What happens when a dumper isn't able to move on?

[Anonymous]

If a dumper ends a relationship and tries to move on by dating other people and exploring new options, what happens if deep down, he knows he still loves dumpee? If the new people he's talking to and dating wanted something more serious, would he be able to give that to them or would that be considered emotional cheating if he is still thinking about the ex?

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so if my ex wanted me back... i would be a back up

[Anonymous]

My kids teacher has a great dumper.

I dumped my ex because she was cheating for a year while I was out working for our future, we have a kid together. I still love her and miss her but she crossed the line, its been 4 years. Anyway between my kid and work I haven't had time. e to get serious with anyone yet. I've a pretty active sex life but to my shame even some of the women I pick up in bars or date for a while when we have sex ot kinda feels like I'm cheating, like sometimes during sex I picture my ex. Often I have to imagine it's my ex, like I was seeing this one 18 year old girl who was absolutely perfect, stunning, gorgeous tight body I just got hard looking at her so I was pumping away at her from behind and she was loving it, I reached around and rubbed her clit and she squirted pushing my dick out of her as she came but I couldn't cum so I jerked of over her gorgeous plump ass but I had to picture it was my ex's ass to cum and this has happened a few times with other women with me having to imagine it's my ex to get off. My ex was average looking, pretty in the face, big tits a little belly etc as she got older and had a kid. The girls I date now are way younger and hotter than my ex but I just wish she hadn't cheated, all I ever wanted was a family, its like someone took it away from me.

[Bethany22]

I would go out with men even though I still want things to work out with my dumpee, in hopes I'll find one that does take my mind off him

[Asker]

if you're the dumper, why not just reach back out to dumpee if you want things to work out? i'm sure that would make him very happy...

[Bethany22]

Because he doesn't want to get any closer than we already are.

[Mafia24]

It's called back up plan...
No love.

[Asker]

So the new people would be the back up plan? Wouldn't the dumpee be the back up since he left dumpee?

[Mafia24]

You're too innocent 😘..

I mean if dumpee come back to the girl he dump it's means dumpee girl is a back up girl

[Mafia24]

Exactly ma'am

[Asker]

that's so fucked up lol. i want my ex back and now i can't even do that because i don't wanna be a back up😂

[Mafia24]

Aww there is life beyond ex
Kiss ya cheeks 😘