How does the dumper feel?

[ghaithch]

So my ex broke up with me for unknown reasons, I heard the same excuses “ it is not you, it is me. Or. I am not ready for a relationship” so I have feeling like shit for the past 2month. However, we cross roads in collage and she seems really happy
So is that an act in public or is she really happy without me. And does she really don’t miss me after 8 month of dating

[Kkstarzz96]

If they feel remorse from hurting others than they won't shut you out but there are people who put themselves first, because people come and go and in the time they spent entertaining a relationship that has already been broken, they could have been getting to know someone else. I don't really think about it that way, just cause you say you're done, you may be done with certain behaviors from that person but you understand they are still a person and it's not your call to judge them as worth your time or not, just if you said things that made her uncomfortable or pushy begging for something or uncalled for attention seeking, other than that it's fine to talk to anyone. She may not even be looking and just enjoying life as herself but knowing the moment she starts to talk to a guy it's like suddenly you have decisions to make that don't need your full focus, but as a woman, all I can think about is the guy if he is showing interest in me. I'll only push someone away if it doesn't make sense at all. One time a guy I never met irl but online kept messaging me if we could go out and he lives like super far away and he wanted me to come over etc. But I wasn't looking for that I want someone to give a shit about me not just a good time. So sometimes we think guys only reach out again for sex, which is okay but it shouldn't be your only motivation cause we read that after a few times and realize this isn't going anywhere.

[ghaithch]

I understand completely but I didn’t reach out for sex
I reached out to give her stuff back and she told me to throw them away.
Second time was to talk about what happened
And than for unknown reason she threatened me with legal actions.
Now all I am asking is did the relationship mean nothing to her does she really not miss me. I should stop thinking about that, but i can not.

[Kkstarzz96]

Its hard to say cause people are different when they're a partner and getting what they want and when they no longer want you either at that time or in general, they change and can become sour or respect you and consider your feelings even though they don't affect her own anymore since you guys are broken up. I have an ex like that, I wish Any day he'd ask for us to talk and explain why he avoided me so hard after we split like to this day, but he only talks when he's mad and sometimes he gets mad for reasons indicating he wants to "win" our breakup by being the coldest yet not wanting me to move on like manipulation. It's selfish in my opinion cause I want all my exes to be better off without me so it's worth it that we broke up. If they are still upset or I upset them then imagine how they treat others who inconvenience them. I'd say she's a bitch and to let her be a bitch and you enjoy yourself

[WhitneySnow]

Her reasons are legit. She may be happy without you or she may be missing you. Really hard to tell.

[JuanVelasco2]

Women easily overcome the breakup, this is because in ancient times, the woman looked for the man to provide protection from the dangers of nature, if another man killed her partner, the woman had to go with the murderer so as not to be alone and not die. Because of this, the woman will not miss you unless you were her first love, or you are a high value man.

[Anonymous]

She feels bad while in eye sight of you or for 5sec after you text/call… she ended it for a reason.

Instead of dwelling on answers you’ll never get/understand/accept imagine she had your best interests at heart and be grateful she did the right thing for you.

Move on and don’t give it anymore of your time.

[Iron_Man]

Well first of all do you see her hanging out with another guy? Who knows usually women are miserable when they break up

[ghaithch]

No but she is hanging out with a lot of people.

[Iron_Man]

Are these new people

[ghaithch]

No they are not

[Iron_Man]

Maybe you should call her back up again and see what happens

[ghaithch]

Yeah I tried that she got super mad to a point where I got threatened by legal actions 😂

[MrsTurkleton]

Not necessarily. It depends on how she felt about the guy & how she viewed the relationship

[Iron_Man]

Oh wow that’s horrible I guess it’s time For you to move on to a better girl that’s good for you

[ghaithch]

That is the plan but how can I stop feeling bad every time I see her

[Iron_Man]

When you start talking to another girl and dating her you’ll feel a lot better try to avoid the areas that she goes into

[Avicenna]

Often very bad. Sometimes relieved.