw in one month you will feel better... do meditations listen to music and go play w kid and uk spend time w yo love ones share yo problem w yo best friend and write down on diary whatever comes in to mind it really works and accept this situation and last but least if you can't forget her then replace her lollll just flirt w other girls 🤣😐

[BlueScorpio]

Stop trying to force yourself to get over it so quickly. That's the problem, people won't let themselves feel in order to heal they just want to rush the feeling of sadness or heartbreak off to seem not bothered when they are. Then they jump in another relationship and wonder why that one fizzles out just as fast. It's fine to feel heartbroken and sad, it's normal, don't pin those emotions up, let them flow. That's how you get over a break up eventually.

[Chris_Morgan]

Breakups are always painful and they leave you with an empty feeling inside. You can't rush the recovery. The longer you're away from your ex, the better you're gonna feel. Try to avoid alcohol, over-eating, doing any kind of drugs or anything extreme because the last thing you want to do is self-destruct. try to get sleep and take care of yourself while your system heals from this emotionally traumatic experience.

It just takes time.

[PetiteBabe64]

You just need to relax and take a nap.
Take some sleep pills do it every day sleep day and night if possible. Smoke some weed
Eat good food and good Drink and let your mind recover while your sleeping.
Healing takes time but thinking about it is making the healing impossible. So you need to Not think and Sleep sleep sleep.

[Sorrento-Sun]

Sorry you feel this way. Nothing worse than feeling your soul is destroyed.

You'll feel oveewhelwnded just now, so set small achievable goals to build a new life for yourself. Don't think too far ahead. Try to focus on getting through one day at a time.

[Danny_dan92]

You can’t recover from it BECAUSE it was a toxic relationship. Just let that sink in for a second.


The same way a part of you wanted her gone, the other half wanted to stay. Why? For the pussy? Look man, it really ain’t worth thinking too much about it and let the whole situation bring you down.


Just keep moving, do things you been wanting to do. Be free, go do shit that makes you happy.


Pussy will come later, hopefully from women that are better than her

[Anonymous]

I was cheated on by one of my exes and it really screwed me up. Was turning me in a direction I knew had to stop and then I read Mode One by Alan Rodger Currie.

That book saved me, was honestly like being talked down from a ledge and having someone make sense out of everything with you.

[jillybeanns]

You should probably seek profession help from a therapist. ❤️

[maximumpower]

Can't or won't?
Get over it. There are more fish in the sea.
Unfortunately, there are more toxic ones there, as well.
Be thankful you're not like me and married the f***ing bitch.

[Notcreativenough]

Take your own advice? It's just marriage, no amount of money or things lost in the world is worth the amount of pain you displayed in your short response.

[carlgpfeifer]

I just had split up with my ex wife it was toxic only way too recover from breakup with girl is put on some music on and relax for while

[Anonymous]

Its called mindfulness look it up.. I'd say meditation. Also invision other things happening that will bless you. If its really bad pray to the lord, for his protection.