Should we stay together or go separate ways?

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We’ve been dating for just a little more than half a year. Our personalities don’t really match up most of the time, but we do have just one or two common interests. I tend to get upset easily by the small things he does or doesn’t do, but then I’d think maybe my expectations for him are just too high. For example, I learned how to knit for him so I could give him a scarf for his birthday. He only wore it once on the day of and never after; it’s been more than two months. My parents and friends always say that I do too much for him, that I’m too naive. I’ve tried to break up with him a few times but he cries every time which makes me feel bad and then we just continue like before. I just can’t stop myself from doubting his feelings for me, and my own for him as well. I want to break up, but at the same time I’m afraid that both of us would fall apart if that happens.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Ok I think knitting is a wonderful thing to learn. But expecting Alan to wear a scarf you knitted, no, not going to happen. I hate putting it this way but it’s embarrassing as a man. That’s like when women want you to take candy bars to your work to sell them for your children. Or to ask your man to pass out a catalog trying to sell holiday items for your kids fun raiser. To me knitting was more for you, I’m sure he could live his life perfectly happy if you never ever learned to knit. So just exactly what other things do you do that your friends and family feel you do too much for him? Please don’t say I pay bills, because any man who is worth something doesn’t care about those types of things. They don’t care about your career or how much you make either. That’s a female thing in most cases. Now as for him because it sounds like I’m just bashing you. You need to leave this dude, women don’t have respect for men who cry. I mean if he cried cause his mom died I can see that. But if he’s constantly crying the way you make it sound, no this dude has to go. Women say it’s ok for men to cry, yes but to what degree. A lot of women have admitted that after they seen their man cry they looked at him differently, not in a good way.

slatyb · Accepted Answer

This is simple. If you have to ask, it's time to break up.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I know majority when reading your post are going to say “ duh break up” but I think you like him also he likes you. Your love toward him might not seem fully 100% for many reasons one can be because you want to explore more when it comes to love and life. Another reason can be that you are simply not ready so your brain rejects this relationship. Love comes into a different form and shape when you like a men “feeling bad” about him is also s good sign indicator that you would feel guilty if you break up with him. Also another thing because you saw the weakest side of your boyfriend him crying now you see yourself as the -leading one- that can affect the relationship maybe try and be vulnerable or sad about something and watch how your boyfriend acts? If you ask him what if you break up with me than what? See what his says.

Intimacy can’t be fully romantic as Hollywood movies remember that’s because once we hit 30s 40s etc our face changes we no longer look sexy or handsome etc
Find someone with good qualities a men who cares for you ,
Again that’s my opinion honestly if you think you really can’t do this anymore than yes break up. You can’t force yourself to be with someone that’s crazy

Musiclover33 · Accepted Answer

Take it from me who went down that road for 7 years. You don't wanna waste your time on someone who isn't gonna appreciate you. I know it's gonna be excruciatingly difficult, but you should let him go so you can stop wasting your time and find someone out there who will appreciate you and all you bring to the table. You need to and should get back the effort you're putting in.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Just needed to read the second sentence. It’s over. Break up

Anonymous · Answer

when i first met that witch 5 years ago i asked her if she could knit me a scarf or a sweater since she was into knitting at the time. of course she didn't but that's how narcissistic jerks like her are

In_Trance · Answer

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