I think my ex changed because of me and it hurts to see him love another woman?

[Anonymous]

I didn’t have concrete proof but I had enough proof to believe that he betrayed me and I was devestated. The list of things he did to hurt me is long, but one thing that sticks out is that I remember him telling me out of anger that if I got pregnant he wouldn’t take care of the baby. He apologized later, but the damage was done that he would even say that- ithurt so badly to have something like that thrown in my face. The current woman he is with has kids that aren’t his, so it’s like a slap in the face towards me. It never stopped hurting that he threatened to abandon me with a baby if I got pregnant from being with him. When he did apologize he seemed genuinely sorry so I forgave him. But now to see him with her it feels like it was me specifically that he just acted like that towards. But despite making a comment like that he seemed to trust me and love me. He cried to me, he confided in me, he seemed to love me. But after he betrayed me I tried to convince myself that he never cared. Some years after we broke up he hmu trying to make up. I didn’t take him back. His tone on Facebook seemed to change after that. He started to talk as if he had sense. He didn’t joke about hurting people or being a liar. He seemed to then suddenly value being a good person. He even made post saying he was going to change and be a better man. Then he got with this new girl and seems like those changes stuck. He probably came into the relationship a more mature man. I have no way of knowing for sure, but I feel like he made his decision to be “better” all of a sudden based on me not taking him back and holding him accountable for the things he did. He seemed like he just suddenly flipped a switch after that. And even though it’s a good thing it hurts. Because I feel like I had to sacrifice and take the loss despite how hard I did love him and how hard I tried with him in order for him to actually change. I feel like I had to be the test dummy

[fembotnpc777]

Did he really change though? At any rate, he sounds incredibly stupid to not put a baby in you and raise some guy's kids. It's like his mission was to prove to the universe that he sucks, and he won.

Find someone with better genes to be the father, seriously. This guy has developmental issues, you don't want kids like that.

[AdithyaR]

I'm guessing the breakup with you was the point when he realised he's not being a good person to the ones he loved and decided to get help and better himself.
Sometimes that's how it is, we need to lose something to realise that we gotta work on ourselves.
Don't stay hung up on the past and comparing it to how he is now. You should try to do the healthy thing and move on.

[Guy13]

You raised and trained him and I am sure he realizes it...

[Anonymous]

You are valuable. You a truly worthy of a man treating you the way you deserve. Honestly let this prick go. He was never worth your precious time. You are way better than him. Most times God (if you believe) has a different course for us to take. Most times it isn't how we want it to be. But you must believe you are worthy of the best. 💜

[boggboss]

Why are u keeping up with his life u are hurting yourself by doing that

[Asker]

I try to stop looking but sometime I just feel anxious when I don’t look like I had to see what happens next. I wanted closure from a lot of the things he did that hurt me. And the more I look the more I wish I could say I’m proud of him because I really did love him and I always wanted him to be happy. So I know I shouldn’t look at his page anymore and I should let go but the more I see the more it hurts because it’s ironic how I wasn’t worth it when he had me to treat me the way he is treating somebody else. And I can’t help asking god like why don’t I deserve to be happy? I did the work, I loved him correctly and Ik I did because the way he damaged me from breaking my heart changed me and made me afraid to love that hard again. I know how it feels to love somebody correctly because of my inability to love anybody currently and how drastically the changes are. Like I changed too only for the worst. And it feels like he is being rewarded with a happy ending while all I get is more hurt. And I know it’s not healthy and I need to heal and let go. I want to start today because I want to change for the better too. I really do

[boggboss]

If u do delete and block him u won't get closure he was simply a different person when he was with u and changed from that relationship thats the end of it its pointless wishing for the past

[Asker]

And I know he wasn’t right for me but it’s easier to admit it than it is to deal with how it actually feels. It hurts. I changed too only it’s not for the better. It’s from the pain from the things he did or didn’t do with me. It doesn’t feel fair

[boggboss]

Life's not fair lol all u can do is learn from this situation

[Asker]

Your right