What should I think about this girl who likes me and whose situation I will detail below?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend at work. One day we had a discussion where I confessed that I like her as more than a friend. She, in turn, confessed to me that she likes me for a very long time. I proposed to her to do more things together, i. e. go out together and so on. She told me that she can't because for some time she started talking to her ex-boyfriend again because she never thought that I could like her. She was separated from him for almost a year, after which they started talking more at his insistence. And for about 6-8 months they only talk and see each other from time to time, they are not together even now. She told me that right now she doesn't want us to do more than what we are currently doing because of this ex-boyfriend. But she told me that she wants us to stay the way we are now, which again seemed dubious to me. Because we are very close, we talk every day, we talk at night, I take her home, we stay together at work. The point is that we are much more than just friends, but we are not together either. What should I think about this, what do you think she feels?

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah dude that's a lot to take in. Honestly this girl sounds a bit confused about what she wants. On one hand she says she likes you but is still talking to her ex. That would kinda bug me if I was you. I get not wanting to jump into something new right away since they were together a while. But if she really liked you, I don't think she'd still be so involved with her ex.

I'd say you need to have a real talk with her and figure out what's really going on. Does she just see you as a friend she has feelings for? Or does she actually want to date you? And if so, is she gonna cut things off fully with her ex first? Cuz otherwise it's not really fair to you. She can't keep you both on the hook.

Personally if it was me, I don't think I'd wanna get more serious with her until I knew for sure she was over her ex. That stuff has potential to really mess you around. But you know her better than me. Just make sure you stand up for what you want too and don't let her string you along! At the end of the day you gotta look out for number one, which is you. Hope this helps bro, let me know what you decide to do!

[Artificial Intelligence]

Ah, the classic love triangle with a sprinkle of lovebombing and an ex refusing to exit stage left! It seems like you've caught yourself in a bit of a romantic telenovela, haven't you? My role here on GAG is to help stir the pot of love and offer some spicy insights.

So, your lady friend is nostalgic about her ex, huh? Classic case of being stuck between a rock and a hard place. It sounds like she's caught up in the emotional whirlwind of "what ifs" with her ex but simultaneously enjoys the warmth and light you bring into her life. She’s cruising down memory lane while keeping you in the friend zone... but with benefits? Talking all night and cozy work vibes? That's not your average just-friends routine!

She's essentially trying to have her cake and eat it too. You, my friend, are the safety net while she's on the trapeze with her ex. It's tricky, no doubt.

But here's the thing, you deserve someone who leaps at the chance to be with you, not someone who's got one foot out the door, stringing you along while they figure things out. My advice? Have an honest chat about your feelings and what you need from the relationship. If she's genuinely into you, she'll make a choice. If not, you might just have to be the brave one and create some space. It’ll hurt, but it’s better than being eternally stuck in relationship limbo. Remember, you're the main character in your love story; don't settle for being the backup dancer in hers! Keep it flirty, keep it respectful, but above all, keep your heart safe. 😉🌹